Can someone suggest? Am I crazy or unlucky?

[magic_gurl]

I am a 23 years old girl. I have history of falling madly in love with men. In my college life during graduation, i was head over heel(obsessive- limerence) over a man who just couldn't be mine plus i never told him. Anyway, leaving it apart

 

Since that obsession healed, i got into a relationship. The relationship was particularly a long distant one and within 6 days i blocked the man from every possible platform because i thought he was not showing me enough attention and giving me too much time(not texting/calling all day). I was obsessed with him for 6 days and didn't feel that he reciprocated those feelings.

 

After that, i started dating another guy, one after another.... had 3 relationships within a course of 9 months. All the relationships had same pattern. The guy was initially head over heels for me(always calling, texting)... I am very beautiful and can attract anyone easily in the first meetings.

However, the pattern was same. I noticed the guy pull away and couldn't tolerate that. Ended up being clingy, obsessive and crazy for their attention.

When I felt that i couldn't get the required time and love, i silently blocked them from every possible platform so that they don't contact me again.

 

None of the relationship lasted longer than one month, with first 20 days of guy's extreme interest, and last 10 days of my obsession.

 

Recently, I met a nice guy with whom i felt compatbility on all levels. The relationship began the same way. I didn't want to go on too fast. But he proposed me in the first meeting and was crazy for me. However, with time I noticed him pulling a little away which hurt my feelings. I started to get insecure and clingy... and here i am.. still waiting for his reply..

He does give me attention but I am stuck with the idea that it's not the same and trying to prove him that he has lost his interest in me.

 

I am thinking to block him now.

 

What should I do? Can someone help? Is there a problem with me or I have always chosen wrong men?

 

Important to note: All the men were emotionally disturbed. One was a drug addict, another was married guy in his late 50s and this one also has severe psychological issues(inferiority complex)

 

Please HELP ME.. PLEASE.

[gaig]

I am very beautiful and can attract anyone easily in the first meetings.

 

Hmmm.. how do you usually dress?

[sooshi]

Stay away from relationships for a long while. Work on yourself. Spend a lot of time doing so. It sounds like you have a lot of insecurities and little self-respect, and if you want a healthy, stable, long-term relationship and not attract men who have tons of issues, then work on yourself and your own issues so that you can finally attract someone healthy and have a healthy relationship.

[brittly42]

Relationships are challenging, and it's normal to wonder if you're doing it right. You probably feel stressed and wondering if everything is your fault.

 

Have you considered reaching out to a counselor or someone like a minister or parent? You need a sounding-board to discuss your past relationships, and a counselor has experience and training in this area. I worked as a Resident Advisor at my university, and I wish more of my friends had listened to my advice on this. The ones who did came out stronger!

 

No matter what, please know your relationship status doesn't affect your value. You have a purpose that literally no one can fill, and although the men in your life haven't always recognized your value there are people in the world who would benefit from you putting your unique talents and skills to use in service? Taking a "vacation" from relationships for a few weeks may help you find unique opportunities to serve others and find happiness elsewhere.

 

I know breakups are very painful, and you are in my thoughts and prayers!!! Hang in there. If you want more information on resources, I'd be happy to chat with you.

[magic_gurl]

Relationships are challenging, and it's normal to wonder if you're doing it right. You probably feel stressed and wondering if everything is your fault.

 

Have you considered reaching out to a counselor or someone like a minister or parent? You need a sounding-board to discuss your past relationships, and a counselor has experience and training in this area. I worked as a Resident Advisor at my university, and I wish more of my friends had listened to my advice on this. The ones who did came out stronger!

 

No matter what, please know your relationship status doesn't affect your value. You have a purpose that literally no one can fill, and although the men in your life haven't always recognized your value there are people in the world who would benefit from you putting your unique talents and skills to use in service? Taking a "vacation" from relationships for a few weeks may help you find unique opportunities to serve others and find happiness elsewhere.

 

I know breakups are very painful, and you are in my thoughts and prayers!!! Hang in there. If you want more information on resources, I'd be happy to chat with you.

 

Thank you so much for the kind words. I cannot tell in words how much I appreciate it. I am in extreme need of help, I was about to jump from 11th floor today. I literally feel like my head will blast anytime. Please help me.

Please pray for me.