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7 months.. my thoughts, my feelings

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Hi all.

 

It has been 7 months since my girlfriend broke off with me. She left me for someone else in fact.

 

It has been a tough journey. First 3 months was the worst, at the 4th month the pining begins to fade. I was getting used to being by myself. I wanted to meet new people but i just couldn't do it, so i choose to lead a life surrounding myself with family and friends only.

 

June was supposed to be our 3rd year anniversary, no contact from me or her, as i expected.

 

Then i woke up the next day i realised my feelings are still the same for her, i still love her deeply.

 

But the pining for her has switch to waiting for the day "she will leave my heart".

 

I no longer waiting for her to come around. What i want most is to be free from my past, to forget her completely and hopefully she will be able to leave my heart.

 

How is it going for you people?

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CDJ Established Member

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Perfectly summed up how I still feel (similar situation, too); it's been 10 months now.

 

I still miss her a lot and wish she hadn't been so damn nasty and cowardly. I'm torn between still having feelings for her and holding her in contempt (maybe even pitying her to some extent).

 

It's a mixed bag, really. But as I'm sure you're finding it, it takes time with lots of ups and downs, but bit by bit you get better.

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It's 6 months for me nearly 7! I still love him! Still wishing and hoping he will come back he will have a change of heart!

 

I still dream about him, I'm getting on with my life at the same time. I have days when I'm good and days when I feel crap today is a crap day I just woke up thinking about him and he hasn't left my mind all day.

 

fighting the urge to contact him and I haven't wanted to for such a long time.

 

Tomorrow is another day and I'm hoping it will feel good again

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6 months for me. I am feeling way better. weekends aren't a problem anymore. she dumped me btw. I still do get pissed off about what happened and the lies she told me, how she handled herself in the relationship. I guess its good that I am in the angry phase. There are times I just want to see her suffer bc of what she did. Its not nice to say, I understand but, I am the type of person that if you screw me over, lie, or whatever, I have no remorse. I do not care what happens to you and will never forgive you. Thats just me. I am like that because I do not treat people that way. I was raised different. You want to be a wild animal, I will treat you like one.

 

we just have to move on to the better one. Take these people that dumped us off the pedestal and realize they are nothing special. They are just human

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Densel Established Member

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I need to add.

 

There are a mixture of emotions in me.

I feel angry because of how she handled the break up, she was very disrespectful.

 

I feel guilty that I played a part in ruinning our relationship.

 

Then i feel confused, i wondered if what we had was real.

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kztar Established Member

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6 months for me and still a work in progress.

 

Ex reached out to me about a week ago with clear intentions of getting back.

 

I kindly declined his offer and will continue moving forward. Someone who disrespects you the way he did with me has no space left in my heart. There are still residual feelings but it will pass. Just like the darkest times after the breakup passed. I will maintain my dignity and self respect at all times.

 

Hang in there. :)

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keiji Established Member

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6 months for me and still a work in progress.

 

Ex reached out to me about a week ago with clear intentions of getting back.

 

:)

 

A big, standing ovation!!! Good for you!

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kztar Established Member

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A big, standing ovation!!! Good for you!

 

Thanks Keiji, hope things are much better for you as well.

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I don't know if you read my updates in the "how are you coping today?" thread, but yes, I'm doing quite well given the circumstances. Today I took the day off, bought some records and clothes, spent the afternoon with friends at the beach and now out for drinks and dinner. Taking care of myself basically. If she doesn't love me, I will!!

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It's been 5 months for me out of a 10 year relationship and I am still struggling. I just logged back into this site yesterday for the first time in a few months. I still love my ex and can't stop thinking about him and hoping we'll get back together. He too left me for someone else. All I feel is regret because I didn't commit to him when he wanted me to. I just can't believe he would replace me just like that. I have been going through the various stages of grief and my emotions are all over the place.

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kztar Established Member

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I don't know if you read my updates in the "how are you coping today?" thread, but yes, I'm doing quite well given the circumstances. Today I took the day off, bought some records and clothes, spent the afternoon with friends at the beach and now out for drinks and dinner. Taking care of myself basically. If she doesn't love me, I will!!

 

I love this. Continue moving forward and don't look back. It's a long road for all of us but we will get there eventually.

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It's been 5 months for me out of a 10 year relationship and I am still struggling. I just logged back into this site yesterday for the first time in a few months. I still love my ex and can't stop thinking about him and hoping we'll get back together. He too left me for someone else. All I feel is regret because I didn't commit to him when he wanted me to. I just can't believe he would replace me just like that. I have been going through the various stages of grief and my emotions are all over the place.

 

Go through this and embrace the pain. This is the only way that you will het it out. Im not in your shoes because that is a very LONG time. All I can tell you is Go through the emotions and let it all out. Time is your best friend here.

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I'm about to hit the 6 month mark after a 3 1/2 relationship break up. Its been rough and its only in the last 2 weeks, I wake up every morning not feeling like s**t. I still have depressing moments but I can feel my mind is slowly starting to pull away from what once was and move towards what is today.

 

Everyone has different timelines and thresholds. I'm learning it'll take me some more time, how much, I have no idea. My goal was to wake up and not feel the pain every single day. Currently that happens 5 out of 7 days so I'm happy I'm moving in the right direction.

 

I haven't been with anyone and I think being around some one new also greatly helps your recovery process.

 

Just gotta hang in there. I just saw a movie called "Slow West" and heard something that I think really would help us. "In short time, this will be a long time ago".

 

I keep repeating it to myself. We must keep our resolve and march forward.

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kztar Established Member

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I'm about to hit the 6 month mark after a 3 1/2 relationship break up. Its been rough and its only in the last 2 weeks, I wake up every morning not feeling like s**t. I still have depressing moments but I can feel my mind is slowly starting to pull away from what once was and move towards what is today.

 

Everyone has different timelines and thresholds. I'm learning it'll take me some more time, how much, I have no idea. My goal was to wake up and not feel the pain every single day. Currently that happens 5 out of 7 days so I'm happy I'm moving in the right direction.

 

I haven't been with anyone and I think being around some one new also greatly helps your recovery process.

 

Just gotta hang in there. I just saw a movie called "Slow West" and heard something that I think really would help us. "In short time, this will be a long time ago".

 

I keep repeating it to myself. We must keep our resolve and march forward.

 

I love that quote. Good luck moving forward. We WILL see the light again.

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Densel Established Member

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So many of us are still deeply in love with our ex even though months have passed.

 

I was sharing my thoughts with some of my friends.

3 of my friends totally understand my position. The rest were kind of "realistic".... they said things like 'move on', 'what is it that you cant let go' blah blah blah.

 

I feel very turned off by such comments. Its like they will never understand me.

 

So here its a good place to share my feelings. Only you people will know what I am going through.

 

I hope to share my progress along the way.

I am sure you guys will get stronger too.

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