venus83 Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 Ok here is the thing....I am 33....and I lived with a guys 5 years and after we broke up in 2012...since I couldnt have anymore relatioships or ONS....I dont know whats going on with me passt month but seems I am tired of it so I started dating some guys from Tinder....and in the begginning I was ok with it, like normal stuff....but I am kinda feeling really sexy now and having fun exploring this new world. Than the past month I started meeting different guys every week....and started enjoying to have no string attached... I just had my first ONS this night with a friend (not tinder) and it was fun because I am starting to compare what I like, know better men, and this stuff....I am feeling like 25 again! Thing is I had a casual dating with this other man, I will call him John, 3 weeks ago, and we went out 3 times....we never talked abt relatioship....we had sex in the 3ed date at his place, which surprised me he invinting me over, because he is really reserved..... he also writes me every day or other day wishing me a good day, or a good night and only with small talk.... and I thought he was not so interested.... but ok.... I am having fun knowing him.... But as I said I just had a ONS with this 'friend" last night and this made me think abt John.... I started thinking we have something special because we have so much fun together, and the way he accted was so much "deeper" than a ONS.... Can I compare situations like that? Can I get to learn how to separate on from another just by the way a guy act? Because honestly, I really think that all guys just could't or wouldn't fall for me or for such a so casual dating...not that I don't want to....is just my thoughts.... But also.....John sent me a message kinda worried saying he was really busy with work this week but he hopes to see me soon. I don't know if I am buying this....I just answered "Focus on your stuff, I know you have loads of work....we keep in touch, hope to see you soon too". He didn't answer yet (that was 1 day ago) and I am not sure if I wrote the right answer...because I don't want to annoy him...and I also never brought up anything like .." ow why you don't talk to me or don't want to see me".... I am just giving him the space.... I am still not so emotional involved with John but just stopped now to think abt it and him because of the ONS I had with this friend last night and all these dating has been so shallow...except for John.... You think he might be interested even though the messages are not so intimate and stuff? He doesn't like to text much, when we are together he is always much more fun and into our conversation....BTW, his texting was always like this, before and after dates and sex.... he never changed....also, mostly I let him text me first..... Also, after our first and only night together he texted me the other dax saying "I had a really nice evening, thank you".... and he drove me to the station near by, I live in Geneva, SWI so is pretty comon just to do that...and we agreed on that the night before....! He was also really kind during our night together, the sex was good I think...and he holded me during the whole night.... Sorry for my english, I am Brasilian
DreamP Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 You are over thinking this. It's too early in the relationship to know for sure where it is headed.
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