mikeylo Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 How many times has it happened to the people on LS? Or has it ever happened ? We always hear that sometimes people fall in love with the most unexpected people at the most unexpected times but how often does this happen? For myself , it hasn't happened. It was an active search where I was actively dating and looking for the right partner till she came across. Then going on dates and eventually knowing that if I liked her or not or was it even worth pursuing a woman. They were usually set up by friends / family or someone I knew through acquaintances. So , for me , it was an effort. One of my friends has the most unexpected person at the most unexpected time , falling in love story. They had issues initially because they weren't expecting,lol , so had a hard time accepting and adjusting to the new found feelings. Any stories here ? 1
Shepp Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 I met my wife at school... I wasn't looking for love but I wouldn't say it was crazy unexpected.. lots of folks meet at school don't they? My cousin met his wife at uni, she lived the floor down from him in same block of flats. He got absolutely trashed one night and was knocking on her door, saying he'd lost his key instead of his. She opened up and was like you don't live here mate and left him outside, where he proceeded to pass out in the corridor. She then starts to worry something will happen to him out there and she'd feel responsible so she drags him into her flat. But her flat mates are all out and she was worried he'd wake up and be some pyscho or something so she decided to lock him in the kitchen. He literally woke up the next morning locked in her kitchen :lmao: I don't think they've gone a day without contact ever since! Pretty unexpected! 6
minimariah Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 it happened to me. i was NOT looking when i met my partner; in fact... i was done with love. i was convinced i lost the love of my life and i just wanted to be left alone, i was thinking -- i'll find happiness raising my daughter & being the best at what i do and call it a day. we met through our mutual friends and just... it really came out of nowhere for both of us. it's not THE most special story ever but the feelings did come unexpectedly. and we too had issues accepting it... we had issues recognizing it even...! OTHERS noticed before we did. we were lucky we even met, we met by pure accident. 2
Gloria25 Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 (edited) I'm not in "love", cuz for me love is very high it's "awe, admiration, and respect"...takes time to attribute that to someone. Now, I can honestly say that I'm very "smitten" with my current guy; and, gosh, me being "smitten" was totally unexpected. Last week I, just was like looking at him and I don't know it's that "look" like, I'm into this dude. I spent like most of early last week giving myself head smacks cuz I'm so scared that he knows that I'm smitten and I don't know what to do. I'm trying so hard to contain being smitten cuz our RL isn't gonna last. He's gonna move on to do bigger, better things and I'm trying to keep as detached as I can so that when that moment comes, it won't hurt as much. BTW, what scares me is that I'm not "smitten" cuz I'm one of those people who make decisions solely on emotions. This guy is attractive, fit, smart, great in bed, and he has a lot of qualities about him that I like in a guy...so it's not just "feeelings/emotions" for me, I really do like him. And, yes, this feel on me so unexpectedly, cuz after the drama with neighbor, I was bitter and didn't want to be open to feeling a thing for any guy. I lost any hope in meeting a decent guy. I felt like my neighbor is an example of what's left out there...but, really, my current guy actually makes me feel hopeful - even when what we have ends upon him moving on one day Edited June 11, 2016 by Gloria25 1
Gaeta Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 My cousin cut his hand at work and was taken to hospital. He was standing at a counter registering when a nurse standing close by fainted. He caught her with his 1 good arm and they have been married 20 years. 7
todreaminblue Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 i was actually talking this over with my mum yesterday......i dont get attracted to guys unexpectedly...normally i am friends with them for years and ill feel something more over time...except this one guy recently ...it was more or less straight up attraction..not sexual....but his inner strength..his spirituality..a calmness within him.... a solid resolve........not necessarily his looks....which normally takes me years to see.....i heard that clamness basically when i first met him.shocked me a bit..and i cant shake it......mum then admitted to me this is what in the past attracts her to a guy...inner strength ....strong heartedness..... its probably why when my mum was dating ......her dates were few and far between and the dates ...led to marriage.....or long term relationships...its when i have doubts about inner strength......and deviate from what i feel...or give excuses for what i feel...and chances....that it doesnt work out and then i dont trust my own intuition and it turns me off dating....runs in my family......i blame gentics....smilin..who knows... unexpected love to me.....has a purpose.....a design a reason for being there...its letting that purpose reveal itself which can often test a persons patience...because the reason isnt clear.... and we like to have tangible reasons for love...and unexpected love doesnt fit tangents....we doubt it being real love ..who knows....god only knows...thats my belief...and if you trust god...you trust love..god is all about love......whatever way it presents itself..........deb 1
dreamingoftigers Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 A mere couple of weeks after a broken engagement, a homeless man panhandled change off of me. A year and one day later, I married him. Let's just say it was unexpected, for both of us. 6
lana-banana Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 I was the lead analyst for a very complex project that spanned several departments and organizations. One day my friend said "Hey, (XYZ Office) is loaning us a supergenius engineer who can do (ABC). Can you meet to give him some context?" Well, we met and hashed things out, and somewhere in thr course of countless meetings and discussions and arguments and corporate conferenced and late-night project launches, I realized I was madly in love with this hotshot. Apparently it was mutual. The moral of the story is even if you're wearing an old blouse and a skirt with a ripped hemline and ranting like a crazy person about missed deadlines, if he's Mr. Right he will fall for you anyway. 5
Satu Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 I unexpectedly fell in love with myself after spending some time in counselling and doing a lot of journalling. 6
todreaminblue Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 I unexpectedly fell in love with myself after spending some time in counselling and doing a lot of journalling. smilin...classic.. sometimes i read my journal and i think who wrote this.....then i remember ...ahh i was a different person that day......i quite like her....might keep her around......other times i wish she would shut the hell up...with her perpetual butterflies flitting all over the words..... do you have that problem satu...:0)...but then again i sacked my shrink.....and let the butterflies roam free....my journal looks prettier now..deb 2
minimariah Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 A mere couple of weeks after a broken engagement, a homeless man panhandled change off of me. A year and one day later, I married him. Let's just say it was unexpected, for both of us. love all the stories on this thread but this one is very, very specially sweet. i'm very happy for you. 3
Satu Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 (edited) smilin...classic.. sometimes i read my journal and i think who wrote this.....then i remember ...ahh i was a different person that day......i quite like her....might keep her around......other times i wish she would shut the hell up...with her perpetual butterflies flitting all over the words..... do you have that problem satu...:0)...but then again i sacked my shrink.....and let the butterflies roam free....my journal looks prettier now..deb I came to a big point of completion where I realised that I'd achieved all my goals in therapy. I am a stable happy human When I was looking through old journals I fell in love with the writer. Life is good. Sometimes I think that you and I are quite similar Take care. Edited June 11, 2016 by Satu 3
dreamingoftigers Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 love all the stories on this thread but this one is very, very specially sweet. i'm very happy for you. We just had our tenth wedding anniversary on May 28th. And our second child is six weeks old 4
Author mikeylo Posted June 11, 2016 Author Posted June 11, 2016 The moral of the story is even if you're wearing an old blouse and a skirt with a ripped hemline and ranting like a crazy person about missed deadlines, if he's Mr. Right he will fall for you anyway. True that ! Its the personalities match. Add chemistry, physical attraction , compatibility in the mix ! It has to work both ways -- Ms Right will fall for him anyway ! It seems like these relationships do have a long life because each gets to see the other in different natural situations rather than all the set up formal , best behavior facade of dates. Then slowly you get to see the real person. It's the other way around in least expectations case. Whatever , these real life stories interesting. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted June 11, 2016 Posted June 11, 2016 True that ! Its the personalities match. Add chemistry, physical attraction , compatibility in the mix ! It has to work both ways -- Ms Right will fall for him anyway ! It seems like these relationships do have a long life because each gets to see the other in different natural situations rather than all the set up formal , best behavior facade of dates. Then slowly you get to see the real person. It's the other way around in least expectations case. Whatever , these real life stories interesting. Took me about a week to get interested in him. But he was really kind, good sense of humor and I liked hanging out with him. So many guys don't want to be friends. If he hadn't been at least willing to be friends, it would not have happened at all. The physical attraction doesn't happen for me with guys until I know them a little. I know a lot of weight men can look at a guy and want him in a lustful way. That has only happened TWICE in my whole life. Both were when I was 17. Its like there are two sets of criteria. I can see why guys are considered attractive to other women, but I don't feel any kind of rush. But my criteria is weird and specific, and I get a rush from it. Like some extra weight. I like that 'roundness' in men. But even still, I only notice it after I've spent a bit of time with a guy and felt what kind of personality he has. It took me about a weekish to notice my husband's blue eyes were doing something for me. My daughter has the same eyes and it's so precious to see the two of them together. She's so pretty. I know it might not be what the 'majority' of women go for, but I'm sure there's a decent percentage of women like me. Frankly, if the human race depended on men being physically attractive, we would have died out long ago 2
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