Arty10 Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 I have met a lady about six months ago. Since then we have been inseparable, had kind of a whirlwind romance, and eventually have moved in about a month ago. We are both middle aged, have been married twice, and been in other long term relationships. From what I understand from what she tells me in her last relationship she was in a live in relationship with a guy who wasn't really into her. Their relationship ended about four years ago. He moved out after broke up but they ended up staying friends and hanging out for a year or two after the breakup. These days they still FB message and text for birthdays and such. Last night while we lying in bed she was going through her FB. Her ex whom she is FB friends posted a picture of him of his new girlfriend in front of their new house they bought. My girlfriend shows it to me and says to me in a pissy voice, "when we were together he always said we couldn't afford it." I really didn't know what to say to that and at the time didn't know how to feel about that except saying to myself in my head wtf? Now that I have had time to process this, I am wondering why the f*ck am I here if she wishes she was somewhere else with someone else? Anyone care to comment on this? Am I overreacting on this?
VeveCakes Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 That's a very insensitive thing for her to do. I wouldn't be impressed. I would maybe mention how she talks about him a lot and see if it continues. She's obviously bitter.
seamos Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 Insensitive if she realized how it would affect you but still said it anyway. My wife and I both stay in touch w/ several exes, including b-days, occasional phone calls, visits when we're in town. I'm not of the belief you have to hate someone just because you couldn't live w/ them. Just be alert if you're concerned about her feelings for him. Doesn't sound like something to worry too much about.
Mr. Lucky Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 My girlfriend shows it to me and says to me in a pissy voice, "when we were together he always said we couldn't afford it." Since her comment was on the disparaging side of neutral, I do think you're overreacting. Her meaning could be as simple as "he was a cheap ex-BF"... Mr. Lucky 1
Lois_Griffin Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Meh. She still has some bitterness for the guy because she feels he did her wrong - or at least didn't treat her the way he should have treated her. That's kind of natural. I've found myself from time to time thinking about rotten things my ex's did. Your GF's mistake was to share it with you. It was insensitive and just not appropriate is all.
compulsivedancer Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 While it's a bit insensitive to say, it's a totally normal thing to think. You can love someone and still be hurt by the decisions of someone you loved in the past.
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