AustinB20 Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 I met a girl online 5 days ago and we've been chatting everyday since. We had great conversations up until recently when she mentioned she felt like she was providing more information about herself than I was about myself. I told her I wasn't hiding anything and she could ask me anything else she liked. Well the conversation switched gears and she asked me personal/intimate questions including questions about my penis size, whether I manscaped, how often I masturbate and whether I watch porn. This was a turn off for me and I didn't answer the questions and sort of steered the conversation to other topics. I am looking for something more substantive (although I haven't said that to her) and I am concerned that she isn't because she's asking those types of questions so early on. Should this be a red flag or am I overreacting and shouldn't worry about it? 2
CarrieT Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Honestly, until you meet someone IN REAL LIFE and have developed a close, personal relationship with them, they don't need to know this information. Even then, this type of information isn't that necessary... I have a feeling you were being catfished. 4
DKT3 Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 I don't think the questions are horrible, I think some of them are real concerns and maybe things that has impacted her past relationships. 1
preraph Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 That person is more likely not a young female but an old person, probably male, trying to find something to entertain themselves with sexually online. Don't answer them back and just block them. That's so inappropriate. 4
Author AustinB20 Posted June 18, 2016 Author Posted June 18, 2016 Thanks for your responses. I have spoken to her on the phone so I know she's a girl. It's just strange she would ask such questions. 1
joseb Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 I would be asking her why she wanted to know, and making it playful - like - maybe if you play your cards right you can find out, etc. Its a bit much to be asking a total stranger. My advise is always not to drag out online interactions, meet for a coffee or whatever before investing any time on someone who could be anyone, or you might have zero attraction for. 3
Satu Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Its fine. Privacy has been cancelled. Nothing is private anymore. 1
4x4storm Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Yeah i'll just say there is a whole range of different girls online. This girl could easily be after some fun/one night stand that's what it sounds like to me.
Grapesofwrath Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Her interest in you may be primarily sexual. When men ask questions like that online, I know right away they are looking for sex with no strings attached. Or she may think this is how to "flirt" with people you've met online. Either way, if it's not your thing, you can simply tell her that in a direct but kind way.
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