theitcrowd Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 Hello All, I will try to keep this short... I was in an LDR with a girl that added me on Instagram... we started to generally talk and she was with her 5 year long relationship at that time.. and we were just friends... then she said she had feelings for me (and I did too) but ofcourse I didn't want her to breakup with her bf but she said he cheated on her and she didn't really love him and she had no feelings for him for the past 2 years or so... So she flew all the way across to the world from Spain to Dubai to meet me... We had a beautiful 2 weeks together.. we started to be a couple long before she came to meet me.. ( Skype every night, text all the time like crazy) She left to go home and then was trying every possible way to move with me to Dubai... and she was telling her friends how serious she was about me... But it was hard for her to get a job (She had no degree, but has a family business) She came to visit me 2 months later because she couldn't stand being away for that long from me..... It was great too... Now firstly here is one problem:- She was texting this arab guy who she also followed from Instagram in Dubai and the first day I was really busy and couldn't be with her in the morning and when I got back she told me and said she gave him her number ( She never gives out her personal number unless it's someone she trusts)... I was feelings so weird but she appologized... I just forgave her at the time (Biggest mistake) Then when she went back I could see they were kind of getting close... and I got really jealous and I told her to either choose him or me ... (I was really hurt that she did all that for me and I did all that I could for her when she was here..) Also since it was an LDR it was so hard to trust her and know what she was texting to him etc.... Then after a huge argument she said she would block him and I was okayish with that... Our romance continued with no problems But the second time she came to visit me I saw he was sending her snapchats and I was so mad again but didn't ask her anything in face because It was my birthday and didn't want to fight... Also she was acting extremly cold the second time she visited me and later appologized once she was leaving at the airport (She made me cry a lot... on the first time we met again... I felt like extreme sh** because of the way she treated me) Then I developed into extreme paronia and stress thinking she was texting this guy and then following random only arab guys ( I live in Dubai so I know what these guys are like.. extremly abusive/disrespetful in general and I didn't want her to get hurt or leave me) Now this is something I am not particullarly proud of but I created a fake account as an arab guy just to text her and see what she would say... she texted back but it was nothing flirty, just general talk... I don't know why I did all this and why it stressed me so much but I just couldn't feel I could trust her.... later she found out about all this and she felt very hurt and immediately blocked me and told me not to contact her ever again... 3 Days later she rebounded with another guy (from the same country as me) and now is currently dating him or faking it... Maybe she was so hurt from our relationship ? I don't understand how she moved on from something so deep and commited to a new one so fast? I am not proud of what I did.. but I was so worried that she was cheating on me How do I overcome this in the future? How do I trust my partner ? My main problem was... If she left her partner of 5 years.. she could leave me anytime ( I was so insecure of the thought of her leaving) , secondly why did she want to text "Arab guys" specifically when she had me supporting her always? Especially it being an LDR with a lot of distance And she was so commited to actually trust me and come across the world to see me? Then why did she do all this I was very close to her family, parents etc. too Thanks!
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