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I haven't dated in a years due to a horrible breakup I went through & it's very difficult for me to actually like a girl in terms of a relationship. In the past years after my breakup, I liked two girls & I'd been rejected which is fine.

 

I took a hobby to better myself and suppress my sadness & loneliness; I began to workout religiously. It was done wonders for me, but I met this amazing girl at the gym. She is beautiful inside and out.

 

We spoken before. Once we stood there in the middle of the room and we spoke for 2 hours; it didn't feel like two hours. Every time we see each other we hug, talk, etc. I finally got the courage to ask for her number & to my surprise she didn't hesitate and did. I asked her to hang out the following day & again, she said yes.

 

The next day, she texts me saying she forgot she had a family party. This is where I got a little doubtful. We spoken like always since then but I asked her to hang out twice and nothing. I think she just wants to be friends. Correct me if I'm wrong because I guess I'm being clouded with my false illusion that I actually have a chance because, well, I'm crushing.

 

Thank you for reading this. I don't get my feelings out ever & this is my only outlet to let the words out.

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When you say you asked her to hang out, do you mean you asked her to come to your house and watch tv or something? Because as a woman, even if I really like someone, I'm not going to put myself in that position before I know you really well. Maybe ask her on a proper date? If she says no to that, if take it as a sign she only wants to be friends.

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Just get clarification. Say you are interested in dating her, and tell her if she is not interested you won't have a problem with that. Clear communication solves all problems quite quickly.

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I haven't dated in a years due to a horrible breakup I went through & it's very difficult for me to actually like a girl in terms of a relationship. In the past years after my breakup, I liked two girls & I'd been rejected which is fine.

 

I took a hobby to better myself and suppress my sadness & loneliness; I began to workout religiously. It was done wonders for me, but I met this amazing girl at the gym. She is beautiful inside and out.

 

We spoken before. Once we stood there in the middle of the room and we spoke for 2 hours; it didn't feel like two hours. Every time we see each other we hug, talk, etc. I finally got the courage to ask for her number & to my surprise she didn't hesitate and did. I asked her to hang out the following day & again, she said yes.

 

The next day, she texts me saying she forgot she had a family party. This is where I got a little doubtful. We spoken like always since then but I asked her to hang out twice and nothing. I think she just wants to be friends. Correct me if I'm wrong because I guess I'm being clouded with my false illusion that I actually have a chance because, well, I'm crushing.

 

Thank you for reading this. I don't get my feelings out ever & this is my only outlet to let the words out.

 

Maybe she has a boyfriend. Do you know if this is the case?

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privategal Established Member

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Id say dont rush. If you got her number and asked her out twice and she didnt agree...dont ask again.

Id see her at the gym and still be polite and friendly and let her bring it up.

She knows how to get ahold of you now.

You made a brave move to get her number etc.

Now Id say, slow down,see how it plays out.

It isnt a rejection if she doesnt want to date. Remember you have been single awhile, she may have guys hitting on her right and left and so its hard to tell which guys are special. They all seem to be the same.

It hopefully has built some confidence to ask her number. Maybe she isnt the one or timing is wrong but your back in the game is the thing.

Be you, be real. Be confident and patient and take your time.

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Satu Established Member

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"Do you want to hang out?" wouldn't get me excited.

 

An invite to a gig, opera, art opening, play, show, ballet, might. (Probably would.)

 

An invite to a specific thing is good.

 

 

 

Take care.

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lf9022 New Member

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so i took a shot & i asked her out on a date. i got rejected. it hurt a lot but guess we live & we learn. life moves on. thank you everybody for your words of advice. it truly means a lot to me.

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Awww...OP don't throw in the towel just yet. With ol' gal at the gym, yes because you don't ever want to blur the lines where you work, eat, live and play. That's too close for comfort. Be open to meeting someone new.

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so i took a shot & i asked her out on a date. i got rejected. it hurt a lot but guess we live & we learn. life moves on. thank you everybody for your words of advice. it truly means a lot to me.

 

Well done, at least you tried, and now you know.

Always better to do that than wonder.

 

Gyms are tricky, but if she talked to you that long, I would be asking her out before two hours passed.

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thank you everybody for taking your time to asnwer.

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