Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 Dis, with love.... since you have disclosed you have been diagnosed with Bipolar II (and you know I have too so I understand)... I am gonna go out on a limb and suggest that some of what you are experiencing now may be a symptom of that. Bipolar never goes away... it can lay dormant for a while..but symptoms can resurface at any time. The reason I say this is because on Sunday you were going to end it and wrote a beautiful albeit sad and depressing poem about him and your RL (it's posted). You sounded very down and depressed. You were convinced he wasn't right for you, you no longer had feelings for him.... and were adamant you were going to end it. The following day (Monday) you completely switched, thinking you might still have feelings... and vowed to give it another month. Then literally one day later (today) you switched again, and suddenly realized he is not for you, he is too simple, a dud, so you broke up with him. These rapid changes in mood are symptoms of Bipolar Dis, I should know because I experience the same exact mood swings myself from time to time. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if tomorrow you wake up feeling completely differently and possibly even regret your decision! That is why I think it's important to take some time for yourself (a couple of months at least) before jumping back into another RL. Sort out your feelings, do some introspection to determine why you were so intent on convincing yourself you actually LOVED this guy.... became so anxious when you didn't hear from him, almost to the point of near obsession, but then came to discover after a period of back and forth with your emotions.... he actually meant nothing to you... probably never did, and now that it is over, you are relieved, on a sort of high because of it. I wish you nothing by the best you know that... but please consider what I wrote above. I could be off, but being that we suffer from the same disorder, it makes a lot of sense to me. Best of luck girlfriend! I think you're invloving my diagnosis too much here...I've worked very hard to get to a stable place....this difficult time I've had due to outside factors doesnt have much to do with the fact that I have bipolar I will not regret my decision...I have never broken up with someone...then regreted it later Yes I was a hot mess the past month...I know that...I was a hot mess because I was trying to make something work that wasnt meant to work...thats stressful Why do people assume that if someone with a mental health diagnosis starts to experience stress it must be related to symptoms...no..I was experiencing stress because I was in a stressful position I finally get to a point where I'm happy....where I was made a move that was right for me...where I feel relieved and your saying, I'm "on a high"? I'm relieved because I just broke up with a guy who was the source of all my stress. I think its normal for me to feel relieved and peaceful now
katiegrl Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 I think you're invloving my diagnosis too much here...I've worked very hard to get to a stable place....this difficult time I've had due to outside factors doesnt have much to do with the fact that I have bipolar I will not regret my decision...I have never broken up with someone...then regreted it later Yes I was a hot mess the past month...I know that...I was a hot mess because I was trying to make something work that wasnt meant to work...thats stressful Why do people assume that if someone with a mental health diagnosis starts to experience stress it must be related to symptoms...no..I was experiencing stress because I was in a stressful position I finally get to a point where I'm happy....where I was made a move that was right for me...where I feel relieved and your saying, I'm "on a high"? I'm relieved because I just broke up with a guy who was the source of all my stress. I think its normal for me to feel relieved and peaceful now Okay that's fine, I only suggested it as something to consider. Good luck to you Dis.
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 Dis there is no need to get defensive hon... for two months you posted some awesome things about him, how great he was, etc. Notwithstanding that he wasn't a great texter, but many people aren't great texters, that means nothing. So I don't think it is too much of a stretch for us to think he was a good guy who treated you well... based on what you posted. Right? Ugh...I didnt say that because he wasnt a nice guy...he was. This poster is insiting he wasnt a dudd. When I'm the only one that knew him. So I said, "Oh you met him?"
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 My apologies if I'm being abrupt...although I am relieved its over and know I made the right decision...I'm still alittle sensitive about all this...I just broke up with him today 1
TooLegitToQuit Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 (edited) Ugh...I didnt say that because he wasnt a nice guy...he was. This poster is insiting he wasnt a dudd. When I'm the only one that knew him. So I said, "Oh you met him?" I guess I am putting myself in his shoes. A girl tells me she loves me for two months and seems to mean it, and then after treating her well all this time, suddenly she turns and says she feels I'm a dud. That would truly hurt. Edited June 29, 2016 by TooLegitToQuit 1
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 I guess I am putting myself in his shoes. A girl tells me she loves me for two months and seems to mean it, and then after treating her well all this time, suddenly she turns and feels I'm a dud. Ok yes...I understand what your saying. That would hurt me too. He was a good guy and treated me really well up until the last 3 weeks. But I do have to say he was alittle dull...and I knew that and was willing to work with that until I realized we had bigger problems than him being dull. I dont think he cares that I broke up with him I said, "I was going to talk to you about this in person but since I havent heard back from you...this isnt going to work out...but I wish you the best of luck moving forward." He said, "I wish you the best too." Dont think he was broken up about it
TooLegitToQuit Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 Ok yes...I understand what your saying. That would hurt me too. He was a good guy and treated me really well up until the last 3 weeks. But I do have to say he was alittle dull...and I knew that and was willing to work with that until I realized we had bigger problems than him being dull. I dont think he cares that I broke up with him I said, "I was going to talk to you about this in person but since I havent heard back from you...this isnt going to work out...but I wish you the best of luck moving forward." He said, "I wish you the best too." Dont think he was broken up about it That's fair and its relevant information. His unresponsiveness was quite uncool on his part too. I see now much more where you are coming from. It does sound like ending it was truly the best decision. 2
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 That's fair and its relevant information. His unresponsiveness was quite uncool on his part too. I see now much more where you are coming frim. I'm glad you can see where I'm coming from now. Ya the past 3 weeks hes been very cold and hasnt said much. I'm just relieved I dont have to deal with him not texting me back or one word responses or any thing else like that. I want my partner to give me what I give him...he didnt measure up
joseb Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 I'm no expert on it, but I agree that your back and forth did sound a little like it's influenced by bipolar, so worth considering that possibility. However, I also think you made the right decision breaking up with him. It sounds like maybe you oversold him a bit before. And i think some time alone (months, not weeks) would be good. Even if you don't feel the need to grieve it, it's still good to have a break. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 I don't think what she experienced is bipolar. To me it sounded like she was initially attracted to the guy, was on a high from the physical attraction and the fact that he seemed into her. After a period of time, she discovered that he is not that intelligent and didn't have enough depth. I knew that was the end of it after she posted it. It's huge and not something anyone should compromise on. It's hard to make a decision to end something when you still have some attraction but know deep down it can never work. Hence back and forth, trying to figure out what to do. After deciding to give it another month, he went unresponsive and she probably thought F. this. I am not into him anyway, why deal with the non-communication c... for another day. To me it makes perfect sense, even if she now has moments of loneliness and regret. 1
katiegrl Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 (edited) I don't think what she experienced is bipolar. She has already been diagnosed with Bipolar II. Many years ago. Since it's a chemical balance in the brain, no matter how hard we try, certain experiences in our lives are going to trigger symptoms. That is a GIVEN. Bipolar never goes away... we just manage it the best way we can. She has made strides to become stable... which is great.... but not sure if you have read all her previous threads about this guy and their RL... but her anxiety has been extreme, and moods have been all over the place pretty much since she met him... Which is precisely what Biplolar II is.... severe anxiety and mood swings. I suffer from it too... and symptoms surface during stressful periods. Like the start of a new RL so I need to be really careful. Which is probably why I next men so easily too.... I gotta be super careful who I choose to become involved with.... I don't get chances with my emotional health. With Dis, and not trying to criticize her at all... cuz as I said I suffer from it too... but ever since she met him she has experienced over the top anxiety, near panic attacks... mood swings.... she admits it herself. She has shared all of it with us here.... from the very beginning. Just yesterday she admitted she's been a "hot mess." These are her words, not mine. JMO but she probably should have walked away a long time ago. But she didn't, she chose to hang in and as she said "fit a round peg into a square hole".... which is an issue for her to explore, in and of itself. I am only saying these things because I think denying that one's particular illness/disorder is at play in any given situation is harmful to one's overall well being and emotional health. It is important to be self-aware .... recognize what things trigger symptoms and learn from it.... so as to avoid it happening again in the future. Introspection, self-awareness, knowing one's own limitations in life and in relationships. For me, I stay away from anything negative, people or experiences and any situation that causes me stress... I try to anyway, it is just not healthy for me. And that includes RLs with men I know are not right for me. It triggers my symptoms which isn't good for me or those I interact with. As someone who has also been diagnosed with Biplolar II (not to be confused with Bipolar I because with Biplolar I, symptoms are way more extreme).... I can relate. Just my $.02 FWIW. Edited June 29, 2016 by katiegrl 1
myothernic2 Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 I'm glad you can see where I'm coming from now. Ya the past 3 weeks hes been very cold and hasnt said much. I'm just relieved I dont have to deal with him not texting me back or one word responses or any thing else like that. I want my partner to give me what I give him...he didnt measure up Dis, I can see where you were coming from with the back and forth. I felt a few weeks ago when he started ignoring your messages than more than likely you were going to have to end it very soon. I didn't agree with the whole, he just needed time to recoup from the trip stuff. Usually when someone starts doing that it's a bad sign. I think your back and forth was become he was giving glimpses of it's alright but I'm assuming he started doing stuff like that again. Anyway, it's understandable to me that you were going back and forth.
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 I don't think what she experienced is bipolar. To me it sounded like she was initially attracted to the guy, was on a high from the physical attraction and the fact that he seemed into her. After a period of time, she discovered that he is not that intelligent and didn't have enough depth. I knew that was the end of it after she posted it. It's huge and not something anyone should compromise on. It's hard to make a decision to end something when you still have some attraction but know deep down it can never work. Hence back and forth, trying to figure out what to do. After deciding to give it another month, he went unresponsive and she probably thought F. this. I am not into him anyway, why deal with the non-communication c... for another day. To me it makes perfect sense, even if she now has moments of loneliness and regret. Thats actually exactly what went through my head, thanks ES. Ya...the beginning was great. He was really good to me...we seemed to get along great. Then he started pulling back It was at that point I realized I had been overlooking some of his flaws...he lacked depth and didnt communicate well (never asking me about myself) But he was the first good guy I had dated so I wanted to give him a chance even though my gut was telling me I wouldnt be happy with him for the long haul. When I first posted I was going to break up with him...one of my gfs talked me out of it...saying I needed to give him more time...I thought, Hey he is a good guy...stable...good job. So I'll give him more of a chance. I really wanted it to work and at times he would come around again and things seemed ok...but other times I was listening to my gut...knowing it wasnt going to work...I was teetering back and forth...it was really stressful Then he stopped communicating with me...so like you said, I said...F*** this...if hes not even going to get back to me and I'm already on the fence anyway....buh bye So I ended it
katiegrl Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 (edited) From your first post: My bf and I have been exclusive for 2 months. Everything is great...I dont see anything worthy of suspicion...no red flags...no yellow flags...nothing. We've exchanged I love you's, we spend a perfect amount of time together...he is sweet and caring...affectionate. He's the first guy I've dated that isnt a player or a liar. He is an all around good guy and I do love him, I know he loves me. We have fun together, we laugh and play fight, we have alot of sex. We talk alittle bit about the future...me moving in down the line...how we both want kids...how cute our kids would be. Everything is fine and good. But no matter what I do I cant stop over thinking..worrying...obsessing that something will go wrong...that he'll drop me for no reason out of the blue...like the last one. I read into everything he does... The part in bold is very telling and I think it would be worthwhile to explore why you had these feelings.... even when, by your own accord, he was awesome and wonderful and everything was going nearly perfectly. If you don't, guarantee you will experience the same feelings in your next RL and the RL after that.... You don't have to answer, just think about it. I think it would be foolish not to. This will be my last post. Good luck. Edited June 29, 2016 by katiegrl
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 I'm going to post in bold katiegrl, I know you're just looking out for me...you have such a big heart and have been very supportive. You're also very wise...you give great insight that I need to hear. I just want to address a few things She has already been diagnosed with Bipolar II. Many years ago. Since it's a chemical balance in the brain, no matter how hard we try, certain experiences in our lives are going to trigger symptoms. That is a GIVEN. Bipolar never goes away... we just manage it the best way we can. You're very right...Bipolar never goes away...its a chronic illness....but I am on an excellent medication regiment that has worked for me for 7 years. With medication I have much less severe flare ups than I would if I wasnt on medication (thats just based on my experience with bipolar) and the flare ups I do have dont prevent me from functioning as I normally would. Yes they do make things more difficult at times but they dont impair my ability to function normally. Normal is also a very relative term....by nature I am high strung....an overthinker...and yes, emotional. However over the years I have been able to differentiate between the symptoms of bipolar and my personality...lets face it...everyone could be thought to exhibit symptoms of bipolar during times of stress...ups and downs are a part of life. She has made strides to become stable... which is great.... but not sure if you have read all her previous threads about this guy and their RL... but her anxiety has been extreme, and moods have been all over the place pretty much since she met him... Which is precisely what Biplolar II is.... severe anxiety and mood swings. I suffer from it too... and symptoms surface during stressful periods. Like the start of a new RL so I need to be really careful. Which is probably why I next men so easily too.... I gotta be super careful who I choose to become involved with.... I don't get chances with my emotional health. With Dis, and not trying to criticize her at all... cuz as I said I suffer from it too... but ever since she met him she has experienced over the top anxiety, near panic attacks... mood swings.... she admits it herself. She has shared all of it with us here.... from the very beginning. Just yesterday she admitted she's been a "hot mess." These are her words, not mine. JMO but she probably should have walked away a long time ago. But she didn't, she chose to hang in and as she said "fit a round peg into a square hole".... which is an issue for her to explore, in and of itself. Yup..I shouldve walked away long before I did. I kept hanging on because I thought maybe...just maybe it could work. I didnt want to throw something away that still had a glimmer of hope left. Next time I'll listen to my gut...looking back it was clear it wasnt working....I shouldve trusted that feeling I am only saying these things because I think denying that one's particular illness/disorder is at play in any given situation is harmful to one's overall well being and emotional health. It is important to be self-aware .... recognize what things trigger symptoms and learn from it.... so as to avoid it happening again in the future. I agree with this wholeheartedly...part of my recovery is based on being aware of my state of mind. Whenever I was upset throughout this whole mess...I acknowleged it...I wasnt blind to the fact that I anxious and upset. I knew how badly this was affecting me. I'm anxious by nature...like many people here....I'm an anxious dater....but that doesnt mean all the anxiety was bipolar anxiety. I only felt the bipolar type of anxiety towards the end. I recognized that. When that happened that was part of the reason why I pulled the plug so fast...I knew this was impacting me in a way that I couldnt tolerate anymore...so I ended it for my well being Introspection, self-awareness, knowing one's own limitations in life and in relationships. For me, I stay away from anything negative, people or experiences and any situation that causes me stress... I try to anyway, it is just not healthy for me. And that includes RLs with men I know are not right for me. I think the most glaring reason why I was so anxious was because he wasnt right for me....it was like standing on a ship...knowing its sinking...but staying on board because your hoping someone can stop the leak and you can get moving again. It was a dreadful feeling...I could feel myself going under. I knew I just needed to jump off but jumping off is scary too. The next time I get into a relationship I'll make sure things are feeling right. If there not right...I wont waste another moment of my time. Lesson learned. I hope the next time I get into a relationship I wont be on edge because I'll have learned the difference between a relationship that feels right and one that feels wrong. It it feels right...I'll trust in that and be comfortable. If it doesnt I'll walk away It triggers my symptoms which isn't good for me or those I interact with. As someone who has also been diagnosed with Biplolar II (not to be confused with Bipolar I because with Biplolar I, symptoms are way more extreme).... I can relate. Just my $.02 FWIW. I agree with many of your points girly....just wanted to clarify a few things...thanks for looking out for me 1
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 From your first post: The part in bold is very telling and I think it would be worthwhile to explore why you had these feelings.... even when, by your own accord, he was awesome and wonderful and everything was going nearly perfectly. If you don't, guarantee you will experience the same feelings in your next RL and the RL after that.... You don't have to answer, just think about it. I think it would be foolish not to. This will be my last post. Good luck. Ya I know why I felt that way...thats when it started to go wrong. Thats when his attitude towards me and our relationship started to change. That was my gut telling me to get out....by not listening I drove myself nuts Things are much more clear now...wierd how that works You said this will be your last post...hope I didnt offend you or make you feel like I wasnt taking your insight into consideration....most of the things you mentioned were right...I just have a few differences in opinion 1
katiegrl Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 Well I guess that wasn't my last post... >>Normal is also a very relative term....by nature I am high strung....an overthinker...and yes, emotional. However over the years I have been able to differentiate between the symptoms of bipolar and my personality...lets face it...everyone could be thought to exhibit symptoms of bipolar during times of stress...ups and downs are a part of life. << Ain't THAT the truth! lol I am glad you have realized that you stayed far longer than you should have.... That's something.... and now you know for next time never to try to "fit a round peg into a square hole." You will only hurt yourself by doing that.... Okay enough preaching from me.... you're doing good! Best of luck moving forward!
katiegrl Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 (edited) Y You said this will be your last post...hope I didnt offend you or make you feel like I wasnt taking your insight into consideration....most of the things you mentioned were right...I just have a few differences in opinion No not really. I just get weird sometimes.... you haven't figured that out yet? lol I am NOT on meds (used to be, went off them), I try to manage on my own...do a pretty good job for the most part... but I still get pretty moody sometimes. It's all good though... Edited June 29, 2016 by katiegrl
Author Dis Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 Dis, I can see where you were coming from with the back and forth. I felt a few weeks ago when he started ignoring your messages than more than likely you were going to have to end it very soon. I didn't agree with the whole, he just needed time to recoup from the trip stuff. Usually when someone starts doing that it's a bad sign. I think your back and forth was become he was giving glimpses of it's alright but I'm assuming he started doing stuff like that again. Anyway, it's understandable to me that you were going back and forth. Thanks myothernic2... Yup you're right...the ship was going down but I couldnt bring myself to jump off. And you're also correct that he was giving me some little hints of hope so I convinced myself to stay. It is a bad sign when someone pulls back like that...I knew it was. I just didnt want to admit thats what he was doing. It was really confusing and pretty tortuous. I've never swayed back and forth in a relationship like that before. I'm all in or all out...having on foot reluctantly placed out the door was really tough. Once he started ingnoring me again...I was out of there like a bat out of hell
myothernic2 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Thanks myothernic2... Yup you're right...the ship was going down but I couldnt bring myself to jump off. And you're also correct that he was giving me some little hints of hope so I convinced myself to stay. It is a bad sign when someone pulls back like that...I knew it was. I just didnt want to admit thats what he was doing. It was really confusing and pretty tortuous. I've never swayed back and forth in a relationship like that before. I'm all in or all out...having on foot reluctantly placed out the door was really tough. Once he started ingnoring me again...I was out of there like a bat out of hell I totally understand. As headstrong as I am, I've been there a couple of times. It's confusing when overall you feel like the person has good qualities, despite not being sure about his personality. 1
hippychick3 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Dis, I am glad you took your power back and ended it with him. I didn't like the fact that he had completely ignored your texts and phone call when this all started going down. A little pulling back after a vacation in the form of less texting and calls for a day or so is normal, zero communication and ignoring you is NOT normal and not okay. The right person for you is definitely out there and your positive attitude after this breakup will help you eventually find that person. 1
Author Dis Posted June 30, 2016 Author Posted June 30, 2016 Dis, I am glad you took your power back and ended it with him. I didn't like the fact that he had completely ignored your texts and phone call when this all started going down. A little pulling back after a vacation in the form of less texting and calls for a day or so is normal, zero communication and ignoring you is NOT normal and not okay. The right person for you is definitely out there and your positive attitude after this breakup will help you eventually find that person. That made me feel really good...thanks hippychick. I really do feel like I have my power back. I feel like I was covered in dirt for a month...and now I'm finally clean. It feels great. I do feel sad that this is just another failed relationship but at the same time I'd rather be alone than with a guy doesnt make me happy. I also feel the clock is ticking...just turned 30. I'm fine being alone but I want more than anything to settle down...I'm ready for that I feel really positive about the future. I know it sounds really stupid but I just have a gut feeling I'm going to find the one soon. I have alot of hope that will serve me well when I get back into the dreaded OLD scene lol 1
WhirlwindGuy Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 My bf and I have been exclusive for 2 months. Everything is great...I dont see anything worthy of suspicion...no red flags...no yellow flags...nothing. We've exchanged I love you's, we spend a perfect amount of time together...he is sweet and caring...affectionate. He's the first guy I've dated that isnt a player or a liar. He is an all around good guy and I do love him, I know he loves me. We have fun together, we laugh and play fight, we have alot of sex. We talk alittle bit about the future...me moving in down the line...how we both want kids...how cute our kids would be. Everything is fine and good. But no matter what I do I cant stop over thinking..worrying...obsessing that something will go wrong...that he'll drop me for no reason out of the blue...like the last one. I read into everything he does...he took me on vacation last weekend to the beach. He spent alot of money on the trip so he told me we'd have to cut out the spending for awhile. I was fine with that of course. He then told me he had to work on my birthday (next week) even though he told me he'd get the night off a month ago....that was before he dropped alot of money on the trip. I know he could easily switch shifts with another coworker...thats what he did for my school ceremony...I guess he doesnt want to do that now. I decided to just be grateful for the trip and told him how appreciative I was and how I'd be happy just hanging out at his place for my birthday....but I still dont know why he decided not to switch shifts like he said he would Hes a corrections officer and doesnt make alot of money so I dont mind that we're not going out since we just went on vacation....but he could switch shifts and we could spend the night in. I dont know why he changed his mind about that.....so now my mind goes crazy I keep going over the weekend....trying to figure out if anything changed between us...if his feelings changed....if I'm missing anything...I feel like I'm losing my mind....trying to prepare myself for him dropping me...this feels horrible He said we would celebrate my birthday before the actual day....maybe just not on the day. Hes still hinting that he might get the night off My point in all of this is....I dont know if I will ever recover from being dropped by my last bf. I feel like I'm always preparing myself for impending doom I dont let him see any of this...how insecure I am. I have a hard time talking about my feelings now. I was never like that before. My walls are up. Sometimes I think it would be easier being alone....but I love him and our relationship...I dont want to end things I want to repair myself from my past... I just dont know how. And I dont know if I even have a reason to worry...I cant tell up from down...left from right. I cant stop torturing myself and just enjoy him and our relationship I bought a book recently called "getting over your breakup" or something like that...the book is at home, so I would have to pull it out and look at it again. One of the things it suggested is real and definite self affirmations. That it really helps and makes you less insecure. The author and many others sware that it works if you do it correctly. Correctly meaning that there is a way to do affirmations that your subconscious understands, and there is a way most people do them. You have to do them right for it to work...at least this is what the experts say. I thought it was hokey, but I decided to try it, and I think it actually does work. Perhaps read up on it and try it. Definitely cant hurt? 1
WhirlwindGuy Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 I didn't read the entire thread, but I hope it didn't end the way you had feared... If so, I am very sorry dis... 1
Author Dis Posted July 1, 2016 Author Posted July 1, 2016 I bought a book recently called "getting over your breakup" or something like that...the book is at home, so I would have to pull it out and look at it again. One of the things it suggested is real and definite self affirmations. That it really helps and makes you less insecure. The author and many others sware that it works if you do it correctly. Correctly meaning that there is a way to do affirmations that your subconscious understands, and there is a way most people do them. You have to do them right for it to work...at least this is what the experts say. I thought it was hokey, but I decided to try it, and I think it actually does work. Perhaps read up on it and try it. Definitely cant hurt? I didn't read the entire thread, but I hope it didn't end the way you had feared... If so, I am very sorry dis... Thanks so much for that advice WWG. It ended...but it was meant to end. I ended it on my own accord....he wasnt the right one. But it was a step up from my last relationship...this guy was a good guy...we just werent compatible...by putting an end to it I feel like I have my sanity back. It was maddening trying to make something work that was never meant to I know you've had your share of break ups too. I know we'll both find what we're looking for...we just have to keep at it and have hope! Hope all is going well with the new girl your dating!
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