Jinzo Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 (edited) Hello, Last month I met a girl, and it quickly became clear of how alike we were. We become best friends rather quickly. She had a bf at the time, so there was nothing romantic about 'us.' However, we did get close enough that we shared personal details of our past with each other. Last week, she told me her bf, who she had known since she was a kid and had been her best friend, cheated on her. She spent so much time telling me about how wonderful and amazing he was...and I honestly don't know if I believe her that he cheated. She then told me yesterday he came over and called her names and was rude. That made it even more fishy. She praised this guy so much, and suddenly he does all this? I just don't know. After she told me of his cheating, she proceeded to say "at least we can be affectionate now." I don't know if she was trying to make herself feel better or what. So for a few days we were affectionate (no sex involved), because I was too nice and didn't want to hurt her by rejecting her. I had considered that I was possibly a rebound, and I wasn't sure how much time she'd need to recover from his cheating, so I told her that I could no longer be affectionate and loving, that I'd rather only show that to the girl I'm with, and that when she was ready, my love was for her. She freaked out and acted like I had divorced her for a younger woman. She was so mad and told me I was being selfish. I have a theory about her actions, but I'd kinda like some other opinions. We are both in our 20s. Edited June 20, 2016 by Jinzo
ExpatInItaly Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 Forget this girl. She was using your "affections" to feel better about herself and get back at her boyfriend. 1
Author Jinzo Posted June 20, 2016 Author Posted June 20, 2016 Seems like the very common scenario where a girl tries to villify her significant other in order to make you feel good about cheating with her. I have run into many women who do this. I think her actions are signs of her own selfish nature, and the fact that she blew up on you gives you a god excuse to take your leave of her. Save your affection for a loyal woman who deserves it. I've never heard the word "villify" before. Does it mean get back at? Forget this girl. She was using your "affections" to feel better about herself and get back at her boyfriend. That's the thing...I don't even think she has said a word about me to him...or to ANYONE for that matter.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 I've never heard the word "villify" before. Does it mean get back at? That's the thing...I don't even think she has said a word about me to him...or to ANYONE for that matter. I didn't mean that she would necessarily tell him about you, but that to herself, she has taken revenge. She sounds like trouble. I'd stay away.
elaine567 Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 I've never heard the word "villify" before. Does it mean get back at? No, it means to speak or write about in an abusively disparaging manner.
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