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That "more than friend but less than lover" guy

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So I met a guy online. I grew to love him, two years went by and then early this year I told him how I felt. I knew he liked me from the way we spoke, when we met there was chemistry! I was reluctant to tell him because we are of different faiths and he always said he'd never marry someone from another faith. I tried to blank him for months but then finally decided I owed him an explanation for my blanking and felt I needed closure.

I wasnt expecting him to admit he liked me too. But he did.

Since then our flirtation and chemistry has intensified but hes never asked me out. I feel committed to him but aloof too as I knew this guy was a time waster. But hes always there for me. He never dates. He cant let me go but cant be with me. I grew sick of it and started to date.

Met the perfect guy. Thing is, I cant stop texting the other guy. Hes like my backup plan but i feel for him. He gets me like no one else. Im stuck in limbo I cant cut it off but I cant carry on. I know I have to cut it off but how? Please help me..

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He cant let me go but cant be with me. I grew sick of it and started to date.

 

Hes like my backup plan but i feel for him.

 

Your backup plan how exactly? He's never asked you out even after you made it easy for him to do so. Why are you feeling sorry for a guy who quite deliberately chooses to remain single? Don't kid yourself he's not dating because he's hung up on you. If he was he'd have asked you out the instant you confessed feelings, but he didn't.

 

Face it. He likes things exactly as they are. :) The only person hung up here is you and I can't for the life of me think why. He's demonstrated to you he has zero intention of ever being with you.

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Accept reality:

 

He sees you as a friend.

 

He has no romantic interest in you whatsoever.

 

Let it be what it is.

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I feel like a mug for allowing him to do this to me I just dont know how to let go.

You're both right I am just kidding myself. How do u cut someone like this off? Considering we're friends too.

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