grik Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 My Girlfriend of 4months has been going through a lot and i have noticed when she does its like she blocks me out of her life and deals with it on her own. It hurts because she neglects me communication becomes less and even though she initiates it affection is reduced to zero sometimes it's been happening for 3weeks now. We Also In A Long Distance relationship and has a beautiful 4yr old daughter iv talked to her about it the 1st tym I asked if she still loved and wanted to still be with me she answered yes and nothing has changed from her side she was actually suprised that i thought something was wrong and she eventually opened up and started crying so bad telling me what was goin on, we talked about it and she was okay kinda made us closer and then 4 days later started drifting away again. i let it go being queit for 3 more days and I couldn't anymore and asked her to tell me the truth because it felt I was really on my own in this even from our text she sent were dry she last told me she loved me on her own 3weeks back I had heard enough and I asked her 1st via text she ignored me and tried calling same thing and then called late at night when I was sleeping and said she couldn't sleep thinking about us everything is fyn between us and she really wants to be with me if she didnt she would have told me a long time ago just situations at her work and her family just make her feel she wants to cut evrything out and be on her own she also started going for conselling. she said she really wants to be with me and hopefully things will get back to normal In a few days or so.its been 2 weeks since I heard this story How Much longer do I give her? Might this be a sign maybe she doesn't want to be with me anymore? what can i do for her considering the distance even in terms of communication? .
True Gent Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 My advice to you is forget about what you can do for her and think about what you can do for yourself. What is she doing for you? Nothing! That's right she is doing nothing for you apart from keeping you dangling in the background because you are allowing her to do so. This sounds like very similar behaviour to the woman I was seeing for the last 4 months. Issues in one form or another and very flakey push/pull behaviour. One moment they declare how much the want you in their life and then the next you don't see of hear from them for days on end because she has stuff going on and needs to sort her **** out. Just be kind to yourself and cut yourself loose from this, it's not a loving relationship it's a woman with issues having a man chase after her no matter how much she ignores him. She feels good having the attention and feeling like someone is out there pining after her. Take back some self respect and tell her you've had enough and move on. It sounds harsh, but honestly it's the best thing you can do (for you)!
Satu Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Focus on yourself. Do whats good for you, what you enjoy. You can't solve her problems. Take care. 1
mikeylo Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Maybe the reason she doesn't share her problems with you is because she believes you can't be of any help? Some people do like to solve their problems themselves rather than leaning on anyone. If anything , I guess you are adding to her problems by making it about you.
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