codelock Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 I went on a 3rd date with a guy last week. Honestly, the date went okay. The guy seemed distracted, tired and out of it. I took it as a sign he was not into me at all and accepted that this would be our last date. To my surprise, he thanked me for the date the very next date and was keen to go on a 4th date this weekend. We pick a day and all seems good. I figured maybe I read him wrong. A couple of days before the date, I checked the weather and there was a storm happening that day. He texted me also saying he saw it was supposed to be bad weather. I gave some rain friendly suggestions such as a movie, museum, etc. He responds with "how he's too tired to think about all this and needs a day to sit on it." I responded saying "I'm happy with any of the suggestions. Please let me know what you decide." He never replied. His lack of response sounded like he was uninterested. A day passes and I don't hear from him at all. The day of the date rolls around and I figure we aren't going out as he never followed up with me. There's a storm and he asks me if I want to go on a 4 hour hike with him outside in the storm at 10am!! I respond telling him no and am immediately put off by this request. He then responds to me at 1PM (2 hours later) asking if we can go to the museum. At this point, I had agreed to go to lunch with some girlfriends so I told him that I can't meet him as I assumed we aren't going out. I then recommend we go out to eat tonight and catch a movie. He ignores my suggestion completely and recommends he comes over to MY house (he's never been to my home) and cook dinner and watch movies. This seemed rude as not only did he ignore my suggestion but tried to invite himself to my home. My house is also a mess and I didn't plan to have company over so I told him no as my home is messy but I'm still open for dinner tonight and I gave him alternative days. He then just responds with "sure." He seems uninterested so I'm not sure why he was pushing dates so last minute, and why he was ignoring all my date ideas. Any thoughts on this? It's too bad as I did really like him but his actions today have turned me off. His suggestion to go on a 4 hour hike in a storm also put me off. I love hiking but I don't know anyone who would suggest taking me on a hike in pouring rain. This guy is a really attractive and charming guy so I doubt he's dating me just cause he has no other options. I just don't get his weird behavior today. Thankfully I have a date with another guy later this week so hopefully that will go better.
Teknoe Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 This guy is a really attractive and charming guy so I doubt he's dating me just cause he has no other options. I just don't get his weird behavior today. Thankfully I have a date with another guy later this week so hopefully that will go better. Honey, hate to say this, but odds are you are his 3rd or 4th option. That would explain a lot. You deserve better. Wish him well and cut him out of your life.
gkly Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 If a guy likes you he would respect and listen to your suggestions. Also, they try to make time and come up with reasonable date ideas to see you. I don't like his spontaneous date suggestions that lacks considerations, unless this guy has low EQ level... I know it's hard to drop this after going through anxious waiting period for more dates after the first date. But it's better to cut him off so you don't drag this thought any longer. It was a good lesson knowing the kind of behaviors guys show to non-priority girls... I'm sorry. Fortunately you have another date and maybe you can focus more on him if he treats you with respect.
katiegrl Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 I went on a 3rd date with a guy last week. Honestly, the date went okay. The guy seemed distracted, tired and out of it. I took it as a sign he was not into me at all and accepted that this would be our last date. To my surprise, he thanked me for the date the very next date and was keen to go on a 4th date this weekend. We pick a day and all seems good. I figured maybe I read him wrong. A couple of days before the date, I checked the weather and there was a storm happening that day. He texted me also saying he saw it was supposed to be bad weather. I gave some rain friendly suggestions such as a movie, museum, etc. He responds with "how he's too tired to think about all this and needs a day to sit on it." I responded saying "I'm happy with any of the suggestions. Please let me know what you decide." He never replied His lack of response sounded like he was uninterested. A day passes and I don't hear from him at all. The day of the date rolls around and I figure we aren't going out as he never followed up with me. There's a storm and he asks me if I want to go on a 4 hour hike with him outside in the storm at 10am!! I respond telling him no and am immediately put off by this request. He then responds to me at 1PM (2 hours later) asking if we can go to the museum. At this point, I had agreed to go to lunch with some girlfriends so I told him that I can't meet him as I assumed we aren't going out. I then recommend we go out to eat tonight and catch a movie. He ignores my suggestion completely and recommends he comes over to MY house (he's never been to my home) and cook dinner and watch movies. This seemed rude as not only did he ignore my suggestion but tried to invite himself to my home. My house is also a mess and I didn't plan to have company over so I told him no as my home is messy but I'm still open for dinner tonight and I gave him alternative days. He then just responds with "sure." He seems uninterested so I'm not sure why he was pushing dates so last minute, and why he was ignoring all my date ideas. Any thoughts on this? It's too bad as I did really like him but his actions today have turned me off. His suggestion to go on a 4 hour hike in a storm also put me off. I love hiking but I don't know anyone who would suggest taking me on a hike in pouring rain. --- **This guy is a really attractive and charming guy so I doubt he's dating me just cause he has no other options. He is not really dating you though..... *that*s the problem. You are an option. His latest attempt sounded like a booty call....
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