jimmy30 Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 i met vegan girl, and I told her I'm vegetarian, she liked it, and the next day she found me on facebook and asked me about that vegan restaurant i told her about, so i took her out there that night! things were going great, except that she smelled alcohol on me, since i had a beer before i came (first mistake?). We went for a second date later, things were going great so she asked me to take her for a drink afterwards. She got drunk and started acting comfortable and happy around me. when we returned to the car, and i started touching her hair, and holding her hand, but the next day she told me she didn't like that, and i told her she was totally right and that it was my mistake (Second mistake)! she said she felt like she "misled me" and i dont know what that means. She gave me yet a third chance, and later she started giving me hints to take her out, but i ignored them and didn't take her out, because i stupidly thought she lost interest in me after what happened (third mistake) she gave me forth chance, so we went out for a third date. I told her that sometimes I do eat meat, and that I'm not 100% vegetarian yet, so she got really pissed off and thought i lied to her when I told her I am a vegetarian, and instead of keeping my cool, i gave her a sad face and she told me to stop that face, and she soon ordered the check. (4th mistake) yet she gave me a forth chance! The next day she told me she feels like going out for an after party, and instead of taking her out, i started talking about the day before and that I didn't appreciate what she did. it was from that moment on that i started to feel her interest level drop, and her texts getting shorter, and me persuing her... so i pulled back immediately. two days later, she was travelling (since she just comes here for vacation every couple of weeks), she sent a small text saying "im leaving, bye!" so i quickly tried to set a date before she leaves, but she sais she was "busy". since then it's been 1 week and we didn't text each other, i am just wondering if i should text her, since i was the one acting like a prick the whole time, or should i just give her the space to contact me?
basil67 Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 I believe that when a person is right for us, the relationship isn't full of misunderstandings. Yeah, there are some things you could have done better here, but none of them were really that bad. Sounds to me like she had you dancing at the end of strings. Forget this one and find someone who you mesh with better. 3
Emilia Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 i gave her a sad face and she told me to stop that face, and she soon ordered the check. Did she pay? Or has this been all on you financially? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 Your use of the phrase "she gave me a chance!" is a little odd. Do you feel you needed to prove something to this girl? Granted, showing up smelling of alcohol on the first date is a bit of turn-off, but given that it was one beer, I don't see the big deal. She sounds like she's otherwise looking for reasons to bail. Imagine what dating her would be like. You'd probably always be on eggshells, wondering if you've "made mistakes" again. I wouldn't bother trying to make this work. There have already been a couple bumps and you barely know each other. I'd focus my energies on finding someone you're more compatible with. 4
Author jimmy30 Posted June 20, 2016 Author Posted June 20, 2016 i paid! she invited me the first day, the second and third date i paid.
Emilia Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 I think you gave too much power away. Seeking her approval, paying, etc. How could you pay when she requested the cheque? That's just rude. I'm pretty sure there are nicer girls out there. 3
Author jimmy30 Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 so i was dating that girl, we dated a few times, no kissing or nothing happened between us, but there was kind of an attraction between us, we had some little misunderstandings though, regarding stupid stuff, and then i felt her back off, and she stopped pursuing me anymore, she doesn't text me, her replies to my texts got shorter and shorter... you got the point. so it's been one week we didn't talk to each other, and she traveled outside the country for work. do you think i should contact her , like send her a little text saying: "hey, how you been" or anything like that, or do you think i should just stop contacting her and let her come to me, and give her space to decide whether she wants to come back or not?
Larryville Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 do you think i should contact her No, unless you are looking in the mirror and thinking to yourself "damn I gotta text her cause I am completely out of options..." 1
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