How to proceed when you realise during a phone call that you have little in common?

[Philosopher]

I have had a few occasions in the past when doing online dating in which I have got a women's number, called them up to have a conversation and arrange a date with them and realised pretty quickly during the phone call that we have little in common.

 

In the past I have gone ahead with the date in these situations and as expected the date never goes that well. Therefore it is probably best if after a phone call that goes badly not to arrange a date at all.

 

Telling them at the end of the phone call that you don't think we are match seems rather harsh and a bit too much for someone you have never met. However agreeing to a date and then cancelling it, or telling them I will text back later regarding the date and never actually doing so is obviously rude and personally I hate when someone does this too me. So my dilemma is whether there is a better way to avoid dating someone whom you don't like the sound of after a choppy phone call.

[mikeylo]

While I'm a believer that you don't have to have too many common interests ( gets boring ) to make a relationship work but if it matters to you , then just don't plan a date. Make an excuse , give vague responses , etc. there are millions of ways to refuse.

[Arieswoman]

Philosopher,

Just be honest.

 

Tell them that you have enjoyed chatting with them but you don't feel that you have enough in common to take things any further.

 

Then you wish them well and terminate the conversation.

 

Simple.

[CarrieT]

Telling them at the end of the phone call that you don't think we are match seems rather harsh and a bit too much for someone you have never met.

But that's the point. You have never met so it is easier then!

 

"Hey, I really appreciate your taking the time to talk me and I've enjoyed getting to know you, but I don't see us as a match. Thanks and good luck in your endeavors."

[Satu]

Just say how you feel in a respectful way.

 

Wish them well and wrap up the conversation.

[joseb]

Maybe don;t make the call about arranging the date, make it just a 'chat',

then you don't have to cancel the date, you just don't make it.