cloudboy37 Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 (edited) Okay, honestly, I am thirsty haha. But I don't want to APPEAR that way. I'm in my hometown for the next two weeks and I talked to this super cute guy on Tinder and he wanted to hook up, which I'm okay with. I just want to meet once before I go so a connection is established (since I come back to visit fairly often). Anyway, basically we set up a time and he insisted that we meet that very night. So I was like "okay, 11?" and he was like "yeah that works!". Then he told me he's going to a movie with his friends so it might go a little past 11. -_- It went till 11:20 which was fine, but then he was like "I'm super tireddd, but we can still chill if you want!" so I was like "no its fine, we can reschedule if you're tired." Then he told me he didnt want to seem like a flake, so he'd be down if I wanted to and I was like "no its okay, we can reschedule!" and he was like "are you sure?" like three times and then finally agreed. SOOOOOO, he hasn't texted me since then (this was Friday night), so I'm guessing he just doesn't care if we meet or not. BUT I CARE xD If I text him, will it make me look super desperate since he's the one who canceled on me last time? Should I be mad/does he not respect my time? Or was it a genuine scheduling mishap? It seemed kinda genuine...anyway, thanks! xD Note: Keep in mind I only have two weeks or I could be more patient about this, but the time limit is making me anxious....lol Edited June 19, 2016 by cloudboy37 1
smackie9 Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Sounds to me he is waiting for you to reschedule. But IMO that isn't what is important here. What's important is how does this make you feel that he hasn't contacted you since? If it doesn't feel right to you, then don't waste your time. Remember to keep your head on straight...date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. Also go by their actions, not what they tell you. This guy hasn't made any effort so that should give you your answer. 2
losangelena Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 You're worried about appearing "thirsty" to a guy you're only hooking up with? Just text him! He's a hook-up, not some Romeo. If you want to see him, reach out. Ask him if he's free tonight and make it happen. I don't think the traditional rules of dating need apply when it's just sex on the table. Don't sweat this. 2
gkly Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 If he texted to keep you updated, something like, "I think we will be done in xyz mins," so you don't feel anxious, I would not mind reaching out first and scheduling to meet up. The way he texted, to me, it sounds like "I'm tired, but I can hook up if you want to." He insisted to meet that night but failed to keep his action in line. And if he didn't want to look like a flake, he would've texted you before 11pm. Also, he said he can meet you and asked you "are you sure?" three times, but you said it's ok. I wouldn't see that as you got cancelled on by him 100%. If you want only casual hook up (guessing from your action of agreeing to meet at 11 at night) while you are in the town, text him and enjoy hooking up. It feels like you have two contradicting thoughts. You want to hook up but want to be respected like a proper date (expecting him to initiate and pursue you). I'm not sure if guys establish a connection with hook up partners, because their mind functions differently from women. 1
Author cloudboy37 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 Oooooooooooh..............you guys are so right. T_T I don't hook up that much, so I think I just expect everything to be date-like. I guess it's a completely different culture and I shouldn't expect the same treatment I would from a guy was going to date. This makes me feel better about it all (and less self-conscious). xD Also @gkly, sorry I didn't include it, but he actually texted me around dinner time to tell me that he would be going to the movies and might be a few minutes late. You guys are so smart, aaaahhhhhhhhh! Thank you!
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