IslandDude Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I just went all in on OLD and am curious what women expect on the initial in person meeting. My whole life I've basically dated women that I already know in person so the first time we go out together is an official date and we both already know each other to some extent other than reading a people or exchanging messages. With this OLD thing I'm a little off on what the first meeting should be. Should it be like a real date? Should it just be two people meeting and if they like each other they set a date for the first real date? I kind of feel like I need to dial it up a bit on the first meeting but at the same time I don't want to come off as if I think we are in a relationship when we just met minutes ago...
Sweetgirl28 Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I usually treat the men I meet in real life from OLD as a friend I haven't seen in a while so it seems less awkward.
Toodaloo Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 When I first started I always had hope and was really positive. These days I have no expectations other than meeting someone new. I may like them, I may not. At least its something different. You never know what is around the corner and I figure the best match for me will accept me just as I am so if they don't like me who am I to care? There are plenty of others who DO like me! So I go along, I am friendly and happy and I get on with it. 1
Justanaverageguy Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 (edited) I would treat it slightly differently to a normal date where you know the girl. General speaking an OLD is like rolling the dice. First meet is really just to see the person in the flesh, see if you click and have a rapport \ connection to warrant another follow up. I treat it similar to Toodaloo not so much a date as just a chance to meet someone new. Keep it very relaxed and casual. I did a lot of backpacking and couch surfing when I was younger so meeting new people is something I really enjoy doing. I treat just like that - there is no stress or pressure at all. Just a bit of fun and a chance to meet someone new. If it doesn't click - no big deal. Your aim should be to first and foremost figure out if you actually like her and 2. If you do like her try to position for a second "real" date. You should be able to tell by the way you part ways if this is a go or no go. Girls will drop the hint at the end of the night (and during the date) if they are interested in a follow up. I would strongly recommend against "dialing it up" on the first meet. Trying to hard on a first meet with someone you never met gives off the impression you are a bit desperate and not actually that selective with girls you choose to date. You want to be fun and entertaining but not intense and trying to hard. Edited June 15, 2016 by Justanaverageguy
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