Author Olivia89 Posted June 22, 2016 Author Posted June 22, 2016 I have been dating this guy for a few weeks now. Last week he told me he loves me and I said it back. But we got in a small fight last night. When I got home he texted me and said that he is sorry for calling me a name but he thinks it will be best to keep our selves apart for a few weeks. He said that he doesn't have a lot of available time and i'm upset anyway so he will keep his distance at work (we work together) and try to ignore me. We texted back and forth and he said we are just so different in how we think and what we find acceptable and we are both unhappy so he will give me some time. I told him that we knew we were very different and asked if that changes how he feels about me. He said he never said he felt different and when I asked him if he thinks we should not be together he said he never said that. But we have only been dating for a few weeks. So for him to want to spend time apart for a few weeks... that's pretty much as long as we were dating in the first place. Sounds like a break up to me. But why didn't he just say that or say that it is not working out. When I asked him if he thinks we should not be together he said he never said that, he is just giving me some time. I don't know what to make of this.
Larryville Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 I have been dating this guy for a few weeks now. Last week he told me he loves me and I said it back. got home he texted me and said that he is sorry for calling me a name he thinks it will be best to keep our selves apart for a few weeks he will keep his distance at work (we work together) Always a recipe for disaster, are their exceptions yes but rare. I told him that we knew we were very different I have been dating this guy for a few weeks now. Last week he told me he loves me and I said it back. So for him to want to spend time apart for a few weeks... that's pretty much as long as we were dating in the first place. When I asked him if he thinks we should not be together he said he never said that, he is just giving me some time. I don't know what to make of this. Some massive contradictions, and again people telling each other they love each other clearly not truly understanding what “love” really is about. He already exhibiting “flight” behavior. What does your gut say? The answer is easy, but hey… Something to ponder... The One Thing You Need to Know About a Partner... and why it predicts whether you'll be happy together so reliably. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-traits-excellence/201606/the-one-thing-you-need-know-about-partner What skill do we need, and what do we most need to know about another person in order to predict and achieve success in our personal and professional relationships? The answer is so simple and so profound that it may surprise you. The most important thing we want to know about a person—and what they want to know about us—before we trust one another is: What will this person do when she or he is afraid? Knowing what a person does in response to fear is critical to the success of any relationship. 1
katiegrl Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 Yes I think he wants to break up (as opposed to a "break")....the reason he is tip-toeing around about it is because just last week he told you he loves you.... Flat out breaking up with you now, after he told you that, would make him look like a complete jack-ass.... so instead he gives you the ole "let's take a break" BS.... If it were me, if a guy were to ever say he needs a "break" I would tell him... yes let's take a long break.... like forever. Buh bye. CYA around. Especially after only a few weeks!
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