elaine567 Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 The problem I see is that every time you get a cheque or she makes a payment you then get caught up in her again, so why don't you start a new bank account just for her ingoings, she transfers her money electronically to that account and you don't look at it at all. You can get someone you trust like your parents or a close friend to look at it periodically to make sure the money is still going in but you don't need to keep looking at it. You can even set it up so that the money in that account gets transferred to your main account say every 6 months. 1
salparadise Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 She also made it sound like she was only married to one guy and all her kids are from the same guy, but it actually turns out that all three of her kids are from three different men... She also flirts and talks to many different men. She has no female friends. All of her "friends" are men. [...] Only thing I could think of is she was afraid it would scare me off if I knew she had a young child since I'm single with no kids? Other than that, I can't come up with a logical explanation of why she would hide that from me? She was sizing you up to become protecter/provider/financier for her and all three of the kids... c'mon man, you see the situation clearly––assessment is right on––but act like you're powerless to do anything about anything. You better wake up before you become baby daddy #4 and the monthly payments become not small, and flowing in the other direction. The answer is simple. You have to switch off the emotional fuzzy-wuzy and do what you know is in your own best interest. Quit being a tampon.
Author Addicted18 Posted June 17, 2016 Author Posted June 17, 2016 The problem I see is that every time you get a cheque or she makes a payment you then get caught up in her again, so why don't you start a new bank account just for her ingoings, she transfers her money electronically to that account and you don't look at it at all. You can get someone you trust like your parents or a close friend to look at it periodically to make sure the money is still going in but you don't need to keep looking at it. You can even set it up so that the money in that account gets transferred to your main account say every 6 months. This is a very good idea. I did ask her in the past if she can just transfer the money to me electronically, but she already told me no. She wants to do checks so she can download the scanned images posted to her bank account after I've signed and cashed them.
Author Addicted18 Posted July 6, 2016 Author Posted July 6, 2016 I came across this book online and thinking about buying it to help me get over my addiction to my ex. Seems like it has good reviews on Amazon... Has anyone here ever read this book and has it helped? https://www.amazon.com/How-Break-Your-Addiction-Person/dp/0553382497
RLG1959 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I came across this book online and thinking about buying it to help me get over my addiction to my ex. Seems like it has good reviews on Amazon... Has anyone here ever read this book and has it helped? https://www.amazon.com/How-Break-Your-Addiction-Person/dp/0553382497 You dont need no book! Just this: You are important..you are valuable...you matter. Addiction to an ex only shows how insecure you r of yourself and lack of confidence. There is plenty of fish in the sea and your ex is simply another of those swimming thru it!! Your mind is tricking you in to thinking x is unique !! It is not. No matter what the qualities or the connection was there are others to connect with the same way or beyond. So...grow some guts! Slap yourself...and tell to yourself! *** it...Im worth more than that.. Screw this. Be well
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