BrainMangler Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 (edited) Basically this is a weird situation I was put in over the weekend and I've honestly never had to really deal with it. Basically I broke up with my ex back at the end of January. It was a pretty long relationship but my ex decided to cheat on me and I caught her as it was happening. Maybe I'm cold hearted but I simply said something like your stuff is in front of your house, we're broken up and told her I'm sure you can figure out it out. Didn't mention I knew who the guy was or anything but I thought it should have been obvious that I knew what happened and who the guy was. I honestly don't hate the dude or anything but it didn't have much to do with him. Fast forward to this weekend and me and my roommate are going out to this little hipster bar. We walk in through the side entrance and are walking through the outside patio area to get into the actual bar (the place is packed with every table taken). As I'm walking by I heard people mentioning my name and talking about me but when I turned to look I at first didn't recognize anyone but then realized one of the guys was the guy she cheated on me with. I didn't say anything and just walked into the bar because I didn't care. Now the guy follows me inside and waits right behind me. I look at him but didn't say anything. I figured he would realize I noticed him and leave as I really had nothing to say to him (I was trying to relax after dealing with the work week). He didn't leave so me and my buddy walk around to a different part of the bar and later on he follows us and is just on his phone by himself across from us. Finally I just got sick of the stalking and left to another bar. It's annoying though because I really like going to that bar, should I have simply told the guy to stop following me? Edited June 20, 2016 by BrainMangler
smudge21 Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 Maybe he caught something nasty and wants to know if you suffered the same? Or he only got with your ex to get with you... hey, it's a free world. Basically it is a weird situation. I'd have said something after a while. Maybe even played a bit dumb about it, but also not kicked off or anything. Better to show you have moved on. Maybe he felt bad and wanted to apologise, but of course found it hard to do so.
Toodaloo Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 It's annoying though because I really like going to that bar, should I have simply told the guy to stop following me? Yes. Basically. And don't let him stop you going back to that bar again. Sounds to me like he was trying to pluck up the courage to say sorry but couldn't quite get there. Keep up your indifference. It really does work.
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