Rareroblox Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 (edited) So, my crush texted me that she wanted to play a game with me and I said "Okay." and then she said How about 21 questions and them I'm like sure. So we play the game and then it gets to a question where it is like 3 words to describe your crush. I answered and I will provide the text in the pictures, and then I told I liked her. I think she got angry if you see in the texts and now she won't reply to me anymore. What should I do? I need replys fast. Thanks, Greg Edited June 21, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
VeveCakes Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Mmm that was dumb on her part and she was totally leading you into that happening. I wouldn't think twice about someone playing you that way. 2
basil67 Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Sorry, I don't click on random links due to virus risk. Can you add the words to your thread?
BigShel Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Damn. She got uncomfortable real quick lol. Don't feel bad bro. You let her know how you feel with no regrets. 2
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 Sorry, I don't click on random links due to virus risk. Can you add the words to your thread? Her: 3 words to describe your crush Me: Beautiful, smart, very funny, and which to the person I am talking to right now. Her: Me? Me: Yes. Her: You know I am dating *Boyfriend's name* right? Me: Yeah, and I'm not trying to ruin it or anything. Her: Ok just making sure but I just want to let you know that we need to just stay friends and only friends... Me: Yeah. Again, I am not trying to ruin anything. Her: Ok... Me: Wanna Continue with the game? Her: Not really... Me: Okay. Pretty much after that, she doesn't reply back to my texts anymore.
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 Damn. She got uncomfortable real quick lol. Don't feel bad bro. You let her know how you feel with no regrets. So, what should I do? Should I stop texting her? I mean I really like her, but I don't want her to feel angry at me.
VeveCakes Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Yes stop texting her, she's leading you on. She has a boyfriend. She's playing with your emotions - she knew you were going to say she was your crush. She sucks. Lots of other single girls out there. You want a gf that texts guys who are crushing on her while she has a bf? 2
Teddius Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 So, what should I do? Should I stop texting her? I mean I really like her, but I don't want her to feel angry at me. Consciously you may have not have wanted to ruin things for her and her mate, but subconsciously, your agenda may have been otherwise. Nevertheless, the dynamics of your friendship with her may now be significantly altered, OP. As she may now feel morally obligated to disclose your confession to her boyfriend (who, when in the know, may have strong feelings against her remaining a "friend" to you) prior to responding to you. Stop reaching out to her.
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 Consciously you may have not have wanted to ruin things for her and her mate, but subconsciously, your agenda may have been otherwise. Nevertheless, the dynamics of your friendship with her may now be significantly altered, OP. As she may now feel morally obligated to disclose your confession to her boyfriend (who, when in the know, may have strong feelings against her remaining a "friend" to you) prior to responding to you. Stop reaching out to her. But the thing is, I guess she kinda forced me to as VeveCakes said. Also, I told her in a TBH a while back, she was beautiful, very funny, and smart and couple of more things, and if I said that to her in the 3 things to describe your crush, she will find out that I said this in a TBH a while back and she is probably gonna know I am her crush and probably ask me.
ChocolateRain Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Her: 3 words to describe your crush Me: Beautiful, smart, very funny, and which to the person I am talking to right now. Her: Me? Me: Yes. Her: You know I am dating *Boyfriend's name* right? Me: Yeah, and I'm not trying to ruin it or anything. Her: Ok just making sure but I just want to let you know that we need to just stay friends and only friends... Me: Yeah. Again, I am not trying to ruin anything. Her: Ok... Me: Wanna Continue with the game? Her: Not really... Me: Okay. Pretty much after that, she doesn't reply back to my texts anymore. Maybe she knew you had a crush on her and she did do this deliberately (Game) so she can end the situation somehow . Girls are very inventive when it comes to getting rid of someone ... maybe was her way of telling you to keep your distance ... (?)
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 Maybe she knew you had a crush on her and she did do this deliberately (Game) so she can end the situation somehow . Girls are very inventive when it comes to getting rid of someone ... maybe was her way of telling you to keep your distance ... (?) I know my friend told her that I liked her before.. Maybe that is why?
katiegrl Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 OP what is your goal here? She has a boyfriend and has told you she doesn't want to continue your friendship.... That pretty much says it all don't ya think? What are you hoping to accomplish... for her to change her mind? She has a boyfriend and is not available! I don't see as you have any choice other than to accept it and move on....
smackie9 Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 OK this is what I see....she had a gut feeling that you are crushin on her so she came up with this idea to play 21 question to get the info out of you. You tell her, she set a boundary that you are just friends and not to take it any further than that. She has totally friends zoned you, and as usual you caught feelings, and she isn't interested. OK so now that she knows you are hanging out with her for the soul purpose of waiting in the wings til she breaks up with her BF, she wants none of that....she probably won't be talking to you anytime soon. Yes I agree you are gonna have to accept having to moving on. Tip: if you like a girl, ask her out right away. You don't hang out, do everything for her, answer every text, etc for months on end. That's the cowards way to find a girl. Girls like confidence, and aguy that is bold enough to show his interest in her right off the bat. If she has a BF stop wasting your time, go after someone who is single.
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 OP what is your goal here? She has a boyfriend and has told you she doesn't want to continue your friendship.... That pretty much says it all don't ya think? What are you hoping to accomplish... for her to change her mind? She has a boyfriend and is not available! I don't see as you have any choice other than to accept it and move on.... I get it, but why would she be angry if I told her she was my crush? I get she is not available, I get all of that part. But, I don't get why would she be angry if I told her she was my crush?
VeveCakes Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 It's a game. Who cares why, she is messing with you and probably laughing with her friends. Forget her!
katiegrl Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 I get it, but why would she be angry if I told her she was my crush? I get she is not available, I get all of that part. But, I don't get why would she be angry if I told her she was my crush? I don't think she sounded angry at all.... You told her you were crushing on her and out of respect for her boyfriend and their RL, she is not comfortable continuing with the friendship.... That is what any good committed gf would do.... and frankly I for one have a lot of respect for her for doing that....
katiegrl Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Not sure if she was playing a game... Sounds like she suspected she was your crush, so asked you about it, you confirmed. It was her way of putting an end to the friendship because she has a boyfriend, and again out of respect for HIM, she's just not comfortable with your friendship anymore. She didn't sound angry at all.... Just matter of fact. Done, the end.
lolablue17 Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Let me explain something out of my own experience - I know girls + women who said to me "I don't want anything romantic with you, just friends" in a situation which I have never ever made a move, or even had any interest in them, or gave them a tiny hint that I'm interested at all. My conclusion is simple. SOme girls just like to say this sentence. They like to be desired, and to say "No, just as friends". You were just a tool to boost her ego, she's created the situation deliberately. Let her search for other victims.
katiegrl Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Let me explain something out of my own experience - I know girls + women who said to me "I don't want anything romantic with you, just friends" in a situation which I have never ever made a move, or even had any interest in them, or gave them a tiny hint that I'm interested at all. My conclusion is simple. SOme girls just like to say this sentence. They like to sbe desired, and to say "No, just as friends". You were just a tool to boost her ego, she's created the situation deliberately. Let her search for other victims. So then why did she cut it off after he confirmed he was crushing on her? I mean, if all she wanted was to be desired, and for him to boost her ego... wouldn't she want to remain friends with him then? Why cut that off? The ego boost, the attention? Makes no sense other than once he confirmed she was his crush, again out of respect for her bf and their RL, she is not comfortable being friends with a guy who is crushing on her....
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 Not sure if she was playing a game... Sounds like she suspected she was your crush, so asked you about it, you confirmed. It was her way of putting an end to the friendship because she has a boyfriend, and again out of respect for HIM, she's just not comfortable with your friendship anymore. She didn't sound angry at all.... Just matter of fact. Done, the end. Well, when she started this texting, she said "Would you like to play a game?" and I said, Sure..
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 So then why did she cut it off after he confirmed he was crushing on her? I mean, if all she wanted was to be desired, and for him to boost her ego... wouldn't she want to remain friends with him then? Why cut that off? The ego boost, the attention? Makes no sense other than once he confirmed she was his crush, again out of respect for her bf and their RL, she is not comfortable being friends with a guy who is crushing on her.... The thing is, I am still friends with her as she said, "I just want to let you know that we need to just stay friends and only friends...". I am also not trying to ask her out, since that is messed up..
katiegrl Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 The thing is, I am still friends with her as she said, "I just want to let you know that we need to just stay friends and only friends...". I am also not trying to ask her out, since that is messed up.. Those are just words and mean NOTHING. She only said that so as not to lead you on.... it is the opposite of what everyone else is saying. What do her actions tell you? She has stopped communicating with you.... she wants to move on. And she wants you to move on also.... otherwise she would still be talking to you.
Author Rareroblox Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 Those are just words and mean NOTHING. She only said that so as not to lead you on.... it is the opposite of what everyone else is saying. What do her actions tell you? She has stopped communicating with you.... she wants to move on. And she wants you to move on also.... otherwise she would still be talking to you. We are talking to each other now. What should I do now?
katiegrl Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 We are talking to each other now. What should I do now? Move on..... it is obvious how into this chick you are....and for the umpteenth time, SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND.
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