LiveLaughLove1 Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 I am curious what others would make of this situation. I have been dating this guy a little over a month. I have only seen him five times but, they have been long/all day dates. No sex yet if that matters. Earlier in the week when we talked he mentioned that his friends were all going to a winery Saturday if the weather was nice and he asked me to come. He also asked to meet up for dinner Thursday. Thursday was good/normal/fun. He said "I'll text you Saturday and let you know the plan" Saturday (yesterday) he texted me and asked what I was doing. We went back and forth a bit. He never mentioned the winery so I assumed it was off. He asked when I was free this week. This morning I go on Facebook and see his friend tagged him in a bunch of pics at the winery. I mean I guess I understand if he decided he didn't want me to meet his friends but, he also brought it up again the last time I saw him. I'm not his girlfriend and he has no obligation to bring me to these things but, I am still insulted I guess and I'm not sure if I should bring it up or even if I want to see him again.
CarrieT Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 He said "I'll text you Saturday and let you know the plan" Saturday (yesterday) he texted me and asked what I was doing. There was your open. When he texted you Saturday to ask what you were doing, you should have responded, "I'm waiting to hear from you about the plan for the winery." He may have forgotten that he invited you.... Who knows? But you weren't pro-active when you had a chance. 2
Author LiveLaughLove1 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 There was your open. When he texted you Saturday to ask what you were doing, you should have responded, "I'm waiting to hear from you about the plan for the winery." He may have forgotten that he invited you.... Who knows? But you weren't pro-active when you had a chance. My response was "just finished getting ready after a run. Looking forward to seeing you and drinking wine ;)" he said "I'm about to go for a run myself." And I said "enjoy talk to you when you get back." I didn't hear from him the rest of the day. I could have been more clear but, I didn't think there was anything to clarify. Lesson learned I guess.
CarrieT Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 My response was "just finished getting ready after a run. Looking forward to seeing you and drinking wine ;)" he said "I'm about to go for a run myself." And I said "enjoy talk to you when you get back." I didn't hear from him the rest of the day. I could have been more clear but, I didn't think there was anything to clarify. Lesson learned I guess. Ah, well in that case it is probably time to move on... Sorry!
TigerCub Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 My response was "just finished getting ready after a run. Looking forward to seeing you and drinking wine ;)" he said "I'm about to go for a run myself." And I said "enjoy talk to you when you get back." I didn't hear from him the rest of the day. I could have been more clear but, I didn't think there was anything to clarify. Lesson learned I guess. Oh No! You didn't need to be more clear - don't put this on yourself. He invited you to the winery to meet his friends, later he realized it might be too soon for that, or whatever reason, he decided he didn't want you to go anymore and instead of actually having the decency and manners to face this like an adult, he did the douchy cowardly thing and just totally stood you up for it and then didn't mention it after - no apology no explanation, because he's hoping if no one says anything about it - it's forgotten. Call him out on it. Ask him what happened - if you so want to know. A guy did that to me once (long time ago) - instead of a winery - it was a poker game with his friends and I totally called him out on being rude and said that if he had second thoughts about me going because it was too soon, all he had to do was tell me. He apologized for it and was better about that kind of crap later. so in conclusion, don't blame this on yourself, he knew what he was doing, he was rude, if you let it slide - it's totally your choice but you do send a message that it's ok for him to just make false plans with you and then stand you up and not mention it afterwards. 2
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