Sarah2015 Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 So I met this guy online and he is very interested and asks me lots of questions but the problem is that he is working overseas and wont be back until August. It seems like he wold like to keep talking and eventually maybe meet up when he returns. Is this a good idea? I am well aware of how premature texting can lead to unrealistic expectations and just amount to lots of wasted time. What should I do? 1
BaileyB Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Not to mention cat fishing... This guy could be anyone because you dont know anything about him. I would never pursue this... If you must, tell him to contact you when he returns (assuming he lives near you). Please continue looking for someone with whom you have a realistic chance of meeting/dating. 3
smackie9 Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Don't bother with the texting. Just tell him to get in touch with you when he gets back in town. Next thing you do is keep your options open and date other guys in the meantime. If you are still available when he gets back then arrange to meet. never invest your time in someone you haven't even met yet, it's a waste of your time. 3
Author Sarah2015 Posted June 11, 2016 Author Posted June 11, 2016 so far, with what he has told me, I've done some talking on facebook etc and it all checks out. I don't think he is making anything up but I think I will just tell him to contact me when he gets back 2
morrowrd Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Just don't make the mistake of saying "I love you" or create the illusion that you are his girlfriend without having the opportunity to meet in person. Keep the texting to getting to know each other, and you will be fine. I'm sure it will tip into the romantic regions of messaging, especially because that's what you both want. What you don't want however, is to get caught up in the place where if you're dating someone who actually lives here, you'd feel like you were cheating because of unrealistic promises you've made. 1
Satu Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 nothing ventured, nothing gained. Just don't make the mistake of saying "i love you" or create the illusion that you are his girlfriend without having the opportunity to meet in person. Keep the texting to getting to know each other, and you will be fine. I'm sure it will tip into the romantic regions of messaging, especially because that's what you both want. What you don't want however, is to get caught up in the place where if you're dating someone who actually lives here, you'd feel like you were cheating because of unrealistic promises you've made. ^^^ this ^^^
Buddhist Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 I'd give him your email address, communicate once per week and plan to meet up in August. Low commitment on both sides but leaves the door open. Simple.
hippychick3 Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Don't bother with the texting. Just tell him to get in touch with you when he gets back in town. Next thing you do is keep your options open and date other guys in the meantime. If you are still available when he gets back then arrange to meet. never invest your time in someone you haven't even met yet, it's a waste of your time. Exactly. You can leave it open to meeting up in the future if and when he is in your area. But until then, don't waste your time and energy staying in touch. If could lead to a sense of false intimacy with a stranger AND limit you from fully meeting and dating others in your area. When I was still dating, I was contacted by a guy who was separated but not yet divorced. He assured me that his divorce would be final in a couple months. Since he seemed like a good guy and my personal policy was to not date anyone who was married (separated is still married in my state), I told him I was not interested in meeting up until his divorce was final and to contact me again at that time. It was implied that we would not be communicating until then. 2 months later, he contacted me to tell me his divorce was final and we ended up dating for a couple months. Just "table" it for now and keep dating others.
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