iphone_user1 Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 Let's say that you and a girl/guy text/phone for a week and then you meet in person. Is it usual that texting and phone calls die out in some degree? I mean, it's not like there is no interest anymore, but it feels like the anxiety about them calms down. 1
mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 If it does it means that one party is not very interested in the other and it's going to just fade away. Fact. 5
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 If it went well the texting would increase....it didn't go well. 3
LLQ1986 Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 That's right, he/she is just not into you. I have had that for way too many times! Life goes on lol 2
gkly Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Or both parties are acting shy and not sure about the other party's feeling. If the guy isn't initiating contact, then the girl won't either. She doesn't want to seem desperate and invest in a guy who isn't interested in pursuing her. 3
Satu Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Let's say that you and a girl/guy text/phone for a week and then you meet in person. Is it usual that texting and phone calls die out in some degree? I mean, it's not like there is no interest anymore, but *it feels like the anxiety about them calms down. *Anxiety felt by whom, about what? 1
True Gent Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 If the communication dies down after meeting then someone isn't interested. They may try being polite and reply for a short time, but they will just dissapear. 2
Sweetgirl28 Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 I disagree with all posts above. I think it is perfectly normal to tone down on texting after a date... It's better that way if you are going to set up a second date. It gives you something to talk about when you meet again. If you keep texting, it will become boring soon. ...Unless it didn't go well and you are both too polite to stop texting altogether. 3
Author iphone_user1 Posted June 18, 2016 Author Posted June 18, 2016 (edited) *Anxiety felt by whom, about what? It usually happens to me and sometimes I feel the same from the other side. It's like I'm still interested in the girl, but I don't feel so eager or anxious about texting/talking all day, but I still like them. It's like "oh, finally I met her" and then I calm down until the second date and so on. Edited June 18, 2016 by iphone_user1 1
Satu Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 It usually happens to me and sometimes I feel the same from the other side. It's like I'm still interested in the girl, but I don't feel so eager or anxious about texting/talking all day, but I still like them. It's like "oh, finally I met her" and then I calm down until the second date and so on. I don't see any problem with that. Just let it flow naturally. Take care. 1
Shanex Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 If it does it means that one party is not very interested in the other and it's going to just fade away. Fact. I can't disagree with that, however, this here: I disagree with all posts above. I think it is perfectly normal to tone down on texting after a date... It's better that way if you are going to set up a second date. It gives you something to talk about when you meet again. If you keep texting, it will become boring soon. ...Unless it didn't go well and you are both too polite to stop texting altogether. ...Is another way of looking at it and in this case and the OP I'm agreeing more with this poster, from experience anyway, it's the old ''too fast too soon'' I mean the texting back and forth for days, it's exhausting too. It's best once you've met once or twice to settle down a bit and rather make more phone call or Skype if you want to, personally I try to keep the texting limited to the crucial (planning something) things. 1
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