40daysforthen253 Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 (edited) 1. when you ask her out prematurely and get no answer, what do you do? 2. when/how do you transition to phone 3. a girl said she prefers dinner to drinks. mostly worried she wants me to pay. how to handle? 4. Girls wants to meet me. I'm busy all week. What to do? 5. Girl wants to meet me, but she's vacationing. 6. please give me exact words for an ask. I've been making a vague proposal to "explore" a nearby area. it's beautiful so it's great to walk. getting flakes. friends telling me the ask is too vague. i could alternatively ask girls to meet me at the bar next door to my apt. though i really like walking. so options are (A) coffee in morning (less good) or (B) some other beverage we can walk with. any thoughts? 7. what about painting for a first date? 8. girl asks for drinks. can i propose a coffee place? 9. I'm in San Francisco. It's a spread-out city. I like proposing drinks right where I live. Area's good to visit for people. But how far should I ask girl to travel? 10. what primarily causes girls to flake/reject? especially when they've matched you on tinder. never sure if I'm dragging on interaction too long, doing the reverse etc. 11. you message on tinder. they message three hours later. how long do you wait to respond? Edited June 12, 2016 by 40daysforthen253
fands Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 1. when you ask her out prematurely and get no answer, what do you do? Going off prematurely is a common problem. Just try to relax, and things will be fine. 2. when/how do you transition to phone I think you swipe left. Or double-tap the icon that doesn't look like an icon. 3. a girl said she prefers dinner to drinks. mostly worried she wants me to pay. how to handle? Pay. 4. Girls wants to meet me. I'm busy all week. What to do? Quit your job, and start living! 5. Girl wants to meet me, but she's vacationing. Surprise her by joining her on vacation! 6. please give me exact words for an ask. I've been making a vague proposal to "explore" a nearby area. it's beautiful so it's great to walk. getting flakes. friends telling me the ask is too vague. i could alternatively ask girls to meet me at the bar next door to my apt. though i really like walking. so options are (A) coffee in morning (less good) or (B) some other beverage we can walk with. any thoughts? "I would love to explore your nearby areas. I like walking up mountains, but it's okay if yours are more like hills. I don't mind if your forest is thick, because I am a survival expert with complete mastery of advanced techniques." 7. what about painting for a first date? "I have some edible body paint that I would like to try out. You can be my canvas!" 8. girl asks for drinks. can i propose a coffee place? "If things go well I may propose to you over coffee." 9. I'm in San Francisco. It's a spread-out city. I like proposing drinks right where I live. Area's good to visit for people. But how far should I ask girl to travel? If it's more than 100 metres to your car, then it might be too much. 10. what primarily causes girls to flake/reject? especially when they've matched you on tinder. never sure if I'm dragging on interaction too long, doing the reverse etc. Real life is a bitch. Chemistry can be unpredictable. Strangely, people can be more than two-dimensional. 11. you message on tinder. they message three hours later. how long do you wait to respond? Keep hitting refresh until you see a new message. Then pounce. Life is waaay too short to keep the good ones waiting. 2
juniorrocha Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 1. Let it be. 2. Idgi 3. If you have the money, offer to pay for everything when you're done eating. If she's decent, she will want to share. Accept it, or if you want to make it a courtesy, pay for it. If she's not making a move about that, personally I would stop anything with her. 4. Invite her out during the weekend? Don't you have any free time during the nights or something? 5. Ask her when she's coming back, leave her alone while she's out, and then invite her to do something. 6. For a first meeting, maybe you should take her somewhere else. I would leave these areas to explore for later. It may scare her. 7. Eh, no. 8. I would suggest a cool bar. 9. That's up to her to accept it or not. Suggest and see how it goes. 10. Sometimes they're interested at first, then lose interest. Sometimes they're seeing someone they found to be more interesting than you. Sometimes they do it accidently. Sometimes they want you to chase her. There are a thousand reasons. But what you should put in your head is: if she's interested, she will want to meet you. If she can't go to where you suggested, then they will probably suggest another time or another place. If it seems like she's not interested, just leave her alone. 11. It doesn't matter. Life is too short to play silly games. 1
clia Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 1. when you ask her out prematurely and get no answer, what do you do? Move on. 2. when/how do you transition to phone Within a week. Ask for her number and call her. 3. a girl said she prefers dinner to drinks. mostly worried she wants me to pay. how to handle? Either decline dinner, pay for both dinners, or ask her to pay for her own dinner. 4. Girls wants to meet me. I'm busy all week. What to do? Suggest a time when you aren't busy. But if it's too far out, most girls will move on to another guy. Surely you can find an hour for a quick meet. 5. Girl wants to meet me, but she's vacationing. Tell her to contact you when she gets home to set up a time to meet. 6. please give me exact words for an ask. I've been making a vague proposal to "explore" a nearby area. it's beautiful so it's great to walk. getting flakes. friends telling me the ask is too vague. i could alternatively ask girls to meet me at the bar next door to my apt. though i really like walking. so options are (A) coffee in morning (less good) or (B) some other beverage we can walk with. any thoughts? Meeting for a drink is good. If it goes well, you can go for a walk after. 7. what about painting for a first date? Sure. 8. girl asks for drinks. can i propose a coffee place? You can propose whatever you want. She may or may not be into it. 9. I'm in San Francisco. It's a spread-out city. I like proposing drinks right where I live. Area's good to visit for people. But how far should I ask girl to travel? For a first meet, you should either pick a place mid way between the two of you, or you should go to her. You shouldn't be asking her to travel further than you are traveling, unless she suggests coming to you. 10. what primarily causes girls to flake/reject? especially when they've matched you on tinder. never sure if I'm dragging on interaction too long, doing the reverse etc. Something turns her off, she met someone else, or she is just meh about you and decides you aren't worth the effort. 11. you message on tinder. they message three hours later. how long do you wait to respond? You respond when it's convenient for you to respond. 1
WhirlwindGuy Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 I will just add, Tinder seems to be ripe with flakes and catfish. I have only had 1 good date come from tinder. I have matched with over 20 or so women and I would say 75% of them will either never talk, or respond very vaguely and then never talk. out of the 25% of the ones that actually have the conversation, 0 of them have been good long term potentials. All seem to have some serious baggage or hindrance. Of course, this is ONLY my experience. Your mileage may vary.
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