Should I sleep with him?

[Mushro]

Went NC with my previous date for 2 months after I told him that I am not looking for hookup. He started to send out late night texts again. I dated a few after him but I still like him. I started to think maybe I should just sleep with him but I am hesitant because I am a mid-20s virgin and I used to think I should find someone with a connection and willing to take it slow. But I do want to experience the sex.

 

Just flow of thoughts so it might be difficult to read. Should I sleep with him?

[neowulf]

Went NC with my previous date for 2 months after I told him that I am not looking for hookup. He started to send out late night texts again. I dated a few after him but I still like him. I started to think maybe I should just sleep with him but I am hesitant because I am a mid-20s virgin and I used to think I should find someone with a connection and willing to take it slow. But I do want to experience the sex.

 

Just flow of thoughts so it might be difficult to read. Should I sleep with him?

 

Let me put is this way.

 

Let's say you hook up with him.

 

Are you OK with him never seeing you again? Sleeping with you once, then just blowing you off?

 

Are you OK with him stringing you along for sex? Turning you into a booty call at all hours, when he feels like hooking up?

 

If the answer to the above is "sure, it doesn't really phase me", then by all means, be safe and have fun. There's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to experience sex. So long as you respect yourself and your own desires and needs.

 

Also, understand that if you *want* a real connection, it's out there. You just have to be patient and go find it.

 

Generally speaking, sex with a partner, someone you feel a strong connection with is 100% better than sex with some random hookup.

[DreamP]

If you have to ask the questions, then it is a NO. You have sex because you are super horny, you are super attracted to somebody, you REALLY REALLY want to have sex, you are in a relationship, you are in love, etc. Any of these reasons and they always elicit a strong feeling. A luke warm question like that screams NOOOO.

[Tribble]

You SHOULD do what you want to do. Don't feel obliged in anyway. Because he's offered, because you want the experience, whatever.

 

 

I was very similar to you. 25, virgin and had someone only interested in a hook up. I also initially dismissed him but circumstances brought it right round again. And I slept with him. Do I regret it? No. But it would have been better if things had been different. I then got with someone and I wish he had been the first. Probably because I wanted him to be my last. It is true that sex with feelings is sooo much better. I don't really think about my first time. The experience and the guy mean literally nothing to me. They honestly may as well have not happened.

 

 

It depends how you can deal with that. Your genuine, deep down feelings about sex, relationships and guys. Can you leave it as just the physical experience? Because if you can't, it ain't worth it.

[Toodaloo]

The question is never "should" you sleep with him.

 

It is always do you "want" to sleep with him.

 

Doesn't sound to me as though you do...

 

Sounds to me as though he is using the classic "wear them down to get their knickers off" tactics...

 

No, you should not sleep with him. What you should do is cut him out of your life so that he can't mess with your head and so you can see the other options around that are available to you who will not behave like this.

 

You are just a "hump it and dump it" to him and you know this. You also do not want to be treated like this so tell him to go hump a tree and dump his tactics elsewhere.

 

Good luck OP. Do not drop your knickers for this one. He isn't worth it. Sex with someone who loves you is mind blowing. Hump and dumps are forgettable at best.

[Popsicle]

Went NC with my previous date for 2 months after I told him that I am not looking for hookup. He started to send out late night texts again. I dated a few after him but I still like him. I started to think maybe I should just sleep with him but I am hesitant because I am a mid-20s virgin and I used to think I should find someone with a connection and willing to take it slow. But I do want to experience the sex.

 

Just flow of thoughts so it might be difficult to read. Should I sleep with him?

 

No.

 

If late night texts is the best he can do, then you deserve better. Wait for a better guy.