Author clairehunti Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 Read this thread again.... the answers are all there. Well yeah I understand why he might be but I'm not sure why he's actually ignoring my text. I'm not sure if I should take it as a sign that it's over or if he lost interest or if he's just testing me or whatever.. I really wanted to talk to him and clear things out. Maybe it wasn't the best to text late.
Rainah Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 I doubt he isn't texting you just to play mind games, it seems like he is ignoring you now because you gave him the wrong signals by being distant and shy, you made the mistake not to open up and tell him. It's been 2 weeks of no contact, if he was still interested he would have contacted you and you shouldn't have waited 2 weeks to contact him. It sounds like he was interested in a relationship with you but your mixed signals and mind games pushed him away. I suggest you let him be, work on yourself and learn from your mistakes, when you feel your falling for someone then discuss your feelings, if you feel they don't initiate contact first then communicate your needs, don't go cold and distant. If you continue to contact him after 2 weeks it makes it look like your just wanting a booty call 2
Author clairehunti Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 I doubt he isn't texting you just to play mind games, it seems like he is ignoring you now because you gave him the wrong signals by being distant and shy, you made the mistake not to open up and tell him. It's been 2 weeks of no contact, if he was still interested he would have contacted you and you shouldn't have waited 2 weeks to contact him. It sounds like he was interested in a relationship with you but your mixed signals and mind games pushed him away. I suggest you let him be, work on yourself and learn from your mistakes, when you feel your falling for someone then discuss your feelings, if you feel they don't initiate contact first then communicate your needs, don't go cold and distant. If you continue to contact him after 2 weeks it makes it look like your just wanting a booty call But I really don't want to let him be. I really like him. I want to clear things up. I'm gonna regret not doing anything or not doing enough when I look back later. I don't want a booty call, I am interested in a relationship.
Zippy2000 Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 Anyone? I'm seriously left pulling my hair out wondering why he's suddenly ignoring me.. All your answers are in the messages people have contributed to help you move forward. You keep on asking why he has lost interest but the answers lie in your own actions. I m speaking from a mans point of view. If any girl I dated, acted distance and rude when drunk. That`s me sign posted thinking thats the person you really are early on. What else is in store later on in the relationship. You really do need time to work on yourself why you acted so self destructively to the very one person you wanted and successfully pushed away. Please take time to re-read your whole thread and not pick and choose what you like to hear. I havent read any of your posts who have thanked the people who helped you through your situation ir you having acknowledged any of the things you have done to your partner. To move on men would expect you to be consistent in your behaviour and give us a "green light" to court you. Whatever you do I wish you the best of luck. Let us know how you get on. 2
Rainah Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 But I really don't want to let him be. I really like him. I want to clear things up. I'm gonna regret not doing anything or not doing enough when I look back later. I don't want a booty call, I am interested in a relationship. You can give it a try to contact him again but if he ignored your other text he will ignore this text to, if you continue to contact him when he hasn't texted you yet will make you look needy and pushy which will push him away more, so if you do contact him to explain to him then by all means do so, but don't expect a reply, if he doesn'trely the you have to let him be, chances are he might have found someone else due to thinking you were not interested in more than sex
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 But I really don't want to let him be. I really like him. I want to clear things up. I'm gonna regret not doing anything or not doing enough when I look back later. I don't want a booty call, I am interested in a relationship. Well since he doesn't care enough to even read your messages, let alone respond, short of showing up at his house .... which I would NOT recommend, I don't see as you have much choice but to move on. It is not enough that YOU want something. HE has to want it too... and by all appearances, he does not! I'm sorry. Really truly. Lesson learned and good luck moving forward.... 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 You keep asking questions that have already been answered. You need to leave him alone altogether now, OP. He clearly isn't interested anymore, or he would've responded by now. Sorry, but you missed the boat on this one. Take it as a learning experience so you can avoid behaving in the same manner in the future.
Lois_Griffin Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 You keep asking questions that have already been answered.. I would have to assume that's because the answers aren't what she wants to hear. Two weeks being ignored, he won't even open the one message the OP did said. He's moved on and wants no part of this immature nonsense.
Author clairehunti Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 But I don't understand. He was so interested two weeks ago? Did he just wake up one day and decided not to be?
Rainah Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 Looks like your really not reading what other people have commented, I'm starting to wonder if this thread is a troll 1
Author clairehunti Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 Looks like your really not reading what other people have commented, I'm starting to wonder if this thread is a troll I have, really. But it's just that he's been acting so interested I mean just two weeks ago. I get that he must've decided to move on but I just don't understand, he just woke up one day and decided to turn off his feelings and not even give me an explanation? He just walked out. I wasn't even worthy and explanation. It breaks my heart.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 I have, really. But it's just that he's been acting so interested I mean just two weeks ago. I get that he must've decided to move on but I just don't understand, he just woke up one day and decided to turn off his feelings and not even give me an explanation? He just walked out. I wasn't even worthy and explanation. It breaks my heart. He woke up one day and decided it's not fun to be with someone who pushes him away. He didn't deserve to be treated like that either. Why do you require an explanation when you didn't give any for your own behaviour? Life doesn't work that way.
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 But I don't understand. He was so interested two weeks ago? Did he just wake up one day and decided not to be? I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but you cannot possibly be this dense. Read your original post again and pretend it was wriiten by someone else. The last time you were together you were drunk and rude!. He got annoyed and you wonder why? This was after everything you posted in your second paragraph! Read it again if you don't remember how YOU acted. Cold and distant. Emotionally and physically. He got fed up and turned off! Yup, just like that. It happens that way sometimes... It's over.....move on. He is probably seeing another chick by now anyway.... 2
stillafool Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 But I don't understand. He was so interested two weeks ago? Did he just wake up one day and decided not to be? Sometimes people get turned off (you getting drunk and rude) and don't get turned back on. This is what happened here. He has moved on to someone else. Let this one go (as he's already gone) and work on your self esteem before you try to date again.
Author clairehunti Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 I don't understand where all of you gets the information that he has met someone else. I really appreciate all of you for giving me advice but to be honest I just get more sad having to read all these harsh comments saying he has moved on and that he has moved on with another chick. We all make mistakes. I got drunk and made a fool of myself. I shut down when I started to get feelings for him but now I've learned my lesson. I really like this guy and it's really hard for me to just let him go without trying to talk to him, at least try. I just texted him last night asking what he was up to. I suppose it may have come off as a booty call but I just wanted to talk. He doesn't know that. He thinks I just wants to sleep with him. He didn't reply. Look I really really want to solve this. I really want him to know that I am sorry for being an idiot and that I want something serious. An apology text wouldn't hurt? Doesn't meant that we are going to end up together but we still have a bond. Maybe I am blind because I really like him but I don't believe in giving up. Especially not on a great guy like this. I'm a great girl too but I'm going through a tough time in my life.
Rainah Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 Texting him will go either he forgives, he ignores or he tells you to leave him alone. Explain how you feel/felt and apologise, I doubt he will respond but at least you can walk away knowing you explained and tried 2
ChickiePops Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 I know men would like us to believe that they don't have feelings, but they do, and it sounds like you hurt his with your odd and erratic behavior. He probably figured you weren't into him. And he probably thinks that your casual text last night was you looking for an ego boost/booty call. If you must contact him again, I would suggest apologizing and telling him you like him and you'd like to take him out for dinner. If he doesn't respond to that, leave it alone. 1
stillafool Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 I don't understand where all of you gets the information that he has met someone else. I really appreciate all of you for giving me advice but to be honest I just get more sad having to read all these harsh comments saying he has moved on and that he has moved on with another chick. We all make mistakes. I got drunk and made a fool of myself. I shut down when I started to get feelings for him but now I've learned my lesson. I really like this guy and it's really hard for me to just let him go without trying to talk to him, at least try. I just texted him last night asking what he was up to. I suppose it may have come off as a booty call but I just wanted to talk. He doesn't know that. He thinks I just wants to sleep with him. He didn't reply. Look I really really want to solve this. I really want him to know that I am sorry for being an idiot and that I want something serious. An apology text wouldn't hurt? Doesn't meant that we are going to end up together but we still have a bond. Maybe I am blind because I really like him but I don't believe in giving up. Especially not on a great guy like this. I'm a great girl too but I'm going through a tough time in my life. Look, if this is really how you feel you don't need the approval of a bunch of strangers. If you really want to impress call him up, don't text and say the above to him, not us. 3
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 I have no idea if he has met anyone else.... But if he is such a great guy as you said, why wouldn't he? Especially if he is on line. Look no one is saying these things to hurt you. But you weren't *getting it* ... you kept asking the same questions over and over.... so the more direct and okay blunt we needed to be. That said, go ahead and send him another message.... explaining, apologizing. Hope eventually he will decide to open and read. What he chooses to do after that is anyone's guess, but at least you tried. Good luck, hope it works out for ya. 1
mortensorchid Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 I'm confused....what do you expect? You stopped getting turned on sexually, you stopped looking into his eyes during sex, you stopped wanting to kiss him, you stopped talking, what the hell? Of course he stopped initiating, your actions are telling him you don't give a crap.... Do you? If you do you sure are not acting like it. Any man would stop initiating if a woman behaved the way you are. What's going on with you anyway? You said you started to develop feelings....so you stop enjoying sex, stop talking and stop kissing him? What am I missing? ^This. Answers here. You're done. Move on.
Author clairehunti Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 I'm sorry but I need to get this off my chest. I never contacted him because he contacted me and apologized for being late about it. He hoped my evening had been great. I said it was fine and that's it. I know I've been getting very clear advice as to why this happened etc.. But I just don't know what to do. I want to make it up, truly. I feel like I'm stuck. I can't let go without at least knowing that absolutely nothing will come out of this, I want to hear him say that he's no longer interested if that's the case. If you messed up with a guy you really liked and was about to lose him, honestly what would you do? I hate that I made this mess.
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