Should I ask him out?

[Sunberry]

The times I ask guys out, they usually say no, or go ghost. So you can imagine my reluctance as you read into this dillehma:

 

I've started working somewhere new about a few weeks and have started to like this guy at work. I'm getting very mixed signals and don't know whether he feels the same or is just being extremely friendly.

 

He came up to me and asked me about my glasses. We spent about 10 min talking about eyesight, to which another coworker came and told them they were suppose to meet 5 min ago for a meeting and asked him what happened. He told them he was just talking and seeing how I was, and then the coworker goes..."uh huh...sure"

 

Another time he asked me where something went. Mind you, I've only been here a month and still haven't the faintest when it comes to a lot of things (and he knows that--he's been here longer). So, I thought that was weird as well. Among other things, but they can obviously be taken as him being friendly.

 

I would like to get to know him. Though it's hard for us to be alone. I've gathered he only talks to me when there's only 2-3 people around, or tries to shoot a simple hey. I get really nervous around him too..The thing is I don't want to ask, and then make working more awkward and uncomfortable not only for me but for him granted he says no. Should I just wait for him? Give it more time? Give up?

 

I would also likes to address that in the midst of this, I've tried OLD, due to me assuming I'd have a hard time finding someone. I've begun to loose interest in my prospects because of this guy at work...That's all. Thank you.

[preraph]

Well, your track record for getting rejected when you ask them out is not good, so I certainly wouldn't be doing that at work. You should let him wear the pants this time and see if he is interested and tries to connect or if he is too sensible to want to flirt with a coworker.

[Satu]

If you didn't work together I'd say yes, but because you do, I say no.

 

Keep your personal life out of your work, and your work out of your personal life.

 

 

Take care.

[Sunberry]

Well, the settings for the time I was rejected are completely different. The last time I was rejected when I asked a guy out to drink was on OLD. The other time I asked I was in a different country and it just didn't end well, the time before that? Grade school.

 

So, this would be the first time I've asked someone in person out for drinks at a job setting.

[preraph]

Even less chance of success with a coworker. More risk for both of you.

[major_merrick]

In general, I favor an aggressive approach. But with a coworker, forget about it. There's an old rule I follow - don't set the garbage on your dinner table.

[Sunberry]

So do nothing and wait for him to approach me? That sounds like a plan. I guess I can try talking to my other prospects again...though everything feels forced now at this point. I'm interning while he's not. But work is work. I understand.