Author venus83 Posted June 17, 2016 Author Posted June 17, 2016 You don't seen to like him, so I suggest you forget about him. As to your other questions, well as a European, I never was aware of the need to mention exclusivity or indeed label a relationship until I joined loveshack. Initially I just thought thus stiff eas only cultural, as in it didn't apply, but I think it's now becoming the norm, at least here in Australia. Swiss people are very reserved from my experience, more so than most Europeans. You might want to look for an Italian? I do like him...but I am unsure because he seems really reserved! We exchange messages but really short ones...I am not sure if it is because he is not intresested or because he doesn't like to text much! He invited me to another date next week...he have me 3 options...biking, sailing or he could cook something at his place...! Maybe is just the way things goes here....and I should be patient! Maybe he is just going out with other women....
kismetkismet Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 NOPE. **** those guys. Or rather, don't **** those guys. To a certain degree you do need to read your partner's pace and rhythm so that you can get them on the same page of course, you should be connected with them rather than doing your own thing. buuuuut you need to find someone you're sexually compatible with. These guys sound insecure and sexually repressed. Be yourself, enjoy yourself sexually, find someone who you're compatible with. Sexual compatibility is similar emotional compatibility. that doesn't mean everyone must be having sex all the time, but your sex drives should be similar for it to be harmonious. But just as some people need to spend more time together while others need more space, and some people need more verbal reassurance and affection while others show their love in different ways - people have different needs sexually. Some people need more sex than others, some are more voracious while others are more reserved. Get what YOU need as well. Obviously with consent and mutual enjoyment hahha, but don't tailor your needs to someone else's. Find someone who appreciates you for who you are - and believe me there are plennnnnnnty of guys who will love an uninhibited woman with a healthy and eager sexual appetite!
tinkerbell16 Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Thank you so much for your message. You have no idea how much it was good to hear that. I think you are right. And made me think about something....in Brasil women are so pressed to be perfect all the time, to look sexy and stuff... I think I have been doing it all wrong and I am really happy to try to be myself....I hope it works....! It's not just Brasilian women... all women are expected to be "perfect". The Madonna syndrome... biblical purity during the day and hot sex goddess (the other Madonna) at night. No wonder we end up "crazy" and "flakey" we are skilled at split personalities!
bummer Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 I'm no puritan but know 95% of American men would find Brazilian women "intense." I'll never forget what I learned down in Brazil but most of those moves get lost in translation as porn-like or aggressive. Take your time abroad to let the primping go a bit. Relax more. You aren't just a sex object anymore. Try sensual and slow and let the man teach you some new tricks. or find a Spaniard or Italian man if you just need a bit of the touch from home.
Author venus83 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 It's not just Brasilian women... all women are expected to be "perfect". The Madonna syndrome... biblical purity during the day and hot sex goddess (the other Madonna) at night. No wonder we end up "crazy" and "flakey" we are skilled at split personalities! I agree with you! But I still think for brasilians or places you have to have the f*** beach body (whatever this is supposed to mean) it is really rough on us. I truely feel like the pressure here in Switzerland is much less. To start with the models on the outdoors.....they are not the brasilians top models...!
Author venus83 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 I'm no puritan but know 95% of American men would find Brazilian women "intense." I'll never forget what I learned down in Brazil but most of those moves get lost in translation as porn-like or aggressive. Take your time abroad to let the primping go a bit. Relax more. You aren't just a sex object anymore. Try sensual and slow and let the man teach you some new tricks. or find a Spaniard or Italian man if you just need a bit of the touch from home. This is a sad thing to know...I really wish we could be seen like normal girls! Brasilians are sweet and caring!
stillafool Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 I know what you mean...but I am a bit tired this type... Italians and Brasilians are really good lovers, but things don't last....you get tired .... its exausting! How can this be exhausting for you when that is the way you come on to european men? I thought that was what you liked.
tinkerbell16 Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 I agree with you! But I still think for brasilians or places you have to have the f*** beach body (whatever this is supposed to mean) it is really rough on us. I truely feel like the pressure here in Switzerland is much less. To start with the models on the outdoors.....they are not the brasilians top models...! I feel ya (not literally Lol but if that was the case I could probably keep up ). I do 100 squats a day to keep my rear looking as close to you Brasilian ladies as I can get!!! Lol. THEY DON'T CALL IT WHITE GIRL BUTT LIFT... ITS BRASILIAN BUTT LIFT!!!! 1
Author venus83 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 How can this be exhausting for you when that is the way you come on to european men? I thought that was what you liked. No I don't like, but I was tought that this is what men like, wich apperently here it is not....wich is good, I can be myself now. great relieve!
katiegrl Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 No I don't like, but I was tought that this is what men like, wich apperently here it is not....wich is good, I can be myself now. great relieve! Venus you should always be yourself... regardless of where you live or what *some* guys like or don't like.... Your sexual responsiveness should be relative to how you and the particular man you are with are connecting and your chemistry.... together. Anything other than that can come off as phony and disingenuous, and THAT can be a turn off in and of itself. Always always be true to yourself and your own nature... It should all flow genuinely and naturally. 2
Author venus83 Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 Hey guys! I am sorry it took a while! I really want to thank you all for the comments and advices! I had my 4th daye with the guy I told you about and I could relax and be more "myself"! It felt so amazing and was so much better...! I also felt he felt more confident. We dont have much intimicy yet, we just spent 2 nights together ... but at least I feel better now and all of you were so right! BTW it felt good to step back... and dont carry all the "pleasure" reaponsability on my back! We have a 5th day scheduled already next friday! I am just a bit unsure because he texts me almost every day, wishing good day or good night but nothing more than that... I am just beeing patient... I think when we are together he is trying to open up and I think is cute to see his effort! Inam just not sure how is the speed... if its normal he just want to keep casual like that! Guess I meed to wait and see! I am really liking him... I am going out tonhave drinks woth other guys ... but not hook ups, just to keep myself distracted while he develos whatever he is supposed to! thank you once again 2
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