ad4m2 Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 Hi, I hoping for some advice on why I am feeling like this. So to give you a bit of background, I've been dating this girl for nearly 5 1/2 months and it has so far been the best relationship I've been in. I love her a lot and she loves me a lot too, we get along really well, we have a lot of fun and have only really fought once or twice. Now, for some reason, every time I don't see her for more than a few days I feel really insecure and think she's gonna talk to other guys or cheat on me but I have no idea why I feel like this. I trust her 100% (please don't comment saying I obviously don't because I do) and I know she would never cheat on me because she regularly talks about our long term future, like morning in together or going travelling together. But for some reason I feel insecure whenever I don't see her for a few days and I can't explain it. I don't want to feel like this any more and what annoys me more is I know I have no reason to feel like this. Any advice on how I get over this feeling would be appreciated. Thanks. 1
Satu Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 Firstly, say this to yourself, when you get those uncomfortable feelings: "These are my feelings, and I am responsible for them." These feelings are not about her. They are about you. They exist, in you. Don't give yourself a hard time, for having those feelings, but do step back and examine them objectively, from a mental distance. Ask yourself: "Is she trustworthy?" "Yes." "Is she loyal to me?" "Yes." "Would she cheat on me, behind my back?" "No." "Can I afford to trust her?" "Yes." Ask and answer aloud. It's a bit like a pilot's preflight checklist, you just own the feelings, and do your checklist. You'll be OK. You won't mess this up. Take care.
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