Gymking Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Hi all, I will give you all the background info first: Basically I matched with a girl on tinder a few weeks ago, we started messaging, it went from tinder to snapchat then texting, we have been texting everyday since. lets just say texting is where my strengths lie, when it comes to putting it into real life dating/meeting I suck. texting had her eating out of my hand, it felt like she was super keen, we was sending huge paragraphs to each other it got to a point of practically sexting all before we met. It got to a point where it was getting pretty intense especially as we'd not met so we arranged to meet. I was stuck as I wasn't sure whether we were meeting just to hookup or as an actual date we both didn't really make it clear but we got along like a house on fire. I picked her up we went for a little drive we never had any awkward silences or ever struggling for things to talk about which was refreshing she was super hot and definitely the type of girl I could see my self seriously dating. through text we spoke about how she lived with parents but had her own living room in the house and it would be fine to go in there and chill and watch tv so she invited me back. We was sat talking laughing and watching tv but I never felt any right moments to turn things physical. Although we got along very well all I could think was she wasn't attracted to me in the intimate kind of way so I never bothered to push for anything ended the night with a peck on the cheek and I never thought id hear from her again. I was wrong, the next day texts resumed and we carried on speaking how we usually would, I was shocked ... i thought things went bad on a connection/intimate level but for her she said we got along super well and enjoyed seeing me. We arranged to meet a week later and go for a walk round a pond near hers and then go back to hers like before and chill/watch tv this time things improved she felt more comfortable she snuggled up to me i held her leg across mine etc things were great but still no god dam kiss I just suck at finding the perfect moment so again I left disappointed in myself but still happy that we both seem to like each other very much. so now where i'm starting to overthink/confuse the whole situation: When meeting her/texting it seems like we are dating and we both like each other but i cant help but think how we met = tinder, and the fact that she has recently got out of a 4 year relationship part of me thinks she just wants to hookup. I really like her and she is definitely the nicest girl I've met physically and personality wise. I don't want to screw things up we have a date/meet tomorrow planned and I am unsure what to do with her, I have been thinking does she want to go on a proper date or just do the whole chill thing hoping this time I make a god dam move what do you guys think about the whole situation am I missing signs what would you do in my shoes? date her properly? be straight up and ask her what she wants out of us meeting? I remember when we first got talking on tinder I asked her what isit your looking for she said to just meet people and see what happens which is pretty vague. any advice on my 3rd date would be great and my approach. Thanks
clia Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Take her out on a proper date and give her a kiss at the end. (Not on her couch.) 1
californiablonde Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 I think at this point its to early to figure out how the situation is going to play out. After all you said yourself that you thought she was not going to contact you again after the second date but she did. Right now I say like the above poster take her on a real deal date. Keep it calm an relaxed one way or another things take time to play out. Until she gives you real indications of a lack of interest I would not worry about what the future holds. Remember you are your own worst enemy. So go into with a positive and confident attitude. Self assuredness, not arrogance is very attractive. If you really feel the need you can kind of casually a slide question or two over dinner or some place where you can talk without to much pressure. But again it must be very light and easy. Again I would just hold off a bit as if a hook up was what she was looking for she could have pursued it that night you came over.
Author Gymking Posted June 10, 2016 Author Posted June 10, 2016 thanks for your input, she keeps mentioning chilling at hers after we do something together, so I definitely think she's wanting something to happen tonight. I best make sure I make my move tonight. Wish me luck lol. Were thinking about going bowling or mini golf then back to hers to "chill" as she says.
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