crazybestie101 Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 I met this reserved guy 2 years ago at my lab.. Last semester, he was in my class. From get go, i just thought him to be classmate. Plainly talking about school, career. Talked about my financial issue here and there.. I continued same way in my class but i noticed his changing behavior like he would stop me after class to talk to me.. he had even try to ask me for my number, i somehow escaped situation. My doubt grew stronger when he said he wanted to come to same graduate school as i am going to.. He also told me how he has been looking up school .. I told him how i have bf(fake) going to same school and planning to be moving in with bf.. But he still didn't get it..He started to send me creepy emails stating that how he wished he could go back in time and hold my hand( LOL WTF ).. He somehow thought i was interested in him.. I tried blocking his email but wasn't succesful. He again send me another email in total different tone like nothing happened..He said how he is proud of my career achievement and he is there for me if i need help .. Honestly, all this makes me nervous.. I feel like this dude is trying to follow me to my graduate school..i am afraid someday he is gonna show up in person.. i plan to ignore his attempts but how do i stop this ..
DreamP Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 Besides giving him not so subtle hints, have you outright told him you are not interested? You should. You can do it via email.
preraph Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 He is disrespecting you by pretending not to understand when you are trying to back him up, so you are going to have to put it in writing, "I'm not interested in a relationship with you anymore and want you to stop trying to contact me." You said you tried to block him, and he's getting around it, so you have no reason to be careful of his feelings now. He knows he's treading on thin ice. Just be blunt and block him, change your number, and tell any friends not to give him ANY info about where you're going to school or anything else. These guys like this are very hard to get rid of. You have to be brutal. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 i think you should be gentle with him..but upfront and straight to the point...........you dont need to be cruel...but you do need to be honest and upfront......no fake boyfriend......tell him the truth....when you lie...it honestly doesnt help...especially if he maybe knows you dont have a bf..reserved peopel often listen to conversations...rather than speak...so who knows what he has heard.. tell him you arent interested, if he wastes more time trying to date you he is missing out on finding who is right for him and tell him you wish him well in finding someone who is right for him.....because it isnt ever going to happen between him and you..... never lie......its a temporary fix...that isnt even a true fix to any situation you find yourself in..treat him like you would want to be treated if it were you being rejected....put yourself in his shoes...and be as gentle as you would want to be treated while getting rejected...but be honest...its the best way to deal with rejection.....deb 1
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