Richard10012 Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. I rarely go out. Is love over for me? 1
CarrieT Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Not at all... I am a woman now in my 50s. I've only been married for two years so I found marriage very late in life. Many of the men I was dating were in their 40s, 50s, and even older who were just getting around to dating. 6
brothers343 Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Post like these make me laugh becouse there's no such thing as being late to anything. What matters is that you get there. And of course have a good excuse for being late. People find love at different times in their life. And you saying your ugly.......thats just your confidence. Your going to have to change your confidence level becouse some woman can smell that bad odor a mile away. Good luck. 2
oldshirt Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. I rarely go out. Is love over for me? It will be if you spend all your time and energies standing in front of the mirror feeling ugly about yourself. If you get out and do fun and positive things with fun and positive people then every day brings new possibilities. 1
The_Dork_Lard Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Though I now choose to fall in love less often than my younger days (I'm 37 now), my capacity to do so, and the way I do is actually deeper. 1
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 most will never it's never too late, even if a person is past a certain age and hasn't had a relationship yet 2
BlueIris Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. I rarely go out. Is love over for me? Yes, Its possible! I laugh because I'm 56 and I know that love is always possible, so long as YOU can love. Remain open to it. 4
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 This forum is sure full of a lot of guys past their mid-20's who have never had a girlfriend before 1
Satu Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. *I rarely go out. Is love over for me? *It is for sure, if you don't go out and mix with people. - Do things for others - Connect with people - Take care of your body - Notice the world around you - Keep learning new things - Have goals to look forward to - Find ways to bounce back from difficulties - Take a positive approach - Become comfortable with who you are - Be part of something bigger that gives you purpose and meaning in life Take care. 3
ZA Dater Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. I rarely go out. Is love over for me? Realistically I think ones chances diminish. Society wise its fairly common these days for many people to get married by early 30's. Of course everyone here will say "oh its never too late" and that's partially true but I wonder how they suggest to a date that at 29 years of age you have never had a gf, well "don't tell them", great except much the same way people smell desperation and self loathing they also smell inexperience. My suggestion is get out, forget about the mirror, you need to actually try, sitting at home isn't trying unless you are signed up to multiple OLD platforms. I hope it works out for you. 1
ZA Dater Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I think you have a bold choice to make: go outside, or begin amassing your first 10,000 posts on LoveShack. My advice is that the outside world is kind of scary, not to mention unsafe, and to focus on 20-30 posts per day until you really feel at home. Take a deep breath, and think about what you might want from life. You're probably depressed, so don't be afraid to seek help to settle your mood and outlook. Life is more than about finding a girlfriend, and once you have sunk your teeth into that realisation, the girlfriend will come. Focus on being a more interesting person--if not to others, then at least to yourself. I really have teeth on the brain. (Sorry, that was another thread.) Why should one focus on being more interesting to merely placate others if you feel you are interesting enough? Or do you mean try be interested in what everyone else is even if you aren't? As for do ABC and a girl friend will come. Interesting.
Keats Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. I rarely go out. Is love over for me? Not at all. I fell in love at 29 and married at 29. I wasn't great with friends before that neither did I have a relationship ever. Only difference is I spent a lot of time building myself. Your spending time tearing yourself down. So you need to love yourself more. It's a mission. Better than a unverairy degree or a job. Do that and everything else comes in abundance. 1
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 Not at all. I fell in love at 29 and married at 29. I wasn't great with friends before that neither did I have a relationship ever. Only difference is I spent a lot of time building myself. Your spending time tearing yourself down. So you need to love yourself more. It's a mission. Better than a unverairy degree or a job. Do that and everything else comes in abundance. Never had a relationship before age 29?
juniorrocha Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 So you need to love yourself more. This. Dude, hope my story helps you. 3 years ago (and before that) I used to feel like I'm the ugliest guy in the world and that I would never date anyone. I had my first kiss with 21 y/o. Late, right? That happened because I didn't love myself at all. I could not approach any girl, even though there were chances. I didn't care about myself. My first big step was to start therapy, that led me to start working out, what led to me watching myself more often and seeing that I can be attractive too. I started to get nicer clothes, better haircuts, I let my beard grow, and now every single day I see many women attracted to me. I went from "no one would ever want me" to "there are many girls around interested, I can choose". I feel handsome and confident, I don't care if people don't. I feel good with myself and that's what matters afterall. You need to find that for yourself first. If you don't love yourself, who will? 4
MGX Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. I rarely go out. Is love over for me? Nope. I was in your shoes, but I was 30. I joined an online dating chatroom and became a regular there. Eventually, I met someone. And that changed my life for the better. A simple conversation about traffic in Trenton and New York led to a first date. A first date led to a first kiss. A first kiss led to losing my virginity. Losing my virginity led to my first relationship lasting over 3 years. I think you need some wins in your life, so you won't feel as though you are ugly. Everyone in the world could tell you to "think happy thoughts" and "smell the roses", but nothing will help you get over feeling ugly or woman-proof like that ONE victory. It will tell you that you CAN win. In order to do that, I think that you should expose yourself to women and people more. Either in person at various events in your new town OR see about meeting people who are in your town online. Organize something where you guys could get together and discuss or experience common interests. 1
ZA Dater Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 Nope. I was in your shoes, but I was 30. I joined an online dating chatroom and became a regular there. Eventually, I met someone. And that changed my life for the better. A simple conversation about traffic in Trenton and New York led to a first date. A first date led to a first kiss. A first kiss led to losing my virginity. Losing my virginity led to my first relationship lasting over 3 years. I think you need some wins in your life, so you won't feel as though you are ugly. Everyone in the world could tell you to "think happy thoughts" and "smell the roses", but nothing will help you get over feeling ugly or woman-proof like that ONE victory. It will tell you that you CAN win. In order to do that, I think that you should expose yourself to women and people more. Either in person at various events in your new town OR see about meeting people who are in your town online. Organize something where you guys could get together and discuss or experience common interests. I hope the op gets that win..
MGX Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I hope the op gets that win.. That one girl who will give you a chance--a shot, an opportunity is all it takes. My very first relationship lasted three years. Most people are lucky if they can last three weeks.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 That one girl who will give you a chance--a shot, an opportunity is all it takes. My very first relationship lasted three years. Most people are lucky if they can last three weeks. MGX, so your very first girlfriend was at age 30? And you are saying he should give the first girl a shot who is interested in him? Even if he is not really attracted to her?
misspond Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 I am nearly 29, never been in a relationship. Everytime I look in the mirror I feel more ugly. I moved away from the town where I grew up. Lost contact with school friends/ college friends. I still in contact with a few university friends and that is it in terms of friends. I rarely go out. Is love over for me? Not at all. Go out, meet people, be interested in them and see what grows. You don't meet new people by staying in and not talking to people around you.
sooshi Posted June 15, 2016 Posted June 15, 2016 No, it's never too late to love or to fall in love. "With golden string our universe was brought to life, that we may fall in love every time we open up our eyes." ~ Sleeping at Last, "Sun"
MGX Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 MGX, so your very first girlfriend was at age 30? Yes. I used to be very much like the OP. Thought I must be hideous or something, since no one liked me. Every girl I asked out rejected me. Everyone was screwing all around me on campus and even after I graduated. EVERYONE found someone except for me and I felt less than human for it for 12 years. It's like Rogue from the X-Men. LMAO! And you are saying he should give the first girl a shot who is interested in him? Even if he is not really attracted to her? No, I'm saying that one girl who gives OP an honest to goodness opportunity for romance is all it takes to turn his attitude toward himself completely around. But to do this, the OP has to be proactive. Feel good pep talks do nothing. 1
ZA Dater Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 Yes. I used to be very much like the OP. Thought I must be hideous or something, since no one liked me. Every girl I asked out rejected me. Everyone was screwing all around me on campus and even after I graduated. EVERYONE found someone except for me and I felt less than human for it for 12 years. It's like Rogue from the X-Men. LMAO! No, I'm saying that one girl who gives OP an honest to goodness opportunity for romance is all it takes to turn his attitude toward himself completely around. But to do this, the OP has to be proactive. Feel good pep talks do nothing. I can relate to all of that very well! Unlike me I would encourage the OP not to give up but keep looking. 1
Chris2016 Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 I can relate to all of that very well! Unlike me I would encourage the OP not to give up but keep looking. I would encourage all of us who are struggling not to give up. 1
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 I would encourage all of us who are struggling not to give up. Ya obviously much easier said than done
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