Grey40 Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 (edited) Ok, so I'm not really sure how to read this situation. Was hoping some women can provide some insight. I got done performing at a place last night, and there were a lot of people there. A group of young attractive women were there, and they were trying to get my attention. They only cheered when the other singer mentioned my name, They asked me "where are you going?" When I packing up, and wanted me to stay and play more songs (I did like an extra 1-2). Then one of the girls in the group offers to buy me a beer and asks me to join her group. I find out at this point that she's married, but unsure of the other girls in the group (it was supposedly a "girls night out"). Ok, so I take my drink and join the group, and just couldn't tell if any of them were actually interested or if they were just messing with me. Maybe they were shocked that I actually hung out afterward? I literally joined them and tried to keep honest normal conversation (no bull**** pick up lines or anything like that), and just tried to get to know them but they seemed awkward about it and kind of cold like they wanted to be left alone or something. I honest don't think I gave off any vibe for them to be that way. What I was thinking is that maybe they were drunk and just messing around and didn't think I'd actually try and talk to them and maybe they realized the mistake they made in leading me on so to speak. Thoughts? This is the first time this has ever happened to me. Edited June 19, 2016 by Grey40
Versacehottie Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 My first and strongest guess is that the married one was trying to "help" one of her single friends who thought you were cute. Or it's also possible that the married one doesn't care that she is married and was interested OR that they were just caught up in the moment of having good fun. But if one of the friends was shyly flirting with you or being pushed toward you in some way, that's why you were called over for sure. BTW, aren't these the perks of being a performer that you dreamed of? You have groupies, man!
Author Grey40 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 My first and strongest guess is that the married one was trying to "help" one of her single friends who thought you were cute. Or it's also possible that the married one doesn't care that she is married and was interested OR that they were just caught up in the moment of having good fun. But if one of the friends was shyly flirting with you or being pushed toward you in some way, that's why you were called over for sure. BTW, aren't these the perks of being a performer that you dreamed of? You have groupies, man! Yeah, I mean I wasn't complaining it was fun to have happen for sure. I'm not great picking up on subtle hints and flirtatious behavior, unless it's more obvious. But I think because the girls were in a group setting in front of their friends, they obviously are going to act more reserved and what not, so it was very difficult to pick up any clues. I'm kind of unsure about the whole "shyness" deal though, because these girls were 29/30 years old, they're not in college or anything, I always thought older women were more generally open about their intentions.
Versacehottie Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Yeah, I mean I wasn't complaining it was fun to have happen for sure. I'm not great picking up on subtle hints and flirtatious behavior, unless it's more obvious. But I think because the girls were in a group setting in front of their friends, they obviously are going to act more reserved and what not, so it was very difficult to pick up any clues. I'm kind of unsure about the whole "shyness" deal though, because these girls were 29/30 years old, they're not in college or anything, I always thought older women were more generally open about their intentions. Actually, not necessarily. Why would you think that? Depends on the girls dynamic in the group, the night, the drinking, the vibe. Also it's a fluid situation, if they called you over but you were just good looking guy from the band (or whatever performing you do), but then wah-wah had no energy to contribute, the whole thing can lose it's luster real quick. Maybe that's what happened? If you were baffled and quiet-ish the majority of the time, still stuck on trying to figure out why you were called over, that could have been the reason. I think the second statement I bolded is far too generalized to be of any value to you. Maybe it was difficult to pick up clues because you are not good at picking them up! Maybe they got tired of sending up smoke signals because you did not contribute. Too much to speculate about. If you wanted things to be different, all I would say to facilitate that is be more proactive yourself. Are you beating around the bush? What did you want to happen? Was there a girl there that caught your eye? If so, why didn't you take action? Those are the questions you need to be asking.
Author Grey40 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 Actually, not necessarily. Why would you think that? Depends on the girls dynamic in the group, the night, the drinking, the vibe. Also it's a fluid situation, if they called you over but you were just good looking guy from the band (or whatever performing you do), but then wah-wah had no energy to contribute, the whole thing can lose it's luster real quick. Maybe that's what happened? If you were baffled and quiet-ish the majority of the time, still stuck on trying to figure out why you were called over, that could have been the reason. I think the second statement I bolded is far too generalized to be of any value to you. Maybe it was difficult to pick up clues because you are not good at picking them up! Maybe they got tired of sending up smoke signals because you did not contribute. Too much to speculate about. If you wanted things to be different, all I would say to facilitate that is be more proactive yourself. Are you beating around the bush? What did you want to happen? Was there a girl there that caught your eye? If so, why didn't you take action? Those are the questions you need to be asking. The more I think about it, the more I think they were just having fun in the moment and being flirty. I don't think they were really that interested in anything happening. It was a girls night out, and for all I know they could have all been taken. One girl was married, two lived kind of far, and the other girl lived in the city and was visiting which is also an hour from me. They all left in the same cab together, so they were all probably going back to the same place to stay over the night, that would have been kind of an awkward situation if I ended up coming back with them..I doubt they'd be comfortable with that anyways. The only girl who seemed sort of interested and kept the conversation going (asking questions etc) was the least attractive one in the group that I had no interest in at all. The girl I was really attracted to..I found out she lived in the city, and decided at that point not to really actively pursue but maybe I should have anyways. Couldn't tell if she was interested or not. But like I said, even if I got her number the chances of that working out (over an hour away) is not likely. And a one night stand probably wasn't likely either. The only reason I hung around them for so long was because I was too drunk to drive still so I figured I'd sober up and just talk to them, practice my game a little.
Author Grey40 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 Any other thoughts on this? Or is this the worst thread in the history of love shack? Hahahaha
tinkerbell16 Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Any other thoughts on this? Or is this the worst thread in the history of love shack? Hahahaha I think Versacehottie nailed it! It was a girls night out. They thought you were cute. Heck it could have even been a dare from one of the girls. They were likely all taken lol 1
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