Becki Posted June 26, 2005 Posted June 26, 2005 How weird can life be? I just want peoples opinions on my new situation, so I can get my head out of cloud nine and see this from another angle. Outline: for those of you who dont know/didn't read the post, I was in a relationship for 2.5 years. The whole time I really truely did believe that I loved the guy, and maybe I did??? But since christmas this year things had gone weird and we were'nt "us". On the 26th of May he said he didn't want to be with me anymore. I was gutted, and for about 3/4 days I felt so **** about it all. Then after a week or two i started thinking, actually Im not sure if i did love you these last few months. We had grown apart anyway, but the icing on the cake was finding out he'd cheated on me 2 days before he split up with me. Anyway, when he told me, I think I already knew, and it just didn't hurt, i didn't really feel either way about it. I wished he could have split up with me first, but either way I knew we were coming to an end. Anyway, its now the 26th June (how ironic?) and ive been increasing becoming friends with a guy who works at my local pub. He's not usually someone I go for(looks wise), but hes sweet, funny, and basically everything I'd generally go for in a person..someone kinda like me! I did start thinkin that I really quite liked him, but I wasnt sure if it was just because I've just split up with my ex a month ago. But then i thought, well I really didnt care when i was told that my ex had cheated on me with the girl i expected it was. Friday went by and saturday came, and i went to the pub before the bar closed, and ended up in a lock-in. it wasnt my intention, as i was tired and was gonna go home, but it was so much fun! then we were messing around after someone had said they thought he was gay, and said i think im gonna have to proove this one, and he kissed me! i was kinda shocked, but i didnt read into it as i thought well hes been drinking and its 3am...but then this morning he texted me saying he really liked me, and he wanted me to go meet him (just for a talk ) at about dinner time. so i dragged me and my hangover out of bed, and we just talked about anything, it was wicked! I even got butterflies a few times, something i havent had for ages! Anyway basically, im askin you guys what you think, Im not looking for another relationship right now, well, i wasnt, im 19 and these last 3 weeks have been amazing! but i really wasnt looking for someone, but hes so perfect its just weird! So whats your opinions on this situ? i dont wanna rush things but i wasnt looking for another relationship, especially not this soon!! (sorry i know its long, i wasnt expecting i could type this much about something so trivial!)
Artscrafter Posted June 26, 2005 Posted June 26, 2005 Sounds like you might have something going. Try to step back for a moment and search yourself for why being with this guy is such a rush. If it's simply the feeling of being attracted to a guy again, then you might want to hold off on this. But if it's because you and he are really clicking, then it sounds like a good thing. People meet each other at weird times sometimes, whether or not they're trying for it. You say you're not "looking for" a new relationship right now, but are you willing to let one happen? As long as you're not specifically looking to be without a relationship for a while, then it could be worth a shot. So as long as you're not into this entirely because it's the possibility of a new relationship (which it sounds like you're not) then go for it!
crazy_grl Posted June 26, 2005 Posted June 26, 2005 Generally, 1 month isn't enough time to get over a 2 1/2 year relationship, especially when it's one where you were cheated on. Every situation is different though, so maybe you are. That's a big maybe though. I think it's great that you found this new guy, but you don't want to mess it up with him by starting a relationship if you're not over your last one. If you haven't come to terms with your last bf's cheating and why it happened, you take the chance holding it against this new guy. If you really like this guy, I think you should take your time.
Author Becki Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 Thanks guys, thats basically what i thought. I do honestly think i dont have any hang-ups over my ex. I always thought that if we'd split up my world would end, and for a day or two it did, but then i refused to sit and be sorry for myself and got back up and started going out! Like i said, even with this guy right now im not even sure what i want to happen/exactly how he feels over the situation! We've arranged to meet up a few times though over the next week or so, and I get butterflies whenever I think about it! Like i said, I felt emotionless when my ex actually told me slept with this girl, i didnt cry, i didnt pull a face, my heart didnt miss a beat and my stomach didnt turn. I honestly do feel that any love I might have for him died the day he broke it off, Ive had so much more fun, and Im just taking things as they come at the moment and so far its working out fine! But thanks for your opinions guys! much appreciated
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