Baruch2 Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 I am with my gf for two years. Last week she told me that in the future she would like to visit her ex in his country and stay with him for a week in order to finish some small project from the past. I told her I am not OK with that, but she said that there are no feelings left both ways and I should trust her and not make scenarios in my head. She also said that none of her friends would find this a bad idea and implied that my views are conservative. I would like to hear your views since in my circle everyone would find this a very bad idea... PS just to clear things up, I am ok with her being friends with her exes, but I find very bad idea to visit him and stay with him in his country for a week...
dumbass2 Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 I am with my gf for two years. Last week she told me that in the future she would like to visit her ex in his country and stay with him for a week in order to finish some small project from the past. I told her I am not OK with that, but she said that there are no feelings left both ways and I should trust her and not make scenarios in my head. She also said that none of her friends would find this a bad idea and implied that my views are conservative. I would like to hear your views since in my circle everyone would find this a very bad idea... PS just to clear things up, I am ok with her being friends with her exes, but I find very bad idea to visit him and stay with him in his country for a week... I agree 100% with you on what I put in bold and who gives a crap what her friends think. She should care only about what you think and be sensitive to that and I do not think you are being over sensitive at all. If she decides to do it, she doesn't respect you and that would be cause to break up and move on. Once respect is gone, it doesn't just come back.
SoThatHappened Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 That would be an ultimatum for me: - Go and lose me, or stay and keep me. Period. Yeah, weird how her friends would be okay with HER doing that.
Omei Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 (edited) Imo people only stay friends with exs for emotional attachment unless maybe it wasn't a very long relationship and they were friends before. Anyway her going on a vacation to stay with an ex is totally unacceptable, her trying to convince you that you shouldn't be on the fence about it by saying her friends are down for the idea (which is probably bs) she prob has intentions with this guy a "project" is pretty vague and to be staying with him is not needed either there are hotels anyway it sounds like she plans to cheat but is trying to convince you blindly for peremission to go so she can have no guilt and come back to you. I agree if she gos leave her People who value their relationships simply don't do this. Edited June 15, 2016 by Omei
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