therewasnoreply Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 The vast majority of the time, any given new person I meet is either not very interesting, or annoying. a few months ago at college this girl started hanging around me. She was annoying, at first, but I came to learn it was just because she liked me and was very nervous, but she seems to like me enough to persevere through that. (among other reasons). Though it's strange to me someone would keep hanging around me if I'm giving off signals of disinterest and indifference. After learning about her, I started to REALLY like her. I started to love her personality as she became comfortable around me. She's funny, pretty, and smart. We're starting to date now. Does anyone else experience this? I can admit part of it is I'm just a very anti-social *******, but it deeply concerns me that I have to really get to know people before I'm capable of liking them. This isn't the only instance, just the most recent one. The only person I can think of that I was instantly enamored with ever was my ex who dumped me last year. I'm just worried about my sensibilities and judgement since I'm still recovering from that. And I'm also kinda worried about my own neediness and stuff. The only thing I can think of is right now I'm just very defensive and closed off, but also needy enough to take anyone interested. Any thoughts?
DreamP Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 I am like that too. I have a difficult time connecting with new people. It's just my personality. I've tried to change, and have gotten better with age. I do very well in professional relationships because they are not deep or emotional. But I haven't made a new deep friendship is 10 years.
brittly42 Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 It's normal for any relationships to be slow to develop until individuals get to know each other- whether love, family, or friends. Your feelings may be confusing you, especially as you reflect over your past relationships, but please know you're not alone. Have you reached out to someone in your life, like a friend, parent, or pastor? They have likely observed your relationship and could give their personal advice on the situation that may you not have noticed because they are observing the relationship from a distance and are not actively involved. It's important to always, always have a support network. If you feel like your past relationship breakup is causing trouble too much to bear, have you considered reaching out to a counselor, too? They always have a listening ear and have training to help guide you through the healing process. hang in there!
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