Can't shake this situation from my head

[Zachc]

So there was a girl that I liked for years, we both ended up finally single and looking so I finally got the courage to start talking with her and we spoke for months then I asked her out and she said yes but wasnt sure on a date (I suggested them)

 

After a few weeks we finally went on a few dates and got pretty frisky at the end of the last one, all the times we spent together were actually amazing and we were a good fit.

 

After the last meet I said about meeting again and she said yes but "she's pretty busy all week" from then she started pulling away and would chat to me over the phone or text but when it came to meeting was "too busy".

 

After one last time we arranged to meet she cancelled pretty last minute because she was too tired.

 

I'm not that much of an idiot so I told her that this isn't what I want, as I want to move towards a relationship and it felt like im only there now when she has nothing better to do... I said I'd atleast like to still be friends and if she wants to message me, and she just blanked me and never responded.... This was 2 weeks ago and it's been playing in my mind over and over since then.

 

I need some advice on - did I do the right thing? I feel like she was never really interested.

 

How to get her out of my head?

 

Why did she go cold after we were getting so close and why did she just cut me off?

 

Is it totally dead, should I just walk away or do something?

 

Sorry that it's a bit ramblely and long however this is just my mind spilling out.

 

Thanks

 

Zach

[BigShel]

She got turned off at some point due to something you said or did. Or maybe a combination of the two. Think about it... If someone is really into you, do you think they would make excuses when it came to seeing you? She's simply not feeling it man. You negotiated your terms, so bravo on that account. But it seems like she didn't like those terms. What you gotta do now is start going out with other women. Hang out, have fun, hook up. That's it.

[LostOne08]

You did the right thing.

 

Unless you did or said something for her to completely shut down, your only option was to walk away. It's inexcusable to cancel set plans at the last minute for something as lame as being "too tired". Sure, emergencies happen and that's understandable, but being too tired is clearly just an excuse not to see someone.

 

Who knows her reasons for going cold? Apparently, it's just something that happens sometimes. Kudos to you for recognizing it and nipping it in the bud, though. You made it clear to her what you wanted in the relationship. She should have been equally as clear.

 

All you can do when she pulls away is walk away as well. Maybe she'll come back, realize she had a good thing going and reach out to you, but for now I would keep moving forward.

[PogoStick]

She realized she wasn't really attracted to you.

 

or another guy came into the picture.

 

Yes, it's really over, forever.

 

Erase her from facebook, her phone number, anything that will let you contact her. Don't try to be friends, she's not worth it.