Author tuxedo cat Posted June 16, 2016 Author Posted June 16, 2016 Right, and someone can gain weight pretty quickly in 6 months, too. I've seen it happen with women. The funny thing is, some of these women who didn't respond to my emails...who were thin an attractive years ago are still online and saw that now they currently gained a hefty amount of weight and I thought, "Wow, that was a bullet dodged!" lol Sadly, they still mentally think they are hot and don't have the awareness have being unappealing overweight and still think they are has hot and probably thin as they were months ago. I guess anything is possible. The most I've ever gained in 6 months is 5 lbs which I promptly lost. The funny thing is most of those pictures ppl use online are older than 6 months. Maybe ppl should start demanding Exif data from prospective dates.
Author tuxedo cat Posted June 16, 2016 Author Posted June 16, 2016 (edited) So a couple of days ago I had another awkward texting convo with a guy off tinder. I ended up blocking his number. I didn't find him rude but I just was getting a weird vibe. Do you think I made the right call? We were having a normal text conversation. He seemed smart and interesting (he's a professor in the city). Suddenly he asks for my height. I gave it to him. I figured he was trying to get an inkling of my body type because of the lack of full length photos. So I told him that "I'm 120 lbs ." Then he said "Any other measurements?" I wrote, "uh, is that a serious question." He didn't respond so I wrote "Ha, B/C cup, 7.5 shoe. Want my social too?" He gave me his height and weight and then asked me if I could wear something revealing on our first date. I said to him "Lol. I usually like to keep things casual on the first date." Then he asked what my style is. So I described it. How to interpret this convo? I didn't feel like he was rude/hostile like the other dude but he made me feel sort of uncomfortable so I blocked his number. I'm going to take a break from Tinder. It's too much and I may be seeing someone anyway. Edited June 16, 2016 by tuxedo cat
joseb Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 You can avoid a lot of these questions and problems if you post decent shots. Have you still not posted one? If not, I'm getting the feeling you like the drama Now that said, I do agree that this last guy sounded a bit odd. 2
Jabron1 Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 That guy was just weird. "What are your measurements?" lol. This isn't silence of the lambs No offence, but this thread has made me laugh loads. Try and see the funny side, and not let things get you down. 1
TheFinalWord Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 So a couple of days ago I had another awkward texting convo with a guy off tinder. I ended up blocking his number. I didn't find him rude but I just was getting a weird vibe. Do you think I made the right call? We were having a normal text conversation. He seemed smart and interesting (he's a professor in the city). Suddenly he asks for my height. I gave it to him. I figured he was trying to get an inkling of my body type because of the lack of full length photos. So I told him that "I'm 120 lbs ." Then he said "Any other measurements?" I wrote, "uh, is that a serious question." He didn't respond so I wrote "Ha, B/C cup, 7.5 shoe. Want my social too?" He gave me his height and weight and then asked me if I could wear something revealing on our first date. I said to him "Lol. I usually like to keep things casual on the first date." Then he asked what my style is. So I described it. How to interpret this convo? I didn't feel like he was rude/hostile like the other dude but he made me feel sort of uncomfortable so I blocked his number. I'm going to take a break from Tinder. It's too much and I may be seeing someone anyway. Tinder is a hook up site, for the most part. Men there are primarily looking for quick, easy sex. I would recommend some other websites if you want to engage in online dating. 1
karena70 Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 That guy was just weird. "What are your measurements?" lol. This isn't silence of the lambs No offence, but this thread has made me laugh loads. Try and see the funny side, and not let things get you down. Jabron, I might be testy if you dated my daughter, but your sttitude about things rolling off your back is spot on. People who take EVERY messag and EVERY date and EVERY unanswered text so seriously are the ones who are constantly in angst and not very successful. Your ability to keep things in perspective and laugh off the off stuff is probably part of why you succeed.
anika99 Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 This whole thing just sounds like a huge flesh circus. A bunch of people playing a game of musical chairs. Jesus, if this is what 'dating' has been reduced to - a bunch of strangers rating each others' appearance and acting as though meeting for coffee for 20 minutes is a HUGE sacrifice and a precious waste of their OH SO VALUABLE TIME, then I feel sorry for ya'll. None of these people are serious about making a real connection. It just sounds like they'll meet someone if they find them attractive, invest some of their OH SO PRECIOUS TIME into a couple of dates with that person in the hopes of getting laid by date two or three - and then they're off to the next conquest. What would these fools have done 20 years ago - before smart phones and computers and iPads and everything else? They would have had to actually MEET people when they were out and about, talking to them face to face and getting phone numbers and calling them and getting to know them - the way people have always done for years. The most effort these idiots make now is swiping to the left or right. OP, I feel your pain. Sorry you're stuck in the idiot pool. The sad thing about online dating is that everyone bases their selections on the photos when in real life we often click and find chemistry with people who are not necessarily all that attractive to us based on looks alone. My first big love was totally not my type. He wasn't ugly or anything, he was just the opposite of what I considered attractive at that time. His looks weren't my cup of tea even though he was attractive. However the first time I met him we sat all night in a coffee shop talking and I found him magnetic. We ended up being together for almost 10 years and had two kids together. Had I never met him in real life and he just popped up on some dating site I would have looked at his photo and went "nope" and completely dismissed him. Sad.
joseb Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Tinder is a hook up site, for the most part. Men there are primarily looking for quick, easy sex. I would recommend some other websites if you want to engage in online dating. Yes and no. It might have started out mainly as a hookup site. But now it's pretty much like other OLD, with most people looking for a relationship. It has the same pros and cons as most forms of OLD.
cg16 Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 He was probably checking your fb to see if you had more variety or updated pics. And I assume you didn't I agree, i had a woman who only sent me a head shot and I definitely needed to see more before meeting face to face.
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