AllHeartsHaveDarts Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 I met up with a guy who lives across the country (long story on how we started talking, but we really hit it off and decided to meet up in another city). Long story short, we had been talking for a little over a month. We shared many pictures and videos (not inappropriate ones) so there were no surprises when we met. We had a good time, and the first night he made a move and we became intimate although we didn't actually have sex. The next night/rest of the trip, he didn't lay a hand on me until we parted ways. When we said goodbye he hugged and kissed me. He asked me a couple of times if I'm going to come visit where he lives and I said I planned to (I have some friends who live near him and he knew that). Our communication has been somewhat sporadic since then but he always initiates it and he is very busy right now. I am very confused because I know he at least was attracted to me, and I felt I gave him cues to be somewhat physical and he wasn't. I have purposefully not been initiating conversation just in case he wanted an easy out. He has yet to mention me coming to see him again should I stop talking to him?
smackie9 Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 (edited) he wanted damn sex and after spending money getting to you he was denied...what do you think he is thinking? sorry but duh he feels you just wasted his time. Save yourself from him and find someone locally that would be more worthy of your time. Edited June 12, 2016 by smackie9
Author AllHeartsHaveDarts Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 He got his, if you will. We just didn't actually do the deed. I didn't deny him. And if that's all he was after why bother going so far and spending money when he could easily get that in his area? And why continue to contact me?
Stage5Clinger Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Let's be honest here there were no real sparks between you two and text messaging is not going to turn that around.
Author AllHeartsHaveDarts Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 That's fine, but any input on why he would keep contacting me?
Stage5Clinger Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 He incorrectly thinks he can change things and make it work out somehow.
Zahara Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 He got his, if you will. We just didn't actually do the deed. I didn't deny him. And if that's all he was after why bother going so far and spending money when he could easily get that in his area? And why continue to contact me? He probably traveled to see you because of the initial excitement of it all. It could possibly be that he got his taste and that high has died down. Decide how much you want to invest in this realistically.
scorpiogirl Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Whatever you do, do NOT spend money to go and see him. I find it very off-putting when a man asks if I'm going to go to his city or his part of the world. It's the height of laziness. If you wanted to have sex with him, you could've initiated that. If you want to know where you stand ( though it's clear to me) then ask him. If he wants to see you, he can make proper arrangements. He can invite you to see him specifically. NOT tell you maybe you can "hang out" when you happen to travel to see your friends. He can also make arrangements to come and see you. If he's not making even this minimum effort then what are you still doing keeping communication open? What are his text messages about? If you're questioning where you stand, you already know where you stand.
Author AllHeartsHaveDarts Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 His text messages are mostly like they were before we met up. Either saying hey and asking what I'm doing/telling me random details about his day, or sending me things he knows I'd find funny. It has only been a few days since I saw him.
Author AllHeartsHaveDarts Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 He incorrectly thinks he can change things and make it work out somehow. I'm not sure what you mean. In any event, I told him that I like him but I didn't get that vibe from him and if I am mistaken to let me know, otherwise it was nice meeting him. He's in training right now so he can't answer right away, but I don't expect to hear from him anyway.
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