Dating and poor decision making

[LookAtThisPOst]

There's been quite a few women that I know, and I'm sure men are guilty of this, too. One woman, who is obviously a major mismatch with this guy. A smoker, big redneck...enjoys NASCAR and does amateur racing himself when he goes out of state.

 

This woman is really hanging out with him as a friend. Nothing serious really and it's likely to go down the tubes anyways.

 

One day she tells me, "He said he was suppose to call at such-and-such time, and he never did."

 

He has done this a few times with her, but frankly I feel he's bored with her with the way she talks.

 

And I'm like, "Why do you even give a crap, from the way you talk about him, it sounds like you don't like him, so...bullet dodged!"

 

Her: "Yeah, I guess."

 

Same instance happened with another woman I know. Complained about how rude his is in public, loud, obnoxious. Likes attention drawn to him as he complains loudly. Very embarrassing on dates.

 

Then she says "He hasn't called me since then, the nerve of that guy!"

 

And, like I said before, "Why do you give a rats arse? From the way you explained his behavior, good riddance!"

 

Her: "Yeah, I guess you're right."

 

That said, it's occurred to me people tolerate this behavior seeing how long they can stick it out until there's a reckoning.

 

Just my theory. Anyone think the same?

[Toodaloo]

Perhaps I am a bit guilty of this as I like to see the good in people and give people a chance.

 

In general though they have to show exceptional other traits in order for me to put up with the bull...

 

Call me low on patience or whatever but I am just too old to be dealing with this stuff anymore...

 

I would rather go read my book.

[five2nine]

It's probably because there is something they really liked about the person

 

Either that or they are just complaining about it because their ego was a bit damaged from it, even if they didn't really care about the person

[Larryville]

That said, it's occurred to me people tolerate this behavior seeing how long they can stick it out until there's a reckoning.

 

My gut reaction is people tolerate bad behavior because they don’t value good behavior or value themselves.

 

You are a reflection of the people you associate with, or decide to date or be in a relationship with.

 

Complained about how rude his is in public, loud, obnoxious.

 

This is where the vetting process comes into play. I have never experienced being with a woman like this because before I am out in public with someone I’m going to know a person exhibits these traits. Complaining about it after the fact again just shows poor judgment and lack of self-worth. Making a conscious choice to be with such a person makes you complicit in a way.

[Alamo657]

It's called attachment; You want it to work despite unsurmontable odds, because you think there is something special, and its only after you eventually broke up out of exhaustion that you think "what the hell as i doing with him/her".