Lovesfool92 Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 Hi, So a brief overviee, I online dated and found mr perfect. We talked on the phone and texted for weeks and it felt like I'd known him my whole life. We met and it was exactly how we imagined. It was perfect.. We dated several times and then we were in a relationship (he instigated). We used to talk every lunch time and on his commute home from work and text all day long (as and when we could between work) and it felt like he was so into me. And then one day it stopped. He said his parents are going through a divorce and he's struggling to cope with everything that's going on in his life at the moment and doesn't want me to get caught in the crossfire and her hurt because he's not attentive or his mood is off. He told me he's crazy about me that he was truest falling in love with me and then we broke up. I was heart broken and left it a few days and then chased him I texted him and said meet me and let's talk, so we did and he said he'd made a mistake to throw it away and that I just had to be patient with him as his feelings are locked off at the moment as he's dealing with his life and that he'd try too to ensure I never feel like that so he'll try harder to talk to me about his feelings. We met last Saturday and had an amazing day together, and when he's with Me everything is perfect. Since then we've hardly spoken, he's distant and cold and when I try I hardly get anything back. I text first all the time. Sometimes I wake up and wonder if I'm even going to hear from my boyfriend that day at all. I understand he's having a tough time and I'm trying really hard to be patient but I feel so sad all the time In the beginning it felt like we were so close and in sync. I could tell when something was bothering him and vice versa because we communicated all day. And now, now I get a couple texts a day asking how I am and if I'm lucky a 5 minute phone call. He says he's crazy about me every time but why don't I feel what he's saying anymore? Before I could feel his love surround me, I could hear sincerity in his voice and see it in his eyes and now.. I don't feel anything from him and it breaks my heart. I've tried talking to him about it several times and he gets annoyed saying 'this again, I said be patient' or something along those lines. I'm so tired of waiting around for him, but I want him so much I can't let him go. I hope he'll come round and I guess I'm just waiting but how long do I wait? What do you think of it all? 1
spiderowl Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 You can tell if a guy is into you by his actions. This guy is not but he just daren't be honest and say so. I'm sorry things have changed for you when it was working so well for you. Maybe he was feeling a bit stifled - who knows? Regardless, I don't think you have done anything wrong. Just don't waste your time and heart on this guy any more. Others will probably advise you to go 'no contact' and there's a lot to be said for that. It makes it easier to cope with a break up. Sorry you are hurting. I'm sure you'll meet someone else in time and things will be better than with this guy. You might not think so now, because you are feeling sad, but it really can happen. 1
Tressugar Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 He's trying to distance himself from you...aka ghosting. Boo! 1
Tressugar Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 OP, men lie all the time about luvin' someone. I've been promised the moon, with no delivery. Stop listening to men and watch their actions. This will let you know how he feels about you. 1
Satu Posted June 12, 2016 Posted June 12, 2016 You like him more than he likes you. Let this one go, so that you can meet someone where the attraction is more equal. You'll be sad for a while, but ultimately you'll be happier. Take care.
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