Tressugar Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 (edited) I'm thinking on rejoining a dating website. Not to find dates...obviously that's a no go because online dating doesn't work, but to chat with people on there without any expectations. I'm at a stage in my life where I have no one. All of my peers are married with young babies at home and they're super busy with life. I'm freshly out of a marriage that didn't work for the obvious reasons. My now ex kept me isolated so I wasn't able to make more friends. Do you I'm kidding myself to even think that even chatting with the anonymous online can possibly forge and foster a superficial friendship? Edited June 12, 2016 by Tressugar
Satu Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 snip Do you I'm kidding myself to even think that even chatting with the anonymous online can possibly forge and foster a superficial friendship? No, I don't think so, but you'd probably make friends more easily if you went down the 'shared interests route.' I met one of my partners at an Astronomical Society meeting, and made two of my best friends through a Violin group. One good thing about shared interests, is that you've got something to talk about right from the start. Good luck. 1
SwordofFlame Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 There's plenty of people on OLD sites/apps looking to make friends. So what you would be doing is actually not all that uncommon. 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 I'm thinking on rejoining a dating website. Not to find dates...obviously that's a no go because online dating doesn't work, but to chat with people on there without any expectations. I'm at a stage in my life where I have no one. All of my peers are married with young babies at home and they're super busy with life. I'm freshly out of a marriage that didn't work for the obvious reasons. My now ex kept me isolated so I wasn't able to make more friends. Do you I'm kidding myself to even think that even chatting with the anonymous online can possibly forge and foster a superficial friendship? I think by chatting online, friendships or whatever you'd like to start with the opposite sex are somewhat superficial by default with some. You can try, but it's a kid in the candy store mentality out there and women have tons of options. Google "The Husband Store" or "The Paradox of Choice" and you'll know what I mean. One moment you'll have a date set up and then *poof* she vanishes without a trace because she saw something SLIGHTLY better. 3
Lovelorn00 Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 I joined a "Meetup" group a few months ago for just that reason. All of my friends are busy with kids and whatnot, so they can never do anything. The Meetup groups allow you to find and hang out with people who share the same interests, but it's not specifically for dating - just for hanging out. I've been to a few group gatherings, and I have enjoyed myself each time. Also, FYI - the whole "kid in a candy store" thing works both ways. 3
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 Also, FYI - the whole "kid in a candy store" thing works both ways. Sorry for not qualifying it with the ol' "other gender does it too". lol
MGX Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 I think by chatting online, friendships or whatever you'd like to start with the opposite sex are somewhat superficial by default with some. You can try, but it's a kid in the candy store mentality out there and women have tons of options. Google "The Husband Store" or "The Paradox of Choice" and you'll know what I mean. One moment you'll have a date set up and then *poof* she vanishes without a trace because she saw something SLIGHTLY better. Still smarting over that tall chick, eh? I've made a few very good friends on collector websites. Socializing with people who are into the same things that you are could help tremendously. Especially local folks.
Author Tressugar Posted June 14, 2016 Author Posted June 14, 2016 I'm already on Meetup.com. Apparently I only like the same things as old memaws have interests in. So that doesn't help very much. I'm not into hot rods, guns, sports or anything of the sort, so...yeah. I guess my goose is cooked. But I am in contact with a Jamaican guy who seems to take a liking to me. We exchanged numbers and we've been chatting like non stop. I'm not putting my eggs into one basket, but it's nice to chat with someone who's not sex talking me for once.
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