Jim nine three Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 So I (23) am talking with this girl (21) over the last month.We know each other for years so it's not like we met each other at the bar last night.Our conversations over this time span have grown romantically,however a couple of things bother me and I don't really know how to progress things further. My first issue is that sometimes she cuts the conversations short without saying anything like got to go etc. and I find that rude.However after a couple of days she either comes back around texting me or I text her and she acts all normal. Secondly,I am not really sure she wants to hang out.I mean,at first when I asked her out she said she would let me know but that never happened.That was when we started talking to each other and since then our conversations have grown form friendly to really romantic.One and a half week ago she told me she would take me out on a date and she would let me know when.After a couple of days I text her and she told me she is sick and staying at home.We texted for a couple of hours and then she,like I told you above,cut the conversation short.It has been a full week since then and we haven't talked to each other since then.Only form of "contact" we had is a couple of likes by her on facebook which on our age doesn't really mean anything. What should I do next? Do I text her and ask her out? Or should I wait for her since she cut the convo short last time around? I don't wait too long before making a move but I also don't want to appear clingy always initiating first.Any thoughts?
gkly Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 If you are not afraid of rejection or being ignored, it's totally fine for you to suggest another date. And I wouldn't say hangout, b/c sounds too casual in oppose to your feeling and she might take the asking out more sincerely too. Most importantly, make sure to send a confirmation text, like "are we still on tonight". Although I'm slightly confused about her texting you first, she's most likely tying to have you hanging somewhere around and she will see you when she feels like it. She's still talking to you but doesn't agree to go out because she prefers to stay as a friend. I do this when a guy I'm not interested in getting romantically involved approaches me whereas he's more of a guy friend material with a slight potential of maybe-romance in the future. If she shows flaky behavior again by not responding to your date text, let her initiate. Let her text, but don't respond with enthusiasm. Keep it short and brief. If she sees you slipping away, she could reach out. If she seems indifferent to you slipping away, I would say she's not into you...
Author Jim nine three Posted June 18, 2016 Author Posted June 18, 2016 If you are not afraid of rejection or being ignored, it's totally fine for you to suggest another date. And I wouldn't say hangout, b/c sounds too casual in oppose to your feeling and she might take the asking out more sincerely too. Most importantly, make sure to send a confirmation text, like "are we still on tonight". Although I'm slightly confused about her texting you first, she's most likely tying to have you hanging somewhere around and she will see you when she feels like it. She's still talking to you but doesn't agree to go out because she prefers to stay as a friend. I do this when a guy I'm not interested in getting romantically involved approaches me whereas he's more of a guy friend material with a slight potential of maybe-romance in the future. If she shows flaky behavior again by not responding to your date text, let her initiate. Let her text, but don't respond with enthusiasm. Keep it short and brief. If she sees you slipping away, she could reach out. If she seems indifferent to you slipping away, I would say she's not into you... I see your point,and I also think I have made up my mind.Because she has acted in such a manner in the past I won't initiate contact again unless she does.She has to make the effort to reach out now,it's clearly obvious what my intentions are.When she does I consider proposing a date and see her response.If she acts flaky again I will follow the advice on your last paragraph and start pursuing other interests in the meanwhile.No point in waiting on someone who won't make the effort to see you.
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