LookAtThisPOst Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Wow, I think he** just froze over as I have a woman taller than me interested in me. Met her on OK Cupid. I got her digits and we started texting and I said, "Just to make sure, you know I'm 5'8", right?" (She is 5'9".) She said she knew and she knew that she was taller, and if she used height as a weeding out process (which most women do online), that she'd eliminate half the eligible bachelors. lol Which is true, which has always made me wonder why women online shoot themselves in the foot by using some superficial criteria like that, but...they do. Finally...a woman that does NOT. 8
GemmaUK Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 (edited) Whoop! Good for you and good luck! Have to admit that height does matter to me but as I am 5ft and half an inch 5ft 3in works for me.. At 5tf 8in you are tall! It would have been great to hear the good news without you feeling you had to mention women who are interested in men taller than yourself - but either way good news! Edited June 11, 2016 by GemmaUK 3
GemmaUK Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Do men care about female height? Yes, some do. I have been rejected for being too short several times on OLD. 1
Erik30 Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Do men care about female height? Only in the sense like the op was thinking. I don't care at all, but usually if the girl is the same height or taller you're wasting your time. So I don't even bother trying with tall women. (I'm 5'9) But you can often tell when the girl really cares about height. They'll write something like "I'm ....ft tall and like to wear heels " I've seen that one a lot. 1
JustGettingBy Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Sounds like you found yourself a good one. Congrats. 1
Philosopher Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Do men care about female height? I generally am not that bothered about female height, providing they are not more than an inch taller than me. I am 5'9", few women are taller than this so generally this not an issue. I have generally found that the shorter the women, the more likely they are reply. Those women whom are my height or only slightly shorter than me rarely reply. Due to this therefore I tend to message women whom are of average height or shorter as I know I am more likely to get a reply from them.
carhill Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Heh, tall women in heels are hot Good luck and, if she likes wearing them, IMO encourage that. Later on, should things go well, it can be, well, yeah When's the first meet? 1
scorpiogirl Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 Which is true, which has always made me wonder why women online shoot themselves in the foot by using some superficial criteria like that, but...they do. Finally...a woman that does NOT. I know right. I don't get the superficial criteria men use either. Like a woman's weight. The clothes she chooses to wear. Things like this that have nothing to do with a person's character. It's crazy what some people will criticise isn't it? Well done for finding a woman who looks beyond superficial things. There are many who don't. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 (edited) Do men care about female height? Yes, some do...ideal height for a woman is no taller than 5'6ish"....IMO Runway models aside, most garden variety tall women look awkward as hell ..They seem to look "unbalanced"...I dunno...And they have enormous feet, which is a huge turnoff for a lot of men... My 02....your mileage may vary, as they say... TFY Edited June 12, 2016 by thefooloftheyear 1
xxoo Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Maybe she's just as superficial, but gets hot for shorter guys Would that be ok? 2
scorpiogirl Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Maybe she's just as superficial, but gets hot for shorter guys Would that be ok? Noooo xxoo that would be a fetish, no? Like when men go to a plus-size meet up to socialise with fat women. Fetishes are bad. Go sit in your corner for suggesting that, young lady! 1
SammySammy Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Yes, some do...ideal height for a woman is no taller than 5'6ish"....IMO Runway models aside, most garden variety tall women look awkward as hell ..They seem to look "unbalanced"...I dunno...And they have enormous feet, which is a huge turnoff for a lot of men... My 02....your mileage may vary, as they say... TFY Models. Reminds me of grad school. She was getting her Doctorate. I was getting my Master's. Had a model's figure - tall, slim, but curvy. From the Bahamas, so she had this exotic look and accent. The attention this woman got from men was crazy, but for some reason she liked me. She was about 6' 4". I'm 5' 10". The real problem though, as you alluded, was she had big hands and feet. Hands bigger than mine. Feet bigger than mine. I couldn't get past that. I kept thinking ... "if I get this thing home and find out it has a penis bigger than mine, then one or both of us is going to jail". smh Superficial and shallow ... I'll be that. Tempted so many times to just go for it. Couldn't do it. 4
Tressugar Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 I resent reading that tall women look awkward. I am 5'7" and I am gorgeous! Size 8 shoes and lady sized hands with slender fingers. HWP. I attract attention from men and women. A lot of women would kill to be my height. 1
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 Think I may have spoke too soon, but we'll see. A woman I just started talking to on OK Cupid Friday (yes, the tall one). Today I just found out her profile says when I got to it: "Sorry, this profile is either private or doesn’t exist." Yes, at least I did get her actual phone # and we texted recently...now I'm seeing this and every time I've had this happen, they ghosted on me. Some have told me that some of these people actually DO exist, but they either. 1. Hide their account 2. They blocked you (which would be silly because i have her real phone #) 3. They actually deleted their account. But I've even heard this happening on POF where people get the ball rolling with someone, only to have their account vanish. Thoughts on this?
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 I was reading an article the other day. Apparently the author was a rather tall woman, around 6 feet and was hassling tall women in general to not be so picky when it comes to height...esp. if you're Amazon, because you're eliminating a lot of men from the dating pool. Like take a 6'0" tall woman...she's already man-height. So already she eliminates a lot from their dating pool. She was saying some tall women that tall actually since they feel like in the minority, that they feel probably just as insecure about their height as short men and thus...will date short men. lol
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 Sadly, I just saw a 5'2", 42-year old woman say to "email her only if you're 5'10"). Pretty sad as I figure I usually have a shot at women THAT small. LOL Even with heels she's still shorter than me.
Hyperfocal Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Ahh, I got the same deal going on. Lady is moving to my city in 2 months, her profile is in that "Sorry, this profile is either private or doesn’t exist." mode 70% of the time. We have chatted and agreed to dinner. She simply doesn't want OLD attention being she's not here yet. I've had others that have a "here you see me here you don't" profile. Keep an eye out, it may blink again.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 Ahh, I got the same deal going on. Lady is moving to my city in 2 months, her profile is in that "Sorry, this profile is either private or doesn’t exist." mode 70% of the time. We have chatted and agreed to dinner. She simply doesn't want OLD attention being she's not here yet. I've had others that have a "here you see me here you don't" profile. Keep an eye out, it may blink again. An update: I sent her a text asking her about this and asked in that text, jokingly, if she got tired of the weirdos contacting her, present company excluded, lol!" And she said, "Yes, It's not the place for me and the more I think about dating, the more I realize I'm not ready for it. (What kind of line of crap is that, right? lol) "I'll give you a buzz if you change your mind" I almost said, "Don't bother." but instead said, "Well, I wish you told me that when before you gave me your #, but okay :)" She didn't respond to that one, which means she doesn't give a crap or don't expect to hear from her again.. Yet another catfish.
Art_Critic Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 You couldn't have massaged it to a meetup, I have a hard time understanding why you would call her out on that rather than taking the number you have and making something out of that, seems like you shot yourself in the foot... 4
MidwestUSA Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 You couldn't have massaged it to a meetup, I have a hard time understanding why you would call her out on that rather than taking the number you have and making something out of that, seems like you shot yourself in the foot... Yep. Texting someone letting them know you're stalking their profile is never a good idea. I have a hint. Anytime I had a decent enough interest in someone, I printed the profile out. I could refer back to it as needed (for details on likes/dislikes, hobbies, etc.) without EVER going back to the site. That way, they don't know if I'm obsessively looking at them. And I didn't know what they were or weren't, doing on there. Because it's NOT MY business. Then I FORGET the site, for the time being,
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 You couldn't have massaged it to a meetup, I have a hard time understanding why you would call her out on that rather than taking the number you have and making something out of that, seems like you shot yourself in the foot... How in the world did I shoot myself in the foot. We exchanged #'s, and I sent a text saying a few words, but she had to go to a work meeting, so thusly couldn't ask her then, and said she'd catch up with me this weekend anyhow That's when I was going to ask her out. Soon after, that's when she catfished. Not sure why you are trying to take aim at this me being MY fault. 1
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 12, 2016 Author Posted June 12, 2016 Yep. Texting someone letting them know you're stalking their profile is never a good idea. I have a hint. Anytime I had a decent enough interest in someone, I printed the profile out. I could refer back to it as needed (for details on likes/dislikes, hobbies, etc.) without EVER going back to the site. That way, they don't know if I'm obsessively looking at them. And I didn't know what they were or weren't, doing on there. Because it's NOT MY business. Then I FORGET the site, for the time being, "Stalking" their profile? Really? First of all, there was no profile to be stalked. I wasn't "obsessively" looking at their profile. Seriously, you must have a run-away imagination. lol I was actually checking my inbox and noticed a "greyed out" profile picture, clicked on it and it was gone, however, our correspondence was still there. Seriously, not sure what kind of conjuring you did in your head to twist this all around.
Tressugar Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 OP, you didn't do anything wrong. Wait and see if she'll contact at some point. If not, if you're still interested in her, get in contact with her. OLD is notorious for game playing. It's for the true hard core gamers.
Imajerk17 Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 Well OP, I don't want to pile on, as I get that it is frustrating. I actually don't even think that it looked bad checking out her profile (I always do that too w no problems). However, I do think you made it too easy for her to cancel. You basically handed her an out. I mean, quite a bit of the time, I find myself looking forward to a lot of online dates the way I look forward to dentist appointments. It's nothing against the other person really. It's just: Meeting up with a stranger whom you aren't that sure yet if you will click may be a necessary part of dating but it is hardly fun. I go through with the meet I scheduled because (a) FOMO and everyone you connect with started out as a stranger at some point (b) I gave someone my word and I hate to back out. Now, she might have backed out no matter what. It's quite possible. However, I would have suggested a first meet and then if she backed out, so be it. She may have shown up not looking forward to it, just because she doesn't like to flake, and then to her surprise, she has a genuinely good time with you and is glad she didn't flake. 3
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