is this a rebound?

[slagzone]

So we were both 49 when we met we dated for 9 months. she had gotten a divorce but was still living in her home with her ex husband. When we met she moved out of her house and got an apartment Our relationship moved pretty quickly. We never lived together but I could tell she wanted me to move in, she gave me a key to her apartment. I never used it, in fact I gave it back to her after an argument. She wanted me around more; to spend the night more often but I was really unsure about making more of a commitment even though she was a wonderful giving girlfriend. She was in my eyes the most incredible girlfriend a guy could want but I just wasn't ready for more of a commitment at that time. Now I regret letting her go. We broke up end of Aug 2015 or beginning of Sep 2015 by Oct 2015 she had a new boyfriend by Nov or Dec 2015 she moved out of her apartment and moved into his apartment. Did she move into this new relationship too quickly? Did she move in with her new boyfriend too quickly? Is that relationship going to end in a messy breakup? Is this a classic rebound relationship?

[longjohn]

Sounds like she rebounded after the first rebound, assuming you were the first rebound. Then again she might just need to live with someone. Some people are like that. They can't do it alone and need another person. Who knows that relationship might work fine, it may come apart. It's always more messy to extract yourself if your already living with someone. Maybe she wants some security?

[basil67]

She was only with you for nine months and she left because you weren't ready to give her what she wanted. I wouldn't expect that she'd need much recovery time after that.

 

Also, who is to say what is too quick? I met my partner of nearly 25 years only two months after leaving my first marriage. He and I moved in together quickly too.

 

Yes, her relationship may crash and burn...or she may have found the love of her life. Anything is possible.

[ExpatInItaly]

No, I wouldn't necessarily say this is a classic rebound. You weren't together that long.

 

Sure, she moved quickly. But she's also nearly 50 years old and has already been married. It's not as though she has no life experience to inform her choices.

 

She saw you didn't want what she wanted so she moved on. It's not fun, but you need to move on too.

[slagzone]

Expat are you the exception? It's my understanding that when people move into to quickly it normally ends very bad. Sure there are a few exceptions but I think very few.