frus69 Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 (edited) If we read closely and if we don't jump to conclusion here is what we have. Years ago, when OP and her boyfriend were not yet BF and GF, this friend Michelle told OP's guy she saw him as a potential boyfriend. Now we continue reading closely and she says over the years OP's boyfriend kept telling her Michelle was still interested BUT did Michelle continue telling OP's boyfriend she was interested or it's simply OP's boyfriend ASSUMING she is still interested because she is being nice. Please note this Michelle moved on and is now in a relationship. There is a lot of assumption in this thread. YEARS ago she told him she viewed him as interesting - not that she was in love with him. Over the years OP's boyfriend kept updating OP that Michelle was still interested, how so? Did she hit on him? I don't think so, if Michelle had made one small move on her boyfriend it would be all over this thread !! You don't think it's a problem when OP's BF keeps telling her for years that this Michelle is interested ? What is his intention,do you think? Would you keep telling your BF your guy friend is interested, over the years? Remind him this and rub it in his face? Stop toleranting this behaviour OP, because you don't like it, don't need any other reason. Really don't need to get into a debate here. If my BF would have a problem with my guy friend I would stop/drastically reduce hanging out with that friend,no problem. Because its no brainer who I should choose between a guy friend and a BF Guess who he will choose, OP or Michelle? Edited June 20, 2016 by frus69 1
Gaeta Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 You don't think it's a problem when OP's BF keeps telling her for years that this Michelle is interested ? What is his intention,do you think? Would you keep telling your BF your guy friend is interested, over the years? Remind him this and rub it in his face? Stop toleranting this behaviour OP, because you don't like it, don't need any other reason. Really don't need to get into a debate here. If my BF would have a problem with my guy friend I would stop/drastically reduce hanging out with that friend,no problem. Because its no brainer who I should choose between a guy friend and a BF Guess who he will choose, OP or Michelle? OP has never given details of why her boyfriend thought Michelle was still interested. Is it for concrete reasons? or it is just in his imagination and he enjoys thinking a woman is pining for him? Again, if Michelle had done anything inappropriate OP would have exposed her on here. Second why would OP's boyfriend tell her Michelle is still interested? What motivates him to tell this to his girlfriend? Is is OP asking him or it's boyfriend volunteering this information. Is boyfriend's ego inflated and that's why he keeps repeating his girlfriend this Michelle is into him? Is it a way to brag? is it a way to make her jealous?
katiegrl Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 (edited) I think all our speculation etc is moot now anyway... the OP has not returned, my guess is she and her bf have worked it out, she realized she over-reacted, accepts their friendship and they will go on as they always did. Ya know, it is quite possible the OP was simply jealous. She posted about her bf spending five hours with this chick SEVERAL MONTHS AGO. Then she posts he spent six hours with her a few days ago. That is two times within a several month period! This last time, he was gone for six hours so she freaked out. Also, what doesn't make sense to me is that neither her bf OR this chick are married. If they both had feelings for each other, and were having an affair (for lack of a better word), why not just break up with their respective bf/gf and be together! What's stopping them, they are NOT married. That makes no sense to me.... The more I think about this, the more I think they are simply friends. The OP got jealous, freaked out, let her imagination get the best of her.... hence this thread. Edited June 20, 2016 by katiegrl 1
frus69 Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 OP has never given details of why her boyfriend thought Michelle was still interested. Is it for concrete reasons? or it is just in his imagination and he enjoys thinking a woman is pining for him? Again, if Michelle had done anything inappropriate OP would have exposed her on here. Second why would OP's boyfriend tell her Michelle is still interested? What motivates him to tell this to his girlfriend? Is is OP asking him or it's boyfriend volunteering this information. Is boyfriend's ego inflated and that's why he keeps repeating his girlfriend this Michelle is into him? Is it a way to brag? is it a way to make her jealous? First I guess OP may not know whether Michelle, or both of them, have done anything inappropriate. Second does it even matter why he thinks she's still interested at this stage? Its the fact that he thinks she's interested yet still hangs out with her constantly, yet keeps reminding his GF she's interested, whether to brag or to make her jealous, none of it is acceptable. I wonder who will be OK with this behavior? 1
katiegrl Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 First I guess OP may not know whether Michelle, or both of them, have done anything inappropriate. Second does it even matter why he thinks she's still interested at this stage? Its the fact that he thinks she's interested yet still hangs out with her constantly, yet keeps reminding his GF she's interested, whether to brag or to make her jealous, none of it is acceptable. I wonder who will be OK with this behavior? We DON'T know that he hangs out with her constantly. The OP said twice... once for five hours several months ago and last week for six hours. How does that translate to constantly? We have asked the OP for clarification and she had not returned. My guess is she realized she over-reacted...and is a bit embarrassed now...
katiegrl Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 (edited) We DON'T know that he hangs out with her constantly. The OP said twice... once for five hours several months ago and last week for six hours. How does that translate to constantly? We have asked the OP for clarification and she had not returned. My guess is she realized she over-reacted...and is a bit embarrassed now... Not to mention, he would not have even gone out with her a few days ago had the OP herself not broken their date..... Edited June 21, 2016 by katiegrl
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