juniorrocha Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Hey guys. I'm seeing this woman, been with her twice, and I like her so far. But there's one thing that's becoming a red flag for me due my previous relationship. She does something that my ex used to do: whenever a handsome guy is around, she simply won't stop looking. I.e.: we were at a restaurant and this guy was at the other table beside us, but not in her view. She would constantly look at his way, then look back to me. My ex use to do this quite often, I'd get pissed/insecure and tell her to stop looking at the other guy, as I found it very disrespectful. She would argue with me saying she wasn't looking at anyone, even though there were times there was absolutely nothing for her to look at beside the dude (once she said she was looking at the wall... ok then). Turned out later on I found out she use to flirt with other guys behind my back and cheat. I didn't say anything to this woman 'cause well, we're just getting to know each other. Should I be concerned about this or am I overreacting and putting past situations in my present? I wouldn't mind if someone drags her attention, then she looks but that's it. But looking constantly makes me feel very uncomfortable. 1
Gaeta Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 If you don't want to relive the past all over again then tell her it was a pleasure to meet her but you don't feel enough connection to continue and wish her luck. There are enough women out there for you to find one that does not carry your ex's annoying habits. 7
Author juniorrocha Posted June 20, 2016 Author Posted June 20, 2016 Yeah, I'm gonna do that. Don't really wanna see what comes out of it this time. Sometimes I just wonder if I'm insecure though... can't tell whether it's okay to feel like I feel or if I'm overreacting. 1
brothers343 Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 Find you another buddy.......you don't need the hastle or the disrespect. One who is really into you will not do those things. 3
Gaeta Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 Yeah, I'm gonna do that. Don't really wanna see what comes out of it this time. Sometimes I just wonder if I'm insecure though... can't tell whether it's okay to feel like I feel or if I'm overreacting. We are all insecure to a certain level. You wouldn't believe how insecure some of those Hollywood sex symbols are. That being said, if you know you are a little insecure then don't pick a lady that will constantly challenge that insecurity. There are interesting women out there that will be happy to give you their full attention. I am a very confident woman and on good days I qualify as being over-confident, if I had been on a date with a man and he'd turn around to observe other women it would have been the end of it. 4
Author juniorrocha Posted June 20, 2016 Author Posted June 20, 2016 We are all human, so you cannot expect your date to not notice or glance at someone attractive. This doesn't mean they should keep glancing over and over. I think she not only showed that she was more interested in that guy than she was in you, but she showed you how rude she was by not controlling herself. You should definitely pass on her if you are interested in anything meaningful. This is right, I could've done the same to any other attractive woman around, but I think it's disrespectful. Good thing I'm not the only one who feels this way. Ty guys. 2
bathtub-row Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 Doing that kind of thing when she's with another guy is just a subtle form of control. Don't put up with this. It's not about you being insecure, it's about you expecting to be treated with respect. There's nothing in the world wrong with that. 2
BrainMangler Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 The girl sounds disrespectful. I say ditch her. 1
Toodaloo Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 Its good to look at attractive people but a healthy relationship doesn't involve staring at attractive people... Look yes. Stare no. I find it quite fun to point out good looking women, it gives the guy a chance to have a look and not feel guilty about it and also pay me a compliment... "Oh you are right she does have great legs but no one has a bottom as sexy as yours..." then back to conversation... Its the staring and constantly turning round to look again. When people are happy with what they have they glance but they don't need to stare... Personally I should move on. You don't need to explain it just say you don't think its working out long term and good luck. 2
BigShel Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 You've only been with her twice? Get rid of her bro. That early on and she's already disrespecting your time with stuff like that? She's either a sex playmate at this point or just move on. Best of luck.
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