Angele Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Hi, guys! My situation is like this- I spent like 5 years out of my original country. There were the difficult situations with very consuming job I was doing at the time, and most of the time I would be very lonly or unhappy.Only thing that was constant was money. My salary was quite big! However, I spent few yeras in between with my at the that time bf, which was so nice expirience. We were so good as friends and as lovers. The connection was so strong and we both enjoyed a lot. Never the less, it turnd out that he had affair with other girl at the time when I would travel a lot cause of my job. The girl called me and told me the story, plus she showed me the pics that proved what she was saying. Actually, every time I would travel, two of them would meet. It all lasted for few months, and I can say he became weired with me. The girl, btw single mum, also had few instagram pics with him. So sure I believed complitely. I told my bf everything and showed him the pics, and ofc broke up! He didn't try to hold me up at all. Just said he was sad but if I decided like that he is more than ok. For six months we didn't see each other, we didn't talk at all, he blocked me on a instagram but sometimes he would like my pics on fb. He and that girl broke up one month after I dumped him. Sometimes I would see his boyfriends, that I really liked, and they would call me to check on me, but we would never talk about my ex... I staretd being very unhappy about my job and just decided to resigned, as I couldn't find any satisfaction I applied for the other Company. Cause of that I left the country I was living for 5 years and came back home. Just the last night before I will leave I went out for few drinks with my collegues. I met my ex, after six months. I told him that was it, that I m leaving in few hours and I m not gonna come back. I said good bye n only kissed him in cheek, still very angry on him. After that he started calling me, texting and so on. Now when I left the country!!! He insists that we should stay good friends, but which friends when we live in different continentes now?? He hurt me so much!!! Basically, when I submit it all, it's so uncomfortable situation... How do you see it, any advices. Thanx for reading 1
hippychick3 Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 It doesn't matter what he wants. He can't "insist" on anything. You decide who your friends are, and I would hope you'd decide this jerk is not worthy of a friendship with you. Continue your life and cut all ties. You need to have NC in order to completely heal from this. 2
Author Angele Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 Yeah, thank you for the reply. I know it's not worthy, but it all effected me a lot. First of all my plan was never to see his face again, and than it happened just before I will leave the country. And btw, I was sure he will never call me on my cell in his life...and than it happened few hours before my flight!!!... After I moved I am recieving face time calls and texts...And now WHAT??? One big nothing 1
Satu Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 He has no right to insist on anything. Do what you want to do. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means he might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete him from all social media. *No monitoring of him on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying. Take care.
stillafool Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Yes, just block him from reaching you and you won't have to put up with his nonsense. 1
Author Angele Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 Thank you, guys! Ofc I should block him, but the thing is he was really smth spacial in my life. I don't know if broke me down more his cheating or the fact that he did't even fight for me. I am telling you, not even one massage after break up, until the night before I will leave for always. Sure it's easy to block someone, but the feelings you can't earse so easily. He messed my inner world up again :( 1
Satu Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Thank you, guys! Ofc I should block him, but the thing is he was really smth spacial in my life. I don't know if broke me down more his cheating or the fact that he did't even fight for me. I am telling you, not even one massage after break up, until the night before I will leave for always. Sure it's easy to block someone, but the feelings you can't earse so easily. He messed my inner world up again :( When you look through the keyhole, and see the clown who punched you the last time you opened the door to him, don't open the door... 2
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