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Hi there,

 

Not entirely sure how to start this (not wanting to sound melodramatic) but here goes.

 

Last week my girlfriend of 1yr 9months split up from me- we had started dating during the first week of freshers. It happened after she slept with a guy a couple of days before. She'd been speaking to him before strictly as friends (I believe her). She came back and we had a big conversation about it, that ended in her saying that she didn't believe that we could continue things despite her still loving me (I believe that she still does). During the conversation, I went through the whole, I forgive you, please don't do this thing but to no avail. Equally, she talked about some key differences between our personalities, whereby I said I can change (so cliche). That night I told her I'd be deleting her from all forms of social media, which I have done. Since then, last Tuesday, she hasn't contacted me once, nor have I contacted her. I'm wondering if she will in time? (The magical NC, which I realise is meant for my own self development). I still want to be with her seeing as I've never known anyone with whom I've connected with on such a level. She has yet to delete photos of us on FB (clutching those straws tightly). I've also got some stuff of hers that I'm yet to return.

 

I guess what I'm asking is whether I have a chance of getting her back, and if not, coping strategies as I'm starting to feel anxious. I can only assume that she's now pursuing a relationship with him.

 

Thanks.

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I still want to be with her seeing as I've never known anyone with whom I've connected with on such a level.

It is a pity she doesn't feel the same way. If she did then she would not have cheated on you and dumped you. Unfortunately your feelings are not reciprocated. You are putting yourself out there for someone who doesn't give a hoot about you.

 

She has yet to delete photos of us on FB (clutching those straws tightly).

I tohught you said you were in NC? Do you know what NC means? Why are you stalking her social media?

 

I've also got some stuff of hers that I'm yet to return.

So return it. Then start NC properly.

 

if not, coping strategies as I'm starting to feel anxious.

NC.

 

Proper NC, not the half-way house that you've been doing so far.

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I'm so sorry to hear this.

 

Apparently the first heartbreak is the hardest one.

 

Try not to contact her. Give back all belongings asap. Maybe via mutual friend.

 

She has cheated on you, that's a bridge too far. You can't take her back because she will do it again.

 

Time will heal your wounds, but now it's time to move on.

The first month(s) will be hard. Try to work on yourself. Try to enjoy your summer. Meet new people and enjoy life ( I don't talk about getting into a relationship or so ). Just be yourself.

Forget about her. She's a mess if she cheats on you. You don't deserve that. I've been a couple of months back in the same situation so hey, I know what I'm saying.

 

You will get stronger out of this!

 

Take care

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